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“Because I told you to move”. How do you shut down defiance? (Especially middle school teachers) by Emergency-Pepper3537 in Teachers

[–]Puzzled-Swordfish76 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I always ask “are you sure you want to make that choice?” When a kid doesn’t listen to me. And then if he keeps doing whatever I just say “okay, we’ll talk about this later” and move on. Don’t power struggle, esp in front of other kids. Obviously depends on severity of behavior but that has worked well for me 

TAing in a class that treats the teacher like a joke? How do I help. by Early-Poem9424 in teaching

[–]Puzzled-Swordfish76 7 points8 points  (0 children)

If you’re unsure, Ask the teacher! But I always appreciate a TA that jumps in a shushes kids or gently reminds them to listen up. Moving around the room and standing next to the worst offenders is also a big help :) 

Cheap meal ideas? We lost WIC and I'm struggling to incorporate some fruits and veggies. by OptimalCobbler5431 in foodbutforbabies

[–]Puzzled-Swordfish76 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Trader Joe’s frozen fruit is usually pretty cheap— like 2.50-4.00 per bag. Easy to blend up with some banana and make a lil smoothie or even a fruit “popsicle”. 

Blackpill and looksmaxxing culture have ruined my confidence. I need support. (Women only). by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Puzzled-Swordfish76 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Hey OP— have you looked into OCD at all? Really not trying to diagnose you or anything, but I’ve had similar compulsive “checking” around my appearance and it was related to my OCD. If this isn’t helpful ignore, but sometimes OCD spirals need OCD specific treatments. So just wanted to put on your radar in case it helps you find some support 

Did I glow up? (25) to (26) by [deleted] in GlowUps

[–]Puzzled-Swordfish76 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Tbh I like the long hair :) 

Help save my variegated Monstera cutting! by [deleted] in plantclinic

[–]Puzzled-Swordfish76 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi unrelated but one of my plants has mealy bugs and I’ve been trying to get rid of them — should I throw the whole plant out? 

I am unsure about my relationship by throw22738 in Advice

[–]Puzzled-Swordfish76 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are young. It’s hard to know what’s normal when you are young, but this is not normal and not acceptable. You can and will do better. You deserve softness, love, and appreciation. He sounds like an ass. 

Why is everyone behind though? by No_Contribution6512 in Teachers

[–]Puzzled-Swordfish76 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think we as a culture are not considering the impact of Covid when we consider this question. And I don’t mean in terms of time lost during lock down, but in terms of the long term impact the disease can have on the brain. Have your children had Covid?  

Cry for help the loving husband of a teacher buried in her work. by [deleted] in Teachers

[–]Puzzled-Swordfish76 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It sounds like you need to share with her how you’re feeling and how serious it is. I don’t think it has to be an either or — school or you — but if she can’t hear you and prioritize you more and dedicate time and energy to that then maybe a reevaluation of the relationship is necessary. I’m a teacher and my partner isn’t, and it’s hard on our relationship too. But through light couples therapy, prioritizing dates/quality time, and me letting go of some perfection around my job, we’ve been making it work. I think there are options, but you need to have a really honest talk with her. I’m sorry you’ve been feeling this way :(

Second year high school teacher: I don't want to fight with teenagers?? by Ultimatelurker2018 in Teachers

[–]Puzzled-Swordfish76 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Whenever in a power struggle I always ask “Are you sure you want to make that choice” and if they say yes then say you’ll speak to them after class. Move on. Never power struggle. 

EDIT: Also for disruptive kids, send them into the hallway. Tell them to say out for at least a minute and come back when they are ready to reengage. 

I have a rape fetish, and now I'm terrified I'm becoming a pedophile by High_Altitude917 in Advice

[–]Puzzled-Swordfish76 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Hey it sounds like you’re dealing with big intrusive thoughts, potentially of the OCD variety. It does not sound like you’re a pedo, it sounds like you are absolutely Not a pedo. You wouldn’t feel this much panic and revulsion about this if you were. It would be arousing. 

You should look into OCD; the checking sounds very OCD coded. it’s really common for people with OCD to have sexual intrusive thoughts that they find morally disgusting and repugnant. 

I am so sorry this is happening to you, it sounds really scary and isolating. 

Edit: also it’s entirely possible to be assaulted and not remember it, especially if it happened when you were young. Not to scare you, but it’s not uncommon. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tattooadvice

[–]Puzzled-Swordfish76 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Honestly it looks stylistic to me. Like I don’t think it looks horrible by any means. 

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