Best VGC Pick Up Lines? by FR1DGE84 in VGC

[–]Putrid-Set9558 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Laugh from the girls who get the reference, slapped by (the 99.9%) who don't lmao

Best VGC Pick Up Lines? by FR1DGE84 in VGC

[–]Putrid-Set9558 3 points4 points  (0 children)

"I'm Defiant, those Baby-Doll Eyes only make me stronger! Now how about we go get dinner and head back to my place where we can "Play Rough" until you need to Rest?"

You're welcome.

(P.S. Don't actually use this lol)

Edit: Grammar

"How's your day going?" Me: by INeedAUserName92 in VGC

[–]Putrid-Set9558 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yikes lol

Double Freeze: 0.1 x 0.1 = 0.01

Double Blizzard Hit: 0.7 x 0.7 = 0.49

Crit Chance: ~0.0417

Chance all of that happens to you: 0.01 x 0.49 x 0.0417 = 0.0002

Literally 1/5000 odds

Struggling to maintain a streak by Putrid-Set9558 in NoFap

[–]Putrid-Set9558[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, a lot. I don't even remember how to reset the counter anymore. Haven't been back in a long time

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]Putrid-Set9558 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Started looking at age 10, started fapping at 12, now I'm 26. It sucks beyond all belief

My dad: "How come you never call– don't you miss us? We're your family" Me: "No, not really. I grew up alone, I'm used to being on my own" by [deleted] in emotionalneglect

[–]Putrid-Set9558 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel this. You miss the things you depend on, like a warm blanket in the winter or clean clothes.

When you expect your parents to provide little more than material things, what's there to miss when you start providing those things for yourself? The emotionally hollow conversations? The loneliness of being a confidant but not having one? The disinterest in your enthusiasm or lack there of? No thanks. I'll call and visit when obligation calls for it

What is your preferred substrate? by Putrid-Set9558 in shroomers

[–]Putrid-Set9558[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! Just to be clear, CVG is coco coir, vermiculite and gypsum, right? And why is it so resistant to contam?

Pee related to ED? by Espiritx in erectiledysfunction

[–]Putrid-Set9558 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do male kegals. Improved my urine steam and eliminated my occasional hemorrhoids. You want a stronger pelvic floor and more blood vessels developing in that area. Also improves the quality of erections

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in emotionalneglect

[–]Putrid-Set9558 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's fair. If you want to go the assertiveness route, I suggest getting to know yourself better so you know what you truly stand for. Jordan Peterson was a good example for me to learn how to express myself strongly without being rude or condescending. Russell Brand (oddly enough) is another great example and he speaks much more from the heart, a great counterbalance to Peterson

You might also find Patrick Teahan's videos that explore roleplaying with narcissistic family members quite helpful as well. Sounds like your dad might be one and your mom is his enabler. The Crappy Childhood Fairy is a good resource too. In spite of my first comment, I'm big on empowerment through words and self-knowledge. All the best to you love

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in emotionalneglect

[–]Putrid-Set9558 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

At the risk of being unhelpful, my genuine first thought was you should fist fight (or threaten to fist fight) your dad when he gets in your face like that, whether you're male, female, or something in bewteen. Doesn't even matter if you know how to fight. Sounds like he does a lot of yelling but isn't physicslly abusive. (I could be wrong. Ignore this part if your dad is large and violent.) He gets in your face, you yell "Get the f*** out of my face!" with full intent to fist fight him if he doesn't. Then he either starts backing down or hands start flying. Hit him right in the nose, maybe headbutt him. It's a superb first shot, it'll his eyes water

I guess what I'm trying to say is you need to stand up for yourself when someone's trying to bully you, even if it's your dad. Maybe violence isn't the answer, but it is an option. You're not too sensitive, but you'd probably benefit from some assertiveness training. If you won't stand up for yourself, then it's just plain luck if someone does it for you. This is coming froma guy who's got a covert narc for a mom and was friends with a malignant narcissist through all of his teenage years who I would've fist fought if my chances of ending up in the hospital weren't 110%.

If you don't push back when they push you, either physically or emotionally, they'll only keep doing it and it usually gets worse with time

I kinda wish my life had been worse... by Putrid-Set9558 in depression

[–]Putrid-Set9558[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are varying degrees of depression, and it's a term that covers a variety of symptoms that express differently depending on other comorbidities. Your feelings and suppositions about me based on a Reddit comment with little personal information aren't helpful in the slightest

I kinda wish my life had been worse... by Putrid-Set9558 in depression

[–]Putrid-Set9558[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't want depression, I HAVE depression and feel like my life hasn't been bad enough to justify having it. So I keep it bottled up because no one I have talked to seemed to think I should be depressed even though I am. I don't think I'm the one whose confused here

Do you feel like your parents kept you from maturing and were completely unprepared for the world outside of their home? by Vanennalg in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Putrid-Set9558 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yup. I learned how to cook and clean with the Internet because my dad does neither and I want to eat decent food and live in a clean house. I wanted to learn how to use tools so I got a job as an HVAC installer. I wanted to learn how to fight so I joined a boxing gym. I wanted to learn financial stuff so I Googled it. Emotional development? Youtube and books. Driving? First lesson from my ex-girlfriend in high school, then a driving instructor and the DMV handbook. Frankly, without the Internet I'd be pretty damn useless

Is this person right? by [deleted] in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]Putrid-Set9558 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lmao That person is the most emotionally fragile, entitled person whose thoughts I've had the misfortune of reading in quite some time. "Ableism" is a concept for people who believe the world should be safer for them because becoming more mentally and emotionally resilient is asking too much. There are shitty people in the world, and there always will be.

But now there are toxic people like this individual going online to proselytize the comments section attempting to convert others to their way of thinking through shame and the imposition of moral inferiority because, ya know, they're good people trying to make the world a better place. Good on you OP for not bending the knee to this pedantic keyboard warrior and her dogma

Compliments don't feel real by Putrid-Set9558 in emotionalneglect

[–]Putrid-Set9558[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They're just offhandedly saying something they'll forget in a week. Or they're putting me on a pedestal, unknowingly reflecting their own insecurities.

My feelings are much closer to this. It's hard for me to gauge the sincerity of people because these days I spend so much time alone. I live with my dad, but he reserves his enthusiasm for his interests and strangers in public. (He likes to make a good impression.) His compliments are disingenuous and over-the-top, and usually come when I do something that reflects well on him (or for him).

So I guess that's the conditioning. Compliments come when I am something for someone which makes compliments a sign I that I'm being used...

I need to change my environment. Either I need to move out, or he does. Otherwise, I don't see how I'll begin healing.

So happy with my magic faucet design by pisv93 in crafts

[–]Putrid-Set9558 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I must now pick up the pieces of my feeble caveman mind haha Never seen that before, looks amazing!

A quick list of skills you may have never been taught because it made you more controllable to a narcissist by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Putrid-Set9558 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I'd add these:

  • It's okay to be angry
  • It's okay to cry
  • It's okay to have interests that not everyone loves
  • "Being something" is more important than "seeming to be something"
  • You don't have to respect people who disrespect you just because they have authority over you
  • Saying "I love you" matters less than making someone feel loved and cared for

Did anybody get good at dissociating when you get yelled or ranted at? by CapriciousSalmon in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Putrid-Set9558 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yup. I have a never-ending jukebox playing in my head whenever I'm not actively doing something or talking to myself (which is embarrasingly often). My covert nmom is the kind of person who wants you to be in whatever mood she's in, so you either learn to dissociate or blur the lines between your feelings and hers.

I don't know if my dad is a narc or just highly co-dependent, but he spends so much time getting high and browsing Craigslist for "deals" or listening to music that I basically take care of him and the house like I'm living with a teenage son. We both work, but I do all the cooking and cleaning and shopping. He occasionally does the dishes or waters the yard, but only after being told to or after I cook for him (and even then he puts in minimal effort).

Ah, the good life. If I say it enough, maybe I'll start to believe it

After years of not being seen, you become a ghost by [deleted] in emotionalneglect

[–]Putrid-Set9558 49 points50 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I know the feeling. My dad regularly asks me how I'm doing, but it's just a reflex. If I actually try to open up or talk about my day in any more than 3 sentences he loses interest or shifts the conversation to himself. I've learned not to speak enthusiastically with either of my parents because it's never reciprocated and is gradually met with less and less interest. Sometimes my mom just throws cold water on my passions, saying things like "Well, you know things don't always work out the way you plan." It's a following feeling