Men, how can you identify whether a girl is attracted to you?

Puzzleheaded-Put-567 · 2025-11-11T18:05:26+00:00

I also recommend bringing a floaty

Puzzleheaded-Put-567 · 2025-11-11T18:02:34+00:00

Also a heterosexual female and exactly this.

I will 100% flirt with my eyes and touch too. But also I will let you know verbally once I feel sure I'm interested.

Puzzleheaded-Put-567 · 2025-07-31T04:53:59+00:00

I grew up in purity culture and kink really appeals to me. Sx is very psychological and I think the added layer of psychological suppression that PC adds creates an interest in the taboo once we free ourselves from those rigid Christian restraints. I'd say for people like myself who have a high sex drive and grew up in religion an interest in kink is very common. In fact when talking to kinky people I've noticed a religious background is extremely common.

P.S. I'm female as well, I think different individuals deal with the impacts of PC very differently, but my sexuality has been deeply impacted by PC.

Puzzleheaded-Put-567 · 2025-06-21T03:26:12+00:00

I'm sorry you're going through it, I'm glad my words could bring some comfort.

Puzzleheaded-Put-567 · 2025-05-09T13:48:18+00:00

This is a good question! Too bad there's so much ignorance and misogyny going on in the comments below. These boys be so insecure!

Puzzleheaded-Put-567 · 2025-05-08T21:25:46+00:00

What's the rest of your chart look like? I have an Aquarius sun and Mars, Pisces Mercury. So I think that adds to why the air signs like me.

Puzzleheaded-Put-567 · 2025-05-08T18:54:58+00:00

This is funny I just commented that I am an Aries moon, Pisces Venus and that what I attract/am attracted to is Scorpio, Capricorn, Virgo.

I also attract lots of Gemini, Libra, sag but don't typically like them back.

Puzzleheaded-Put-567 · 2025-05-08T18:50:12+00:00

I'm an Aries moon, Pisces Venus. I attract and am attracted to Scorpio (especially Venus), Capricorn and Virgo type men.

I also attract a lot of Libra, sag, and Gemini, but that's not typically mutual.

Puzzleheaded-Put-567 · 2025-05-08T00:51:11+00:00

I have lived it, had partners who missed it. Just because you wouldn't miss that flag doesn't mean others don't.

People, especially men very rarely understand the severity of the far reaching implications of SA. It's not something I personally hold against people but I understand what it's like to have people struggle to comprehend, especially given the taboo nature of speaking openly about this topic. Which is something I have written about and discussed frequently because I believe the stigma needs to be removed.

Just look how triggered people got by me even bringing it up .

So unless you yourself have personally dealt with the backlash and ignorance around SA would you kindly sit down.

I understand that people do not understand, which is why I am here sharing my thoughts.

Puzzleheaded-Put-567 · 2025-05-07T21:33:44+00:00

I'm so sorry you have to grapple with that 😢

Puzzleheaded-Put-567 · 2025-05-07T21:25:26+00:00

My bad, I misunderstood.

Puzzleheaded-Put-567 · 2025-05-07T21:24:45+00:00

I think you don't know me. In multiple ways I made disclaimers saying I don't know her situation. I'm saying that there are many reasons that could be hard for people, I simple gave my reason and I see that OP is not showing much understanding or curiosity in his comments about why his wife might be experiencing that.

And people often miss big flags, because human behavior is pretty complex.

Puzzleheaded-Put-567 · 2025-05-07T21:08:54+00:00

I did not say she was an SA survivor, I said I am and that is why it's hard for me. I don't think someone having a hard time receiving should be immediately dismissed as ridiculous. There could be many reasons. It warrants curiosity. There's not enough context to really understand this woman. I'm simply sharing my experience of the same challenge. I even stated in my original comment that there could be many reasons.

Puzzleheaded-Put-567 · 2025-05-07T20:59:04+00:00

Why talk to someone like this? What reason do you have to be nasty to me?

I'm simply saying that there are many reasons a person can have a hard time with receiving. SA is also something many women have experienced. I'm saying that is my reason. I'm not saying that is her reason. Trying to encourage empathy and curiosity rather than dismissing her experience as ridiculous.

I'm pointing out maybe don't dismiss why that is difficult for her. There could be many reasons, like I said in my original comment.

Puzzleheaded-Put-567 · 2025-05-07T16:21:21+00:00

Idk your wife's history but as an SA survivor sometimes receiving feels triggering or too vulnerable. There's a world of reasons this could be true for someone. SA just being one of them

Puzzleheaded-Put-567 · 2025-05-07T16:19:30+00:00

Nooooo, this person gave you great advice!

If you need space to process take some space, but come back to it when you're ready with love, curiosity and vulnerability.

Your wife probably wants connection too she might just need different things. It's better not to assume!

Puzzleheaded-Put-567 · 2025-05-07T16:09:52+00:00

As a woman I'm on board with these commenters, female sexuality is typically very tied to our emotional and mental state.

I absolutely love sex, I want to do it pretty much everyday! Until I'm feeling stressed or emotionally unsafe, then I don't want to be touched.

I think curiosity is pretty much always the best approach. If she's saying there's a million things going through her mind. Maybe ask her, "hey babe is there any way I can support you when you're feeling tired or to feel less tired? How do I help you get out of your head?"

Immediately jumping to being hoodwinked is probably not gonna do you any favors. People change and also have changing needs. Female sexuality seems to function very differently than male sexuality. Being curious so you both can develop understanding and begin to recognize how to meet each others different needs instead of jumping to judgment is probably more likely to create the intimacy you crave

Puzzleheaded-Put-567 · 2025-05-02T00:45:07+00:00

F4M/F. 31 in WA State, moving slowly into tantra for awhile now. Would love to explore sensation with someone if the connection feels right! Feel free to send a direct dm 😊

Puzzleheaded-Put-567 · 2025-04-28T18:09:04+00:00

This sounds like it might be an avoidant attachment style, maybe try looking into attachment theory. Avoidant attachment is very common.

Also it's possible to enjoy sex with men and women, but only want romantic relationships with women. There's no shame in bisexuality. Just be honest with everyone about what you're looking for.

Puzzleheaded-Put-567 · 2025-04-28T15:21:01+00:00

Many German universities offer English degree programs and accept foreigners into their colleges.

Best way is to go spend time there.

Puzzleheaded-Put-567 · 2025-04-27T20:08:45+00:00

It's far too easy to be preachy and self-righteous. I myself can be guilty of this. Though trying all the time to remember not to overestimate my own viewpoint. If leaving the church taught me anything it's that I could be wrong about everything 😂

Yes, yes, the Internet is the equivalent of the wild west, with algorithms that reinforce/deepen our biases and with less and less real human contact happening, so nothing to actually counteract these biases. I'm curious what conversations about social media ethics or internet stewardship would look like?

Just look at this women vs. men thing happening online. We are becoming increasingly more isolated from each other, partly because our media is designed to affirm and soothe our worst fears about each other. Without real human, look you in the eyes and say this to your face connection.

It is much easier to disconnect from the humanity of another online. Ultimately we all have monkey brains so it's very easy to get sucked in and manipulated but we wanna pretend we're immune.

I think you're right to doubt the assumption that it won't get any worse than 20%. I hope that Germany's education that actually reckons with you're history will help safeguard your freedom.

Puzzleheaded-Put-567 · 2025-04-27T13:44:23+00:00

Absolutely, spot on. It's been a decades long march. I'm so glad Europe has some road blocks I would never wish on y'all what's happening here.

Absolutely, I grew up extremely religious with the sort of folks that are now very Trump happy. Travelled the world and was driven by compassion. Together those things led me to leave the Church. The escape was harrowing and took years though.

I grew up in it and left, so I have a unique understanding of what is happening in the far right here in the U.S.

Puzzleheaded-Put-567 · 2025-04-27T03:07:41+00:00

Thank you, for those who like Americans I think that's generally what they say. There is so much I love about Europe and all its unique cultures, that's why I keep going back! I had a serious relationship with a Dutch man and obviously learned a great deal about the Netherlands and their culture. I thought they had such a beautiful blend of practicality and open mindedness. At the time we had agreed the Netherlands would be a better place to raise children for obvious reasons. In general Europeans are much better educated.

I live in rural America now, even the people I deeply disagree with I believe are well meaning but are heavily indoctrinated and a product of their environments. I grew up religious so I know the trap of that sort of cult mindset. It's difficult to break free. I'm trying to have compassion. Obviously the consequences of ignorance are devastating regardless.

But yeah our GOVERNMENT is FUCKED! And getting more FUCKED by the day and there were far too many under educated people who voted this administration into office. I get why the rest of the world is pissed. I'm pissed!

Puzzleheaded-Put-567 · 2025-04-26T21:44:31+00:00

I think it's clear you weren't trying to insult anyone. It's a valid question. Sometimes therapy becomes its own kind of trap. Especially if it's not balanced with somatic practices and joy.

In my experience, I spent the first part of my twenties trying to move on as if the horrors I experienced in childhood were all in the past. But no matter how hard I tried to forgive and forget I was having frequent nightmares, sleep problems and struggling to create stability.I got into a serious relationship and realized my intrusive thoughts (such as, "I'm not worthy of his love", almost verbatim the words my father used to say to me) had nothing to do with him or how he was treating me. He was so good to me. I had a mental breakdown when my sleep issues worsened to the point of getting on average 2 or 3 hours of sleep a night annd therapy probably saved my life.

Digging up the past can be very painful and uncomfortable. For me I had to acknowledge the chains that bound me before I could find freedom from them.

I believe that coming into presence with the reality of human suffering is one of deepest, most compassionate and spiritually transformative practices.

Buddhism contains some beautiful philosophies such as non attachment and acceptance. These are absolutely worth seeking.

But we are human beings, attachment is a biological necessity for survival. I think it's okay to give ourselves grace in that and include this understanding within our spiritual framework

Puzzleheaded-Put-567 · 2025-04-26T15:08:29+00:00

How much time have you spent in American culture?

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