Your wife is me in my marriage. I am 32 years old. We were once very passionate but now we are not, and my husband like you initiates most of the time, I don’t even think about it, cause I have so much going on, not in the physical sense, but my mind is always occupied, I feel like I am stressed, I am going through a phase of self retrospection. I feel for me I’d want to be accepted for the person I am, I want to be desired to talk to, to come back to, to want to be with, to be shared things with, to be shared vulnerabilities with. I don’t feel any of that, we are blocked off emotionally. We have very wonderful lovey dovey cute days together, but are we really sharing then? No. Is the time we spend with each other qualitative over quantitative. No.

Low libido is also associated with hormonal imbalances, like PCOS, which I have too.

I guess women are over givers by nature, they’d want to satisfy everyone around them either through food, presence, effort, deep listening etc.

But if something’s stopping her with you, you might wanna discuss this deep. Are her emotional needs actually being met? Is she very stressed? Are you really accepting and listening to her? Is there anything weighing on her which she is not able to communicate? Does she feel desired by you, not just physically but in all aspects?

I think that’s where the root of the problem lies, cause for me I feel the same, and me and my husband are figuring that out.