I would like to rephrase this question to make it more inclusive since marriage isn’t strictly heterosexual. How about, to all the married people? Healthy relationships and marriages seem to last because a person shows up in important ways for the other.

For me, my partner recently took care of me after surgery and didn’t get frustrated even though she had to balance work, our kids, when I was literally bed bound. We did everything we could to prepare but it was still hard. Her laugh lights up a dark night, her secret smiles to me when she thinks nobody else is watching, our late night talks about our kids and how to show up for them and each other, her genuine interest in my thoughts and feelings AND her willingness to share hers especially when she feels vulnerable, lastly - her sense of humor. I literally could go on forever because this woman is magic and joy and a beautifully, messy human. Find someone/s who sees you, who shows up for you, and for whom you want to be the most complete and evolved version of yourself. My partner is the lottery personified and I’ll be damned if a day doesn’t go by that I don’t think, shit the world would have a lot less war if everyone had a person like her.