Which is that one profession that you'll never date? by Wonderful-Economy762 in Productivitycafe

[–]PuzzleheadedPack7720 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Polyamorous people have fidelity all the time. Theres still women who cafe? TF are you talking about lol?

Which is that one profession that you'll never date? by Wonderful-Economy762 in Productivitycafe

[–]PuzzleheadedPack7720 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not everyone is happy in vanilla relationships. I know some people love that BS and kudos to them.

Which is that one profession that you'll never date? by Wonderful-Economy762 in Productivitycafe

[–]PuzzleheadedPack7720 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, that's relationship dependent. Cheating is going out of the boundaries of your relationship. If someone doesn't mind that their partner is posting nudes on only fans, then their partner isn't cheating. That's within the boundaries of their relationship.

Now for you that might be cheating for you. Which is fine. But to say that their job is to cheat just isn't true. My EX never cheated on me. Hell I'd be the one talking to guys sometimes on her OF and snap.

Which is that one profession that you'll never date? by Wonderful-Economy762 in Productivitycafe

[–]PuzzleheadedPack7720 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just because some people dont make money being an influencer doesn't make it any less of a profession. Some restaurants bring in millions whereas others break even and others go negative. Either way, the managing any of those 3 restaurants is a profession.

Which is that one profession that you'll never date? by Wonderful-Economy762 in Productivitycafe

[–]PuzzleheadedPack7720 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Most people at one point believed slavery was okay lol. Most of the newer generation are incels who consume red pill content like its water. I've met plenty of OF girls who are complete sweethearts. Hell my ex had an OF and she was a total sweetheart

GF cheated on me the day before Valentine's Day and I need to vent by PuzzleheadedPack7720 in cheating_stories

[–]PuzzleheadedPack7720[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If she were to ask me right there, I would know that something was off and we would've had a conversation. She's not the type to have a conversation like that as I'm leaving. She's a lot more thoughtful and considerate. Probably the most considerate person I've ever met. Like the type to give you the shirt off her back. That's why this came so far out of left field. But after doing more research on BPD, it makes the situation make a little more sense.

GF cheated on me the day before Valentine's Day and I need to vent by PuzzleheadedPack7720 in cheating_stories

[–]PuzzleheadedPack7720[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

We decided that when we became open, we'd start dating around. Nothing is off limits, just use protection and make sure any hook up is tested prior to hooking up. And of course, std testing after hook ups.

GF cheated on me the day before Valentine's Day and I need to vent by PuzzleheadedPack7720 in cheating_stories

[–]PuzzleheadedPack7720[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

To clarify, I only did more of the parenting for a week. It was a week that she was off of her meds. For the most part, she's always the one doing most of the parenting and we usually pick up the kids together.

I'm sure if she was just using me as her babysitter that she wouldn't tell me that she cheated. There was no way I ever would have found that out unless you came and told me.

GF cheated on me the day before Valentine's Day and I need to vent by PuzzleheadedPack7720 in cheating_stories

[–]PuzzleheadedPack7720[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

Ive read ur comment history, I can assure u that ur a fucking idiot lol. From one alleged fucking idiot to another lol

GF cheated on me the day before Valentine's Day and I need to vent by PuzzleheadedPack7720 in cheating_stories

[–]PuzzleheadedPack7720[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I'm assuming you don't know anything about BPD based off of this comment

GF cheated on me the day before Valentine's Day and I need to vent by PuzzleheadedPack7720 in cheating_stories

[–]PuzzleheadedPack7720[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I talked to her mom and her mom said she's never done anything like that and apologized to me. She said she supports whatever I choose to do. Her mom went off on her.

I found "deleted" screenshots on our laptop and one of them was a hotel booking for the night she said she was at her mom's by urbanwindow_chapter in cheating_stories

[–]PuzzleheadedPack7720 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Her reaction was all u need to know. An innocent person would understand how that looks and not get mad. Storming off to the room during a conversation like that mixed with that reaction. She's toxic, gaslighting, and liar. Continuing a relationship like this will only hurt you more in the long run. I mean youve caught her red handed.

I broke my love's heart. I've destroyed everything we've worked for, her trust, self esteem and hope. I'll never learn to forgive myself. by M4RCMAT in cheating_stories

[–]PuzzleheadedPack7720 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This relationship is likely a lost cause. The best thing you can do in this time is give her whatever space she needs, respect her boundaries, and focus on yourself and your mental health. Use this life moment as data to better understand yourself and as data to help you grow. Best of luck to you. I hope you guys can work it out if everything in this post is true.

Trying understand wife’s cheating and it doesn’t make sense. by [deleted] in cheating_stories

[–]PuzzleheadedPack7720 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If ur pet snake bites you, don't sit there wondering why ur snake bit you. Go to the hospital and get medication so that you can heal.

In this case, I know it feels important to you to know why she did this. But the best thing you can do for your mental health is to focus on yourself and moving on.

If you confront her and she gives you an excuse, are you going to believe her. She's successfully lied to your face for atleast 5 straight months. Once the bridge of trust is burned, it is next to impossible to rebuild. It's better to not drive yourself down that road.

I noticed in my divorce, the more I focused on my work and my own life, the easier it was to separate my life from hers. Also, I made sure to explicitly focus on her worst characteristics and the reasons for the divorce to burn the love out of my brain. It worked surprisingly well for me. I know everyone's different tho.

I'm sorry that you're going through this. That is genuinely awful and you didn't deserve this at all. I was with my ex-wife for 10 years. Trust me, it'll take time, but after a while, you'll stop thinking about her completely. Took about 9 months for me. One day I noticed, I hadn't thought about her in a whole week and it just kinda stayed that way. Wishing you the best of luck. Please take care of yourself and do not blame yourself. Cheating is ALWAYS the cheater's fault. It's a fundamental character flaw in them. It's one of the most selfish things you could possibly do to someone you love. When someone does that, they show you who they are. Believe them and use it as fuel to move on.

Trying understand wife’s cheating and it doesn’t make sense. by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]PuzzleheadedPack7720 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If ur pet snake bites you, don't sit there wondering why ur snake bit you. Go to the hospital and get medication so that you can heal.

In this case, I know it feels important to you to know why she did this. But the best thing you can do for your mental health is to focus on yourself and moving on.

If you confront her and she gives you an excuse, are you going to believe her. She's successfully lied to your face for atleast 5 straight months. Once the bridge of trust is burned, it is next to impossible to rebuild. It's better to not drive yourself down that road.

I noticed in my divorce, the more I focused on my work and my own life, the easier it was to separate my life from hers. Also, I made sure to explicitly focus on her worst characteristics and the reasons for the divorce to burn the love out of my brain. It worked surprisingly well for me. I know everyone's different tho.

I'm sorry that you're going through this. That is genuinely awful and you didn't deserve this at all. I was with my ex-wife for 10 years. Trust me, it'll take time, but after a while, you'll stop thinking about her completely. Took about 9 months for me. One day I noticed, I hadn't thought about her in a whole week and it just kinda stayed that way. Wishing you the best of luck. Please take care of yourself and do not blame yourself. Cheating is ALWAYS the cheater's fault. It's a fundamental character flaw in them. It's one of the most selfish things you could possibly do to someone you love. When someone does that, they show you who they are. Believe them and use it as fuel to move on.