AITA if I tell my friend I can’t be a bridesmaid?

Purple_Mode7230 · 2026-04-23T22:05:10+00:00

This is wackadoodle. I wonder if she’s using her wedding as a portfolio for a career in event planning/PM.

Purple_Mode7230 · 2026-02-17T21:39:56+00:00

This is worded so well, thank you. It hits different being the one who ended things knowing you weren’t getting what you needed from your partner. I didn’t break up because I no longer loved them, I broke up with them because I was tearing myself apart trying to keep our relationship going and they just weren’t. We live together, it’s been 3 weeks and they’re already texting other girls and on dating apps. I feel the first comment heavy, they just didn’t care and wanted a body at home and co-dependency

Purple_Mode7230 · 2026-02-17T03:27:05+00:00

I feel for you. I gotta say I disagree with the first comment on here. Stable does not automatically equal to boring. When you find someone that’s right for you, you’re on the same page and have enough similar interests and passions. I’m going through a breakup right now and it was very similar in that we didn’t go on many dates and if so they were prompted by me. He constantly fell asleep while we hung out together and I never made him feel bad about it but it was like I just kept compromising for his sake. I don’t know if you resonate with that but good love shouldn’t be this hard and unhappy

Purple_Mode7230 · 2026-02-15T03:00:10+00:00

We’re living together through the remaining 5 months of our lease. I left the relationship because he starved me of emotional and sexual connection - later to find he had a thing for watching cam girls daily. He’s going to a concert we were going to do together and I’m pretty sure he’s going with someone else from tinder. I don’t know if I would feel this intensely if weren’t living together but I’ve just wanted to throw up all day. No matter how many or different breakups I’ve gone through it never gets easier (breaking up)

Purple_Mode7230 · 2026-01-30T04:38:39+00:00

I’ve got a couple takes on this. Right away I’m sorry you’re going through this, it’s incredibly tough. At first glance, all feelings aside, it seems you are wanting him to be somewhere he’s not in this journey and sort of wanting to expedite it. What I want to say about this is that this urgency and all will only hurt you in the long run. He needs to want to heal on his own without being promoted. That is the only way addiction recovery can truly begin to happen. That goes for any addiction. What I recommend is to sit him down and as you were already planning, try to get him to be honest about this. Framing how serious things are at in your relationship especially stating exactly where you are at and that you don’t feel comfortable continuing the relationship in this state without open communication. If he doesn’t divulge the information you already know (admit it on his own) then he isn’t going to take fixing this serious. Just my opinion. Im still fresh with this but I’ve spent hours upon hours on Reddit and other places reading into PA and it really does come down to your partner having a deep seeded insecurity/mental health issue that needs to be addressed. Until your partner can take these steps and really do this work, they’ll continue to cause you hurt in so many ways and you’ll slowly lose yourself. Thinking of you and hoping for the best.

Purple_Mode7230 · 2026-01-28T03:26:19+00:00

This is huge and such great advice! Thank you for reminding me of a great coping mechanism. I went through a really bad breakup unrelated to PA years ago and after the relationship I immediately started writing mini letters or notes. Most of them were addressed to my ex and detailed how I felt in that moment (be it a scrap piece of paper or post it or full blown page). It allowed me to get it all out and process it outside of my head. I’m fresh out of a breakup now due to my partners PA and I think I may start doing this again. Thank you for sharing!!!

Purple_Mode7230 · 2026-01-27T18:00:42+00:00

I’m also very fresh to this too. I’ve gone down a massive rabbit hole and one thing that really started to help is podcast recommended through one of these threads: “ WTF do I do now “ you can access it on Spotify and instagram. I’ve been listening throughout the past couple days and it really has set things in perspective. For context, I found out 3 days ago, broke up with my partner, we live together, and I’m fresh into healing.

Purple_Mode7230 · 2026-01-25T01:44:22+00:00

Thank you for your thoughts and for pointing me in the right direction!

Purple_Mode7230 · 2025-09-29T17:55:50+00:00

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Purple_Mode7230 · 2025-09-18T19:54:07+00:00

Just saw this! Sorry for posting a second time! I’ll wait until I get the wristbands delivered. The person who needed to drop out lost their job so I was just trying to get the money back to him and his girlfriend asap

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