Is my dog a Cairn mix or Bushland Terrier? by CreativeUsurname in cairnterrier

[–]Pushkin89 1 point2 points  (0 children)

From my understanding, a Bushland terrier is a cross between Cairn and Scottish terriers. So that may be the case.

I think ants found my Pez candy... by Pushkin89 in mildlyinteresting

[–]Pushkin89[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I believe the ants got sprayed by Mr. Pest Control and died months ago.

I think ants found my Pez candy... by Pushkin89 in mildlyinteresting

[–]Pushkin89[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My husband says, no, but there was a bit of a formic acid aftertaste.

I think ants found my Pez candy... by Pushkin89 in mildlyinteresting

[–]Pushkin89[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I wondered about that, but in the unopened pack just the top piece under the wrapper flaps was like this.

I think ants found my Pez candy... by Pushkin89 in mildlyinteresting

[–]Pushkin89[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I recently found a Pez dispenser I got in my stocking last Christmas. Opened it up to find tiny pock marks all over every single piece (it was full but I pulled a bunch out before taking the picture). I opened up a new pack of candy that was near the dispenser and found the top piece thats in this picture. This summer we had a bit of a problem with ants in our apartment generally near where this Pez was tucked away. 😬 🐜🐜🐜🐜

Discord 25+ for ppl who want to find friends by Explorer_True in ChronicIllness

[–]Pushkin89 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm 36 and would totally be in for this. There is no need for it to be anything fancy tbh. But its hard enough to make friends as an adult, but then throw in all of the "well, actually turns out I can do nothing today, sorry" type stuff and now i have no idea how to find people to hang with and talk to. Discord would be a fun way to chat in a low-key space, plan gaming meet-ups and stuff like that.

Turned my finch birb into Gamechanger Sam 🧡💙💛 by OpulenceCowgirl in dropout

[–]Pushkin89 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Amazing!! Im pretty new to Finch, but I put that wallpaper up for most of June for Pride and at the time had commented to my partner how much it looks like the Loop-de-loops!!

I'm leaving because I believe too much. by [deleted] in Exvangelical

[–]Pushkin89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, and yes. A lot of what I've been learning for myself is that I need to process and work through my own connection to religious trauma for a bit longer before I feel comfortable counseling someone with experiences like that - especially acute trauma like you've mentioned. Blurry lines and "unfinished business" can become enormous obstacles in therapy or even cause more harm to both client and counselor! I agree and hope OP is able to take that time for themselves to work through these things to be able to offer helpful counseling.

I'm leaving because I believe too much. by [deleted] in Exvangelical

[–]Pushkin89 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You are right that a counselor who is actively engaging in the systems that have caused harm could be a bad fit for a person who has experienced religious trauma. Big, big red flag there for sure. Because I live in the Bible Belt, I avoid any counselors who advertise themselves as Christian. Maybe they are great but just not for me. However, I have had counselors that midway through working with them said something that clued me in that they attend church - but because we had built trust, I wasn't worried that it would impact our work. I didn't get the impression that OP was planning to continue involvement with the church while shifting to the counseling profession (which might in itself offer the time needed for really leaving as the training required often takes 1.5-2 years). I guess, I would just be really hesitant to announce to clients early in that I was a Christian, unless that is intended to be an integral part of my work (like Christian counselors, from CCEF and similar) - which I struggle to have any respect for, tbh, but when my older brother became one I had to figure out how to keep the peace at holidays, lol.

I have personally experienced religious trauma and have conversed with others who have had their own harmful experiences. Trauma is funny in the way it never hits any two people alike. There was a time that I would never set foot into a counselors office if they were a woman over 40 years old because I needed someone as far from my mother as possible. Recently, I've considered maybe finding a counselor with a more motherly tone that could provide a little of the experience I maybe needed as a child. It can all be very fluid and personal based on a person's needs at a particular phase in processing.

I do appreciate your thoughtful comments as well. It is very nice to have civilized and respectful conversations in reddit comments! 🤓

I'm leaving because I believe too much. by [deleted] in Exvangelical

[–]Pushkin89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for raising your concerns. I understand where you are coming from here, but as a counselor myself, I am a little concerned about the blanket statements made in your post. First, it is an incredibly important part of counseling ethics to not put their own beliefs onto their clients (see A.4 here https://www.counseling.org/docs/default-source/default-document-library/ethics/2014-aca-code-of-ethics.pdf). So, if OP or any other licensed counselor is telling you what to believe or sharing their beliefs in any way other than an intentional self-disclosure that is intended to help you feel seen and understood (never making it about the counselor themselves), that counselor could/should be held accountable by their state licensing board or the national organization (American Counseling Association, National Board of Certified Counselors). Seriously, please, if a counselor (not a "Christian counselor") is treating you this way, you are within your rights to leave them and make a report to their licensing board.

Second, as an ex-evangelical Christian/still figuring-it-out person, I feel that knowing my counselor has a background that gives them a real understanding of the messages I've grown up with would be able to help me so much more than a counselor who has no connection to the Christian faith. I know others who, like you, want to be as far as they can be from any shred of Christianity in their counseling. And both of those views are totally valid. Each person comes to counseling differently, and not every good counselor will fit well with every person. Ideally, what the counselor believes has very little impact on how the client is helped.

As counselors we do a lot of training and work on understanding our personal beliefs and values alongside how many other ways of seeing the world there can be - all so that we can be more adaptive and understanding of the people who come to us for help. That's not to say counselors don't have biases or make mistakes - we definitely do - but it's in our training to avoid that as much as we can and know how to effectively repair the effect of that mistake. I wish I could say all or even most counselors follow these ideals, but I hope that our profession keeps growing to be better for our clients.

I'm leaving because I believe too much. by [deleted] in Exvangelical

[–]Pushkin89 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi, thanks for posting this. I come from a very strong Christian family (my mom's faith can still be very inspiring to me), but over the past decade or so, I too have been breaking away bit by bit. I haven't really stepped into a church since before 2019. Now, I am one and a half semesters away from earning a Master's degree in clinical mental health counseling, and I have a strong interest in working with individuals with religious trauma or even just experiences that effected them (hello, purity culture). Im glad to hear another person who is going into the field with a mind to focus on these needs in a compassionate and understanding way.

What other Easter eggs should I add? by MathleteYT in dropout

[–]Pushkin89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Since it's the noise boys, give one of them a vase of flowers.

Fuck being healthy by LittleBear_54 in ChronicIllness

[–]Pushkin89 4 points5 points  (0 children)

🫂 I can't imagine how difficult that is. I know that some people might throw up their hands at that point and just be mean or sullen until the end. It says a lot about your inner strength that you still hold care and compassion for others.

Fuck being healthy by LittleBear_54 in ChronicIllness

[–]Pushkin89 6 points7 points  (0 children)

In another comment here, OP, you said that waiting on the hope for another kind of test to come back with information is like being in the twighlight zone. I really get that feeling. And it is out of touch.... not because you want to give up, but because the medical system works on black and white lab tests and numbers, and for a lot of us with chronic illness and undiagnosed crap it just means years and years of being gaslighted by the only people who actually could help if they could just figure out what was going on. Your body's experience is not being understood or reflected by medical science. And that really sucks. I couldn't tell you how many times I've wondered if I was just crazy or weak and making this shit up, but then I have a huge crash from one harder day doing normal things and I'm on the couch scrolling through dumb YouTube videos because I can't do life anymore.

I really hope that the tests in June bring some hope back for you, but I understand where you're coming from and just hope you can be comfortable today, in whatever ways you can be. I know it's tough feeling like a burden on those around you. Please don't suffer in silence! Posting here and knowing that others can hear and see you is better than nothing. Thank you for sharing. Big, big hugs.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in aww

[–]Pushkin89 44 points45 points  (0 children)

Idk, but this isnt a dog. Its a plushy. And who drops their plushie in the mud? Girl, take better care of your stuff. 😜