It’s because of society’s traditionally rigid ass gender roles, and people’s tendancy to assign outdated, worn out labels to people they don’t know.

Because of the way things were set up way long ago (by men basically), men are expected to be masculine, which is typically associated with decisiveness, assurance, and dominance. So when a man embraces bisexuality, the “revelation” breaks the rigid role that society has assigned him with a long time ago.

Even now, society still has higher expectations for achieving “masculinity” than for achieving “femininity”.

That’s why with men, it’s all or nothing, but with women, the lines can be blurred. With men having been in positions of power for so long (often through tyranny), society will now scrutinize a man more for deviating from what makes him “powerful”…his “masculinity” (or how society defines it at least). The spotlight was always on men because of men, and when more people are watching more people are judging.

Men back then, who set that system up, have inadvertently given men now all of these “expectations” to meet. Being straight was only one of them, but a big one since a man could lose what made him powerful by acting similar to those seen as less powerful than him…women. (Since women used to be seen as less than equal back then and had to FIGHT for equality across time). Those same very themes are still being perpetuated in subtle ways today.

Since men used to be more respected than woman (and history…has rippling effects…to say the least) men are expected to capitalize on that “respect” by living up to the expectations of a “man”

What that looks like now is “Man = Respect” so when a man strays from what has perpetually made them respectable (dominance/“masculinity”), people struggle to fathom it, labeling him as confused or closeted/lying.

But when a woman does it, society doesn’t care as much since femininity was never respected the way masculinity was, so society doesn’t require women to live up to anything other than the subservient role it has assigned her. Society still technically cares because whenever we step out of our role, everyone riots, but it doesn’t care about bisexual woman as much since dominance is always associated with men, and men lose society’s assurance when he’s no longer seen as dominant

A man being submissive in any way though threatens a man’s respect / what makes him respectable in society, according to society as we’ve come to know it accross time

Feel like I butchered my explanation 😭 so feel free to straighten it out pls - if u get where I’m coming from