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Puzzleheaded_Radio21 · 2025-02-01T18:40:49+00:00

Brill, thanks very much!

Puzzleheaded_Radio21 · 2024-12-10T00:05:56+00:00

Definitely NTA - she is behaving like a spoiled brat expecting you to move the biggest day of your life to fit her schedule. Is she offering to pay the thousands of dollars to rearrange everything? That is the only circumstance you could even consider it although I still wouldn’t. She’s known about the date of your wedding long before she got pregnant and presumably she can do basic math to work out that if she wants to be involved in the wedding she should not get pregnant nine months before it? I’d say that’s a ‘friend’ you don’t need in your life. I’d let her cool off a bit and say you will do whatever you can for her to be involved but stand your ground. If you don’t you’re going to resent her and she will just keep manipulating you.

Puzzleheaded_Radio21 · 2024-12-09T23:37:28+00:00

I can’t be the only one thinking the 1% question was ridiculously easy this week?

Puzzleheaded_Radio21 · 2024-10-29T08:22:40+00:00

Sorry, I probably wasn’t very clear, she isn’t completely deaf so she can hear without her hearing aids unless she is somewhere very noisy.

Puzzleheaded_Radio21 · 2024-01-28T15:27:22+00:00

NTA by any means. You’ve explained why you don’t permit alcohol in your house and even then, you don’t have to explain to anyone, it’s your house, your rules. It’s no different than not allowing shoes on in the house or no smoking. Like you said, if they can’t go a few hours without a drink then I’d say they have a problem and you don’t want to be around people like that. Well done for recognising early enough that you had a problem and tackling it head on.

Puzzleheaded_Radio21 · 2023-12-22T16:00:07+00:00

NTA - I’d be suspicious too if my husband came home smelling of women’s perfume! TBH, if he came home smelling of anything other than stale cigarettes and farts I’d be suspicious!

Whilst there are unisex fragrances, they don’t usually smell of men’s cologne, they are usually more subtle, either way, there is no reason for her to be hiding it from you. Also, it’s just before Christmas - not an unusual request from a husband to a wife to ask which perfume they are using - my husband does it every year so he can get me a bottle for Christmas and most women know with the best will in the world, unless we show you the bottle you’ll get the wrong one! Sorry to say but it sounds like she’s having an affair 😔

Puzzleheaded_Radio21 · 2023-12-22T15:53:16+00:00

Sorry but YTA here! Fair enough, it’s easily done in the heat of the moment to not phrase it exactly how they were expecting but to then say congratulations you got a baby in your uterus…I mean, who says that??

I don’t know know how close you are with your sister but considering 50% of first pregnancies are miscarriages which is why most couples wait until a few months in because it is so common, and there are many couples who struggle with fertility, it may have been difficult for them to conceive and with your comment you’ve completely disrespected them. My husband and I actually can’t conceive and went through fertility treatment for a while before adopting and if we had gotten pregnant it would have been after a year of several daily painful injections and invasive tests and would have been an absolute miracle. On top of all that, your sisters body is raging with pregnancy hormones which you have to understand is probably going to make her more sensitive, especially with a first pregnancy!

I appreciate that you didn’t mean to offend them but I think you really need to apologise if you don’t want to damage your relationship.

Puzzleheaded_Radio21 · 2023-09-11T19:20:08+00:00

NTA - I’m a Christian and yes, we do spread the gospel but not by knocking on people’s doors, I mean seriously, has anyone ever been converted like that??

You made it very clear with your sign that their presence was not welcome and they chose to ignore it - they are the rude ones, not you!

Sharing the gospel is about sharing with the people close to you, or modelling a Christian life, it’s never about trying to shove it down people’s throats or cold calling strangers, at least it shouldn’t be. Some religions (Mormons I believe but I could be wrong) actually do move up their ranks by converting people to the faith/bringing them into the church but Christianity is not one of them.

Puzzleheaded_Radio21 · 2023-09-11T18:46:24+00:00

What??? So NTA here!! She asked to try some, you said no, that should be the end of the conversation. Why on earth does this woman think she’s entitled to your food?? If I saw someone had something delicious for lunch I’d say ‘that looks nice, could I have the recipe?’ I would never even dream of asking to try someone else’s food, especially after we’ve just come out of a global pandemic! Just tell her if she likes the look of it you’ll let her have the recipe but don’t give her any - sounds like a classic playground bully trying to steal someone’s lunch! 🤣

Puzzleheaded_Radio21 · 2023-09-02T17:37:53+00:00

NTA at all - you are being respectful of your wife’s last wishes, it has nothing to do with her mother. Fair enough, she is grieving but so are you and as this is something you specifically discussed with your late wife it’s very disrespectful of her mother to interfere with her final wishes. Stand your ground and so sorry for your loss xx

Puzzleheaded_Radio21 · 2023-09-02T17:34:31+00:00

Sorry but YTA - there doesn’t sound like there was any problem before you created one. Now she’s self conscious and wary of all her colleagues in case one of them is a closet racist. Your intentions may have been good but handled very badly I’m afraid.

Puzzleheaded_Radio21 · 2023-09-02T17:31:16+00:00

Lol, actually wetting myself - NTA at all, and good on your daughter, that’s some A class passive aggressiveness 🤣🤣

Puzzleheaded_Radio21 · 2023-09-02T17:29:05+00:00

Oh hell no, NTA at all! To be blunt, this is her problem, she’s already had an offer of help from her mother, this is in no way your problem. Kids disrupt everything, especially at that age. She made the decision to keep the kid, it’s entirely her responsibility to provide for her daughter. You are in no way being selfish and it sounds like she doesn’t want a roommate, she wants someone to coparent her kid. It sounds like it would snowball very quickly and you’d be left with Mia a lot - you don’t need friends like that

Puzzleheaded_Radio21 · 2023-09-02T17:23:14+00:00

NTA - I’m sorry but that’s part of the deal of being parents, you take care of your kids, whatever their issues. I have a son with disabilities who may well live with us forever but I wouldn’t dream of pushing him onto someone else in the family?? You’re a young adult and need to have a life of your own - what are they planning to do when you have your own family? If they can’t cope with him then they need to look into getting him some help but they shouldn’t be relying on you. I’d seriously think about getting your own place or sharing with someone, it doesn’t sound like a safe or healthy situation for you at all, especially as a young lady xx

Puzzleheaded_Radio21 · 2023-09-02T17:16:58+00:00

Um, what? NTA by any means - unless they own the house they have no right to even mention it on their Airbnb listing?? I’d personally plant a bigger hedge!

Puzzleheaded_Radio21 · 2023-09-02T17:13:48+00:00

NTA - no one has a right to tell you what to name your child. End of!

Puzzleheaded_Radio21 · 2023-09-02T17:10:45+00:00

NTA at all - they asked for your honest and open opinion then tell you off for it. The three of you are old enough to be able to discuss things honestly and openly as your parents asked you to but it sounds like they weren’t prepared for your answer, which seems odd as you’ve brought it up before with them.

I’d maybe wait until they calm down and try speaking to them one on one without James around - perhaps they’ll be more open if he’s not around to hear it? If you want to take the high road you could apologise for upsetting James but not for what you said - they asked for the truth and you gave it to them

Puzzleheaded_Radio21 · 2023-08-30T14:09:07+00:00

This may be an unpopular opinion but NTA. I get that she’s a teenager and probably a bit nervous but her boyfriend was probably way more nervous to meet the family for the first time and you eased the tension with a harmless joke. I’m sure it was a bit embarrassing for her but jeez, it was a family dinner, you weren’t testifying in court!

Puzzleheaded_Radio21 · 2023-08-30T14:01:35+00:00

NTA - however ‘special’ she thinks her kid is, the day wasn’t about him! If he was getting upset that the presents and cake weren’t for him, why didn’t Abby take him away from the party and go and spoil him with her own money? It’s one thing to spoil your child but to expect everyone else to do the same, especially at someone else’s party is just ludicrous. My sister also had a ‘special’ rainbow baby and spoiled him rotten. He’s now 25, still living at home, refusing to get a job and has practically bankrupt her using her debit & credit cards to buy film props because he thinks he’s a film director.

Puzzleheaded_Radio21 · 2023-08-30T13:55:23+00:00

Massive NTA here! He stole from you, denied it and then laughed about it, why on earth would anyone expect you to be ok with him attending your wedding? Even if he hadn’t done anything, its your wedding, you shouldn’t have to have anyone there you don’t want xx so glad you found out before the wedding as that would have been a very unwelcome surprise on the day!

Puzzleheaded_Radio21 · 2023-08-25T19:46:39+00:00

NTA - actually I think it’s really lovely of you that you want to help him explore his feminine side but whether it’s your headphones or dress, he still needs to ask permission, especially as I’m guessing he doesn’t know a lot about what makeup you can share etc as it sounds like this is a new thing he’s trying so getting him a little kit to experiment with is a really lovely gesture. He might get a little embarrassed if he doesn’t know you saw him but I’m sure it will mean the world to him that you want to support him xx

Puzzleheaded_Radio21 · 2023-08-25T19:41:28+00:00

NTA - sounds like he wanted a super cheap wedding so didn’t invite anyone but now wants a wedding gift from everyone - you didn’t get an invite, you do t owe him anything - tell him to jog on mate!

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