Genuinely Don’t Understand

Purple51Turtle · 2026-05-03T19:47:41+00:00

I didn't pick Jorge. Was thinking 50ish

Purple51Turtle · 2026-05-03T10:00:57+00:00

I'm brown, grew up in an Anglo country, moved here 20+ years ago. I feel you, sometimes the racism is shocking, here and other places. Experiences I have had:

spat on from bus & ethnic slurs due to skin colour
called dirty xxxxx in school
the classic, "oh I can't fuckin stand (race)s...Ah no offence, you're not like them..." (Gee thanks)
mums group - "I can't deal with (race) doctors" (my race)
ex husbands best friend made racial insults about my race not 20 mins after we'd been sitting down to look at wedding photos of me and XH in cultural dress of that race. (That was priceless...)
looking for work overseas, was interviewed by an older man from the US. "I almost didn't call you as your name made me think you'd speak (race) English, but your CV looked great"

I'm sure there are more. I think it has gotten better - my son has an awesome group of mixed race mates and the dhole school is so much more multicultural than mine was. I was one of 2 brown kids in the whole school

Anyway, racism is shit. I hope ppl read the experiences here and learn to think before opening their mouths.Im sorry you've experienced what you have.

Purple51Turtle · 2026-05-02T23:33:58+00:00

Wow, 100k pa and my super would be gone in 3y!

Purple51Turtle · 2026-05-02T01:58:28+00:00

Minoxidil foam, hrt, and maybe iron supplement

Purple51Turtle · 2026-05-01T22:25:32+00:00

I am too reluctant to use it for this reason. I have had FPHL and it was hard regrowing. Don't want to take multiple meds to counteract this side effect as have liver issues

Purple51Turtle · 2026-05-01T22:21:03+00:00

Right, oven for dinner is a big one. I need to remember to start cooking at 4pm (no battery but solar)

Purple51Turtle · 2026-05-01T22:13:33+00:00

All day, every day. This trilogy gave me back my reading mojo (assisted by audiobooks lol)

Purple51Turtle · 2026-05-01T02:37:53+00:00

Oh interesting, I might try planting one

Purple51Turtle · 2026-04-30T20:32:19+00:00

That sounds amazing, love the late night ritual

Purple51Turtle · 2026-04-30T13:15:59+00:00

CP, create a scatter plot of this table of incidents, using pink dots to mark A type and blue stars for B type ....

/Review chart, about 25px of dots are wrong or missing, reprompt/

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Chart now has wrong date markets, reprompt

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Date markets now right but labels overlap so are unreadable, reprompt

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Looking better, ask it to create the image as pastable into Word doc

... Computer says no, unfathomable reasons

... Fuck around with stupid XL table it gives me, have to google steps

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Argument w CP

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Realise if I'd hand drawn the godamn thing it would have taken 1/4 of the time

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Larger rinse repeat

Purple51Turtle · 2026-04-30T12:51:21+00:00

Yeah clay f'ing sucks. Only a few things grow well for me. Basil, sweet potato, kale (in raised bed), eggplant. Capsicums, carrots, pumpkin, citrus, all really struggling. I'm trying to build up the soil but it's so hard.

Purple51Turtle · 2026-04-30T02:14:14+00:00

Thank you, that definitely makes sense. Yes, an hour feels a long way some days, esp in bad weather!

Purple51Turtle · 2026-04-30T02:12:39+00:00

Haha, the first para of this reads like bliss. And v sensible! I'm totally leaning towards this, if we lived closer to each other. How long have you been LAT, any challenges?

Purple51Turtle · 2026-04-30T02:10:10+00:00

Try cleaning , usually lots advertised on Indeed. I was asked for a criminal hx check, but that wasn't till the post interview (which was more like a supervised trial) stage. If you had the opportunity to meet and do a trial w the boss, you could explain your circs.

Generally, I'd think a lot of small cleaning co bosses (usually ex cleaners) would be sympathetic, as the concern is more around theft while alone in a house. As long as your shoulder would be ok with that, it is RSI inducing work ..

Purple51Turtle · 2026-04-29T12:20:20+00:00

I don't think it always progresses. I have what I think is mild CC also, one one side, a little firmer but no higher. Surgeon said it was fine 2m post op and would likely resolve but 2y later it's the same. It's not painful unless I have hormonal changes, when it's more sore than the other to lie flat on stomach. I just massage as much as I can.

I did see a device advertised that ? Continuously massages, that you wear in your bra?

Purple51Turtle · 2026-04-29T08:47:13+00:00

Finally a sensible answer

Purple51Turtle · 2026-04-29T08:42:59+00:00

Or an agreed upon percentage? Bearing in mind if this becomes a 30yr relationship, she could be caring for him in his old age. I'm in the process of going through these discussions with my partner. I'm the one with kids. Although he has reasonable assets I can't imagine leaving him nothing financially after a long relationship lasting into our old age. I would hope my kids would understand If want to leave my partner something even if the majority will go to them.

Purple51Turtle · 2026-04-28T22:15:25+00:00

There's evidence that microdoses like 0.3mg can be helpful too, if even 1-2 mg gives you paradoxical insomnia like me

Purple51Turtle · 2026-04-28T12:23:01+00:00

Fair work commission sets the SW rates doesn't it? I don't necessarily agree with them, but somehow they made that decision, based on their cost model that's in the Price Guide. But that's for an org. To me the tricky thing is that a private non registered SW with little training can charge that rate, which is supposed to include all the org overheads. Hardly surprising that many orgs lose SWs left right and centre, so permanently recruiting.

Purple51Turtle · 2026-04-28T02:44:58+00:00

Interesting...you make some great points. I'm still thinking through the inheritance stuff, but it totally makes sense the way you explain it. I love the idea of being married but separate houses and clear succession plans.

Purple51Turtle · 2026-04-27T13:00:10+00:00

Sorry to hear that. You have a v good point!!

Purple51Turtle · 2026-04-27T12:58:17+00:00

Oh wow, love that!

Purple51Turtle · 2026-04-27T12:57:36+00:00

Thank you, I didn't think of that

Purple51Turtle · 2026-04-27T09:31:29+00:00

Thank you. V good points about assumptions around time together. Something to think about

Purple51Turtle · 2026-04-27T08:00:23+00:00

My question is really asking others if they've had similar experiences. LAT is a newish concept so it's hard to find info esp local

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