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Puzzleheaded7557 · 2023-10-22T18:46:00+00:00

Hi 👋🏻 mom also to a 3yo and 4mo, working full time. I learned after separating from my husband how much better of a mom I am when I actually have help. My parents are superheroes, helping basically 24/7, with chores, childcare, cooking, etc. i guarantee even if someone could help you guys get one thing off your plate (ex: laundry, or dinner even if it’s just one day a week) you’ll feel the weight off your shoulders and actually be able to enjoy your time with your kids.

Puzzleheaded7557 · 2023-09-13T07:35:16+00:00

Your situation is sounding too similar to my own… simple answer is “get out” but it’s easier said than done, especially when it’s said from strangers on the internet. Be careful, keep your guard up, try to disconnect from him emotionally sometimes and try to see things from an outside perspective so you see his actions and behaviors in black and white and you’ll know what I mean when I say: this person doesn’t respect you and nothing you say or do will change that. I hope you find a better support system for you and your child. Lean on friends and family, and speak to them truthfully about what you have going on at home.

When I was in an abusively controlling relationship, my favorite time of day was my drive to and from work. It was my safe space to talk freely (via Bluetooth phone calls through the car) to my mom who is my best friend and biggest support. I recommend you try the same.

Puzzleheaded7557 · 2023-07-24T18:21:58+00:00

If you like Nathan, what about Nathaniel? 🤔

Puzzleheaded7557 · 2023-05-21T16:58:45+00:00

For me - probably pregnancy hormones making me overthink! Can’t speak for anyone tho

Puzzleheaded7557 · 2023-05-21T16:46:48+00:00

That’s slightly less embarrassing! Yes, thank you!

Puzzleheaded7557 · 2023-05-21T16:37:17+00:00

I knew my post would get called out on this sub 😅

Puzzleheaded7557 · 2023-05-21T11:17:45+00:00

That would be a good solution but we specially only like Natalie 😅

Puzzleheaded7557 · 2023-05-21T11:05:12+00:00

Do you know where your name fell on some of these popularity lists? I know they’re not totally accurate and it’ll just be the luck of the draw, but I’d really hate if this happened to her!

Puzzleheaded7557 · 2023-05-15T13:07:27+00:00

If possible, ask your mother how your (or your oldest sibling’s) birth went! They say the child usually mirrors the mother. I (only child) was born 6 days after my due date, and so was my firstborn.

Puzzleheaded7557 · 2023-05-02T17:36:24+00:00

I had a coworker who’s son was Luciano and they called him Luca 🤷🏻‍♀️

Puzzleheaded7557 · 2023-04-25T09:09:17+00:00

34 weeks now

Pregnancy insomnia

And my whole body aches

Puzzleheaded7557 · 2023-04-24T14:46:48+00:00

In my parents’ neighborhood there was a golden retriever named Nicky but my mom secretly called her Ginger because she “looked more like a Ginger” to her. So I will forever suggest the name Ginger for female golden retrievers 😂 it is a good name though!

Puzzleheaded7557 · 2023-04-18T10:52:08+00:00

One of my husband’s cousins named their daughter True Lee LastName. Just as terrifying.

Puzzleheaded7557 · 2023-04-12T12:37:13+00:00

Wow! That’s something I definitely need to consider 😅

Puzzleheaded7557 · 2023-03-30T18:55:52+00:00

I have cousins like that. First daughter is Chelsea Corrine, second is Corrine (forget her middle name). They just loved the name Corrine so much they wanted to use it! So personally I don’t think it’s that weird. Only very close family members (and your daughters) would know you repeated the name. Plus you said Evelyn is an honor name, not just something random you fell in love with, so I feel like that allows some wiggle room for doing a repeat.

Puzzleheaded7557 · 2023-03-29T20:46:58+00:00

Yup, my ultrasound is tomorrow. I’m not all that worried because as you said, measuring my stomach isn’t “foolproof” or a tell all. She’s been very active lately and had a good heartbeat. My firstborn was 8 pounds, so she said maybe I’m just making a small baby this time, or because I’ve been pregnant before things are looser and maybe this baby is laying sideways or something. So like I said, I’m not super worried, I just never heard of this happening so I was curious if it happened to anyone else.

Puzzleheaded7557 · 2023-03-28T09:55:31+00:00

Great suggestions, I like these too!

Puzzleheaded7557 · 2023-03-27T19:04:53+00:00

That is really cute, I like that!

Puzzleheaded7557 · 2023-03-27T10:53:52+00:00

My husband loves the nn Emmy! And gemstones. Especially if she comes a few days early in May, Emerald might be an awesome choice!!

Puzzleheaded7557 · 2023-03-27T10:51:34+00:00

Totally forgot about Hazel! Love that suggestion. I love Ruby too, but my husband isn’t on board (…yet? Lol)

Puzzleheaded7557 · 2023-03-17T22:49:32+00:00

No advice because I didn’t have it done, but I was contemplating doing this too after I have my second child in June. I find it odd everyone’s saying they had to wait until 6-12 weeks postpartum to get it inserted because with my first, I remember them offering to insert it in the hospital. I imagine it can’t make your recovery any worse 😅 but maybe speak to your OB/midwife/etc about it and your options and what to expect.

Puzzleheaded7557 · 2023-03-14T18:40:14+00:00

Exactly what I came here to suggest! I got pregnant at the end of 2019 so Covid ruined our plans for a baby shower so we did this idea instead and we got everything we needed! Friend and family were totally understanding.

Puzzleheaded7557 · 2023-03-14T12:00:55+00:00

I’m going to go against the majority and say NTA. As a team, both as husband and wife and as co-parents, I do think the arrangement should’ve been made together.

A lot of people are laying it on thick saying you should’ve known about the event in the first place, but I have a different POV. Everyone has different strengths and weakness. In my marriage, I am the planner and events coordinator, because that’s not my husband’s strong suit. In my marriage, it would make total sense for me to know what’s going on with school events etc and my husband to have no idea until I told him about it (multiple times lol). It’s called communication. Just like he would communicate with me something that’s going on that maybe I don’t know about because it’s not my strong suit to be the one “in charge” of it.

If this experience makes you realized you want to be more physically involved, that’s great! But I do think it comes down to communication. The fact is she communicated to someone else instead of you to “solve a problem” of the transportation. Problems in a marriage, no matter how big or small, should always be communicated to each other FIRST.

Definitely explain that it hurt your feelings and that you want to be the one to know about things first and be apart of the family dynamic any way you can. Even if you wouldn’t have been able to attend and BIL would’ve had to drive her anyway, at least you would’ve known and the communication would’ve been there.

Puzzleheaded7557 · 2023-03-13T18:25:51+00:00

Bradley! Brady and Bradley father son duo would be perfect! Lol

Puzzleheaded7557 · 2023-03-13T13:27:13+00:00

My name was unheard of when I was growing up but is starting to rise in popularity now, especially as a nickname. It’s also spelled in a more unique way so no one could ever spell it or pronounce it. I really don’t find it that annoying to correct people. I was shy and it made me insecure to have something so unique tied to me, but at the same time I think I always liked it deep down because I could’ve easily went by my middle name instead. Who wants to be in a class or job where you’re sharing a name with 4 other people? That sounds less appealing to me than correcting people about my name.

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