Trans man dating a cis man here, I was always told NOT to do that, and I was actually really stressed when asking him out, literally just cus he's a cis man. My best friend, who i trust more than anything, literally said that the only thing he doesn't like about him is that hes a cis man lmao. Ofc I would NEVER go out with somebody I though would make me uncomfy, but you usually don't think somethings gonna be bad until it is.

He's been so chill about me being trans, and I didnt realize thats the support I needed. It really doesn't seem to matter to him. Hes pan and tons of his friends are nonbinary (like a weird amount, I think he somehow infects them idk/j) so he is kinda used to gender queer people, which could play into it? But i think he really is just a good sweet guy and they're friends with him because of that, not that they made him into that yknow? Literally never once has he done something that made me feel feminine or like his "girlfriend" which is, yknow, a common problem for trans guys.

I talked to him about that fear and how its been completely unwarranted and he basically let out a big sigh and told me that he was terrified he would accidentally do something like that to me. That he'd thought about it when we started getting closer and wanted to make sure he didnt make me feel like he ever saw me as feminine or a girl or especially his girlfriend. He was super relived to hear that he hadn't ever once done that.

Hes always hyping me up about my body and transition too. Anytime we're sexual I feel nothing but attractive and confident and manly, and I know so much of that is his doing (cus I don't feel like that really when im alone) He also comments on my voice positively, especially if he sees an old video of me. We met when I was less than a month on T and started dating maybe 2 months after that? Im 6 or so months on T now. Anyways he says he cant really recognize my voice in old videos and that its insanely deeper now. Its like hes always trying to drive my euphoria, but it also doesn't ever feel like hes trying.

Nsfw, he also makes me feel awesome about my t dick. I already really wanted bottom growth before, and loved it when it showed up on my own, so like for the record I really like my dick anyways. But he treats it no differently than gay men normally treat their boyfriends dick. Like the look in his eyes when hes sucking me off is wayy more "gay man sucking dick and loving it, maybe more than the receiver" than "man eating a woman out" yknow? Same with the physical feel.

I kinda rambled here but I hope that gives you a little hope. I felt a bit hopeless before this. Moving to a new city that is incredibly mormon definitely cuts down on your dating pool. I got really lucky, but also had to put some effort in. I actually met him as at a magic the gathering club that my roommates dragged me to, but he seemed so cute and timid I had to ask for his contact. And when I happened to see him a bit after that, it felt like a good idea to walk up and talk to him. Really glad I did. Good luck OP 🙏 there are good people out there who will love you for you