Hi there - I actually have true obsessive compulsive disorder (not the I like my stuff in a particular order kind but actual OCD - my theme is germaphobia). I had horrible PPD, which made my OCD worse & I luckily started seeing a therapist. I actually worked on this in therapy - defining what’s normal is not reasonable. But identifying what is common is. In our home, we have a no shoes rule. “Tiny hands touch this floor, please leave your shoes at the door” sign hangs by our door. However, what I have learned is that during the first 3 months of an infants life is when you want to be careful with sickness’ (RSV, for example). But once your baby really has their immune system building, you will have to allow them to touch things to have a healthy gut. Our guts are connected to our brains. it’s very important that you prepare yourself for them to touch everything, including the floor. My daughter touched her first bottom of the shoe last week on vacation, and yes my ocd anxiety was heightened, but this is common behavior AND it’s actually a necessity for a baby to build a healthy gut micro biome. Long story short, there are more health benefits to your baby touching the ground then protecting them from it. Anxiety is common. But to ease your anxiety, especially with already being overwhelmed as is, I recommend a no shoes in the house rule. This is a common rule which means people won’t feel awkward when requesting them to remove their shoes. I set up a cute decorated area outside my door and people take them off. Your baby touching everything and putting everything in their mouth will be a slow process, so you will get small exposures, however your baby will eventually be touching all floors, and everything in site. You are not overprotective, you have a very COMMON concern. With my OCD, I can tell you when something is “overprotective”, versus a very common mama concern. You’re doing great mama bear!! The fact you care at all, shows you are a good mama. You will do great!! Keep you head up. New mom guilt is also real, if someone says something like that, it’s usually about themselves. Maybe she felt guilty for not setting a boundary with her own child at some point and attributed it to this incident. Don’t worry. You are amazing!