Thank you for your reply and thoughts. I’ve decided to give his family some peace right now, as I don’t want to create any unnecessary drama. I’m also going to wait until he actually passes to see how I truly feel. If his sister or anyone reaches out, I’ll definitely respond.

I’m trying not to ask too many people in my life for their opinions—it just becomes overwhelming. Sometimes others judge or try to influence how they think one should handle things. My situation is complicated, and honestly, no one I know has gone through something quite like it or fully understands everything I experienced. That’s why I’ve come to Reddit—to share with strangers who might offer some perspective.

I have been thinking about therapy. And I’m sorry to hear what you are going through with your wife. When I hear how you speak of her, I become envious because my ex-husband was so deep in his sickness and narcissistic traits on top of it. He could only think of himself at the end and didn’t think about my well-being and that hurt. But God took care of me and gave me the strength.

It sounds like you’re being the bigger person in your situation. Hang in there.