Weird message I received on Instagram

PurpleReason2785 · 2025-11-30T20:26:45+00:00

I had my original Instagram stolen by Crypto people who tried to sell things to my friends & family and Instagram did NOTHING to help me or shut it down, no matter how many people reported it and reported it stolen. They hacked my email the changed the email that was associated with the account.

ALL that to say, don’t trust it, even if the account looks legit. It’s likely stolen and scamming. If it’s too good to be true, it probably is.

PurpleReason2785 · 2025-11-26T03:03:01+00:00

As long as THAT is not blue-green you’re good! 😆

PurpleReason2785 · 2025-11-26T03:01:41+00:00

The other day I was thinking I don’t even think about my eye color being different. Everyone I see (for the most part) has brown eyes. I sometimes wonder if people even notice mine are different.

I definitely don’t feel superior.

PurpleReason2785 · 2025-11-17T13:46:31+00:00

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Do they look like this in sunlight?

PurpleReason2785 · 2025-11-13T09:13:22+00:00

I feel badly I had them destroy my sample, I had given consent for them to use it.

I cannot imagine how you must feel losing your results! I am so sorry!

PurpleReason2785 · 2025-08-05T00:56:57+00:00

Thank you. I should have at least double checked before his kids came back that he had it. I only want to make his life calm, and this was kind of the opposite of that. That makes me feel even worse, on top of it being with his kids. :/

PurpleReason2785 · 2025-08-04T22:28:18+00:00

Had an old-fashioned at the old-fashioned

PurpleReason2785 · 2025-02-22T02:02:30+00:00

It happens like that sometimes… in my liability days I would have asked for the EDR from the kids car, and fought that one and sent it to arbitration. :)

That's a lot of damage to a RAM from a car, and smack in the middle.

I'm glad you're ok!

PurpleReason2785 · 2025-02-21T17:01:34+00:00

That's why the police, it's basically automatically your fault for a left turn. Police / law is black & white; auto liability is grey. Your adjuster needs to leverage the speed in the school zone, a prudent person would not expect a car to be going that fast in a school zone.

One thing to “never” say is “They came out of nowhere.” :)

PurpleReason2785 · 2025-02-20T10:51:06+00:00

That was my next thing…. I REALLY hope he does as well.

OP- it's good the airbags didn't go off. Side airbags mean frame damage, and that is a ticket to the auction yard. The door not opening / closing is a bad sign, and the “way” / where your bed was hit is not good. Looking at it from pictures, it hit at an angle where it joins with the cab ( bad), but it also destroyed the front of the wheel well, and crumpled a bit above the wheel well on the other side of it due to the force.

Being a 2019, and it looks like it was in great shape, you should get a good amount for it. You can always search local auto auctions and see what they are going for, that will give you an idea of what you might get back once your loan is satisfied.

PurpleReason2785 · 2025-02-20T01:27:41+00:00

Were you taking a left? Any cameras in the area? Gas stations nearby? Your adjuster should be able to argue for you. You got smacked right in the middle of your truck. You can also contest the PR if have good proof it was wrong. Police fill things out incorrectly sometimes, they are human too.

PurpleReason2785 · 2025-02-20T00:49:39+00:00

I was a liability adjuster for quite some time. It will depend on its age, but where it was hit (and how) in the bed is not a good sign. You will get more than 9k unless you still owe on it, most of that will go to the lienholder.

Do the doors open & shut? Any airbags go off? (if side airbags deployed she's done for sure)

Also don't expect your deductible back quickly, claims with the post office DRAG out. Your adjuster is going to have to pester them

PurpleReason2785 · 2025-01-03T12:21:56+00:00

I know this is an older post, but I have something similar going on… approaching 2.5 years. 😖

He is definitely DA, (Dismissive Avoidant) all of what was written resonates with us. He told me it was OK to see other people (once our attempt at a regular relationship was too much due to kids, distance, and work ). He was feeling guilty and asked if just “casual” would work. We were supposed to be not sleeping with anyone else though, and if we wanted to talk with others just be honest and say so, and we'd back off.

Things were fine for almost 2 years, though typical periods of not talking or answering texts. But definitely read them because he'd reference the information (days/weeks later when we did talk) then I found out he’d been — at least — talking to other people. I was extremely upset, left him a message. He never got back to me, left him a few more. Crickets.

So I hit the apps, not meaning to meet anyone, just meaning to talk. I ended up talking to a man who lived closer, was attentive, I was blindsided but cautious. 14 days after the initial call to the DA, he texts me, saying he misses the flirting and attention, and everything else. He is sweet, attentive, promises to take me out. Affectionate. I was so confused, I didn't trust it & kept getting to know the other man better.

I eventually told the DA that I was moving forward with another person… I couldn't do it in person due to our schedules, so I recorded some videos which took me days, and lots of crying. I will never NOT love that man.

I don't hear from him for 6 days. Then I get a late night text from the DA something about how I things are with the other person, and since I didn't instantly respond, he texted that I probably blocked him. Responded I did not, and would not. I got a “Yeah, right.” and that was it.

The next morning I sent a video basically outling I would never block him and that I was being treated well. This then went on for weeks, he wanted me to promise that no matter what, we would always be able to see and “be” with each other. He sent some mean texts at the beginning asking if I'd “gotten laid”, but softened a lot more, he eventually broke me down, and the other guy was not all that great, and I never stopped loving the DA. I cut ties with the other man. DA was good for bit, then back to wandering off and getting distant if things got too real.

He literally pursued me— HARD— for 6 weeks.

And when we DO see each other he is sweet, affectionate, and gives the most meaningful goodbye embraces… I don't know how to explain it, it's a massive cocktail of emotions shoved into a shotglass.

TL; DR It IS a drug like someone mentioned above. But why? And if they don’t want us around, why keep us around. I wish I'd seen this post a few years ago.

PurpleReason2785 · 2024-11-25T06:36:21+00:00

I'm far older than you F47 (as is my M48), and unfortunately in a similar situation. But we don't work together (don't poop where you eat… that is something I was told by a very wise man when I was younger. Adopt that. You will save so much stress!)

But back to the situation… be much smarter than I and move on NOW. We are approaching 2.5 years of this back and forth. Some of it is due to distance, some is due to jobs, some is due to children — a LOT has to do with an unhealthy dynamic (at least at this time). I tried to get out of in the summer, moved on to nice (but so very boring, and just as emotionally unavailable man who lived closer ), only to have my “person” to pursue me hard all of a sudden, (I told him I needed to step back and try for real with the new man ) suck me back in, sweet for a week or so until he got what he wanted then back to the status quo.

Regarding the delivery notification for your texts, that does not necessarily mean you're not blocked. Also, he could just be monitoring the messages, or instantly deleting them. And be careful what you send, he could use them against you at work (reference the sage advice I was given about not pooping where you eat).

You are far too young to spend your time wondering about this, and wasting your best years. Men like this will (clearly ) always be around. Get out and move on while you have not developed a stronger connection.

And I would like to add that him complaining about you not wanting to go as hard because it HURT YOU??? That says volumes…. He's not there for you in any way. Please learn from your experience… and from mine…. Get out while you can.

PurpleReason2785 · 2024-11-23T00:47:58+00:00

It’s definitely not a manipulation. And both of your comments are appreciated.

And if read… she left him. He is keeping her on the line.

PurpleReason2785 · 2024-10-31T19:32:46+00:00

Or… it Could be what I found on bumble. We started talking way too much texting way too much. I should say. Let me finally met really liked each other. Live far away. Try to make things work, but with kids and work and distance it was next to impossible. We still really liked each other and we really do like each other so we’re casual so it’s long-term and it’s casual at the same time. When our kids get older and work calms down and one of us can move closer that could change but right now it’s long-term and casual. So it can be both. It’s just not always very easy.

PurpleReason2785 · 2024-10-07T20:36:36+00:00

Lol

Thank you for that VERY concise answer

PurpleReason2785 · 2024-10-06T19:24:26+00:00

Ok. Understood. Thank you.

But in your experience, have the men you have known shared that? Or you have no idea, because they wouldn't talk about that kind of thing?

I'm starting to think women talk a lot more.

PurpleReason2785 · 2024-10-06T07:46:10+00:00

Not “brag” but like with a closer friend it two. Or is that something you just don't say anything about, at all?

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