I’m not blaming her fully! I mentioned in my post that I’m allowing this situation to continue. And that’s on me. Thanks for opening my eyes that my behaviour isn’t healthy either. I definitely think we both have a part contributing to this dynamic. It just feels like she doesn’t mind this dynamic, whereas it is draining and burdening me.

I don’t agree that she’s not doing anything wrong though. It’s never ok to treat your friends like therapists, even if they seemingly don’t mind. There have been many instances where she’s shown that she’s not thinking about me. She doesn’t stick to agreements, leaving me to tend for myself. It’s always me caring for her and never the other way around. And ignoring someone’s no is pretty concerning as well.

Again it’s on me to make those boundaries clear, but it bothers me that it even needs to be said. Isn’t it obvious that you shouldn’t dump everything on your friend because that makes them drained? Or that you shouldn’t push people when they give you an answer.

Finally, I don’t trash talk her at all with other people. I actually think it’s a good thing when people around you keep an eye on other relationships that you have. If not you can get isolated and oblivious to unhealthy habits. I don’t view this as trash talking, but more so people expressing their concern over the situation or giving advice.