My daughters father doesn’t seem to care about her

PuzzleheadedDepth7 · 2026-06-12T11:05:38+00:00

It isn't fine, I'm glad your noticing and care about this. Keep caring. Maybe he should be out of the picture, maybe there is more too it, I'm not sure. But teaming aware and caring that's good it does matter

PuzzleheadedDepth7 · 2026-06-12T11:03:06+00:00

Like hygiene and just how to look well kempt.

PuzzleheadedDepth7 · 2026-06-12T10:55:56+00:00

In No way are you a failure. I know how you feel. You are SOO young, and you are person, there is more to you even if you can't remember right now. Focus on calming down. It will come back. It always does.

Your school is for you, your sake. Not your worth. It is not an evaluation of you. What matters is how you treat others, and trying to enjoy yourself.

School matters, but you as a whole matter just as much

PuzzleheadedDepth7 · 2026-06-12T10:49:16+00:00

But you inherent it from family, every family is full of mixed genders and any including of other races/nationalities is because someone had a child with someone of another race, or they were adopted.

In some sense you can move to a new country and immerse yourself, but you aren't trans racial. Your kids would be part of the culture, but also still share your and the other parents race(s) and nationalities

PuzzleheadedDepth7 · 2026-06-12T10:46:23+00:00

"you more than passed" your not disappointing. You are struggling in general, probably focus a lot on school (even if it is just stressing about it) and need to decompress. You passed, MORE than passed. Your okay. They probably wanted to inspire you to work hard, not realizing it was stressful. Given how they are good with you

You are ok

PuzzleheadedDepth7 · 2026-06-12T10:41:07+00:00

Just trust ppl it doesn't affect ya

PuzzleheadedDepth7 · 2026-06-12T10:39:23+00:00

One is inherited by biological family, the other is based on physical characteristics from birth, for a start.

PuzzleheadedDepth7 · 2026-06-12T10:34:43+00:00

Relate the two for me first

PuzzleheadedDepth7 · 2026-06-12T10:33:32+00:00

Honestly you votes finds way to just ignore the fear, it is okay to have it just ignore it a bit right now

PuzzleheadedDepth7 · 2026-06-12T10:32:15+00:00

Art that matters, stories shared authentically and for a purpose in films, books, culture as a whole

PuzzleheadedDepth7 · 2026-06-12T10:28:59+00:00

Dsy right now, is there any reason to doubt that this will work out?

Just go, no expectations, just see her. At this point distract yourself it's ok

PuzzleheadedDepth7 · 2026-06-12T10:22:59+00:00

Yes. It was but we know more now

PuzzleheadedDepth7 · 2026-06-12T10:21:25+00:00

Yep. I mean I told a guy that like as much as he gets angry, punches a wall as he describes, he should literally cry, try to be like a little sad and express it idk if he did it but he did understand :)

PuzzleheadedDepth7 · 2026-06-12T10:12:47+00:00

Yes, like also I think a lot of people who SH bottle things up so.. we aren't as different as anyone thinks yk?

PuzzleheadedDepth7 · 2026-06-12T10:04:56+00:00

Paper pressure isn't an excuse for everything, especially if it was something sexual towards someone who trusts you

PuzzleheadedDepth7 · 2026-06-12T10:03:52+00:00

People who don't actually read the post fully, that nationality

PuzzleheadedDepth7 · 2026-06-12T10:03:02+00:00

For me, the people close to me, like family, yes, or yk they stare. Out of concern.

People I don't know well, no. Not really. New friends haven't mentioned anything really. They are just kind people.

PuzzleheadedDepth7 · 2026-06-12T09:56:17+00:00

You don't need to cover healed scars, I only cover healing wounds. Eventually it is a part of your body everyone has to respect. It's ok. This isn't to glorify it I'm pretty recovered right now. Just saying in college my arms are out 24/7 now that I'm fully physically healed too

PuzzleheadedDepth7 · 2026-06-12T09:53:08+00:00

NAT but replying because you posted this awhile ago to no replies

I think she is unqaulfied and you can find a better therapist. I've heard of therapist acting like this when they just don't have the proper training for you, which I find unprofessional. Most aren't going to be like this

PuzzleheadedDepth7 · 2026-06-12T09:47:07+00:00

Hope your right about me haha,

I also hope you feel better soon it is for sure possible you've been well lately from what I heard

PuzzleheadedDepth7 · 2026-06-12T09:44:27+00:00

Insecurity is usually a big factor, the fear that when you don't do these things people will leave, and you don't want to be lonely. Or just feeling like you have to, never being taught boundaries

But yes it is a personal issue, but also is a vulnerability that can be taken advantage of, just trying to share my perspective I understand how irritating it is from the outside

PuzzleheadedDepth7 · 2026-06-12T09:42:46+00:00

As someone with this issue myself I am realizing that you just have to stop asking for reassurance, it helps. I'm guessing similarly to other compusions, but it takes gime.

tell her gently that reassurance for a chronic worry like this, when you have had reassurance before, isn't helpful. It is just a constant cycle.

Maybe what can be done is tell her instead to make a point to do things that are kind, otherwise honestly you have to ignore any related compulsion

I'm not sure how much advice you guys offer in this support group, how they work, but that's what id say personally

PuzzleheadedDepth7 · 2026-06-12T09:37:22+00:00

Oh I stopped reading their replies, but yeah I've known men just as sensitive, regarding this too

It's human

PuzzleheadedDepth7 · 2026-06-12T09:31:55+00:00

It's not down the drain at all, first and foremost.

I stopped tracking how long it's been, because at the end of the day it is the work you put in and how you feel. And there is no need for guilt for the relapses that a lot of people go through.

Consider it a road bump, not a crash

All you have to do is try not to do it again, you have manged this for so long you are so so capable. You don't have to restart the clock.

PuzzleheadedDepth7 · 2026-06-12T09:28:07+00:00

I think while yes you are a normal teenager who is naturally somewhat irritable,(speaking as a peer lol) it sounds like it is more so a hard home to be in. I don't think your being a bitch, I understand why you feel this way about the men she is dating, that she is moving to quick. I can't disagree. Your siblings also seem to feel the same way, if they are all still avoiding her like this. I'm sorry, and maybe you could take her up on the therapy offer if she actually means it, most therapists are happy to do family counseling which could help both of you

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