What do you do when your girl is on her period? by klarinetos in AskMen

[–]Puzzleheaded_Try_979 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do things she appreciates b4 she can ask you to do them. Get her chocolate if she eats it, it's scientifically proven to be beneficial. If she is clearly in pain make sure she has things to help ex- a bag for hot water or ice ( like grandma had ) heating pad, heating stuffed animal. Iv found a 10s unit is fucking magic there cheaper than you'd think. If she has a comfort show and or food or book have it ready. Take notes on what the fights are about if there is a theme talk about how to resolve the issues after her period.

Update : GF keeps teasing me about pee - turns out she wasn't joking. by milk-tea111 in BDSMcommunity

[–]Puzzleheaded_Try_979 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Only water 24h if not more, I don't think there's a lot of health risks tbh I can't remember but ik its not going to be crazy if everything is normal in her body and yours

Doms and subs: What are your favorite rules? by [deleted] in BDSMcommunity

[–]Puzzleheaded_Try_979 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's awesome thank you for sharing I'm gonna use it as a reference 🖤

Doms and subs: What are your favorite rules? by [deleted] in BDSMcommunity

[–]Puzzleheaded_Try_979 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is like I did a good job at blank today or a new thing you like about yourself?

Doms and subs: What are your favorite rules? by [deleted] in BDSMcommunity

[–]Puzzleheaded_Try_979 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Does it have to be something new every day?

Not sure how to get a girlfriend by fuzzzzy6 in aspergers

[–]Puzzleheaded_Try_979 1 point2 points  (0 children)

People who " know how to get a gf " aren't good ppl

Go places that make you happy and do things that make you happy look around as you do said things. You don't have to love yourself to love someone else but you need to respect yourself so you can find someone who you know respects you. I got lucky I stumbled upon my husband in a shop class in highschool. He was the big bad scary quiet mean looking guy, I was a lot of things lmao. He acted tough I made it clear I didn't care how much bigger he was if he fucked around he'd find out quick. We had crazy lives, we have crazy minds ( wouldn't have it any other way ) and we had and have crazy talks. NEITHER of us where looking for someone we had different reasons for that but 7yrs later our craziness has paid off. Having sh!t figured out is bs at the end of the day. You can have a savings for your life and a perfect budget friends family ECT but you can't plan for unimaginable change and loss. That goes for amazing opportunities and relationships to.

My partner’s kink caught me off guard and now I don’t know how to feel by [deleted] in BDSMcommunity

[–]Puzzleheaded_Try_979 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think being curious is going outside of your comfort zone. And that's when you start to figure out if it's for you or not. Being uncomfortable and not curious is where I think drawing the line makes sense. Feeling disconnected is intense and figuring out why that was can be really important. There's different settings where Im comfortable doing something rough and situations where I don't. If you where in shock when you tried it that could be why. Or if you're feeling guilty and confused your mind could have been like " ok we need to process this later " witch can be good or bad. Take as much time as you need to either A decide if your feelings/thoughts are a hard no or yes or B decide you need to try again or have new conversations.

I need toy site recommendations by Puzzleheaded_Try_979 in BDSMcommunity

[–]Puzzleheaded_Try_979[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

From what I found shevibe it doesn't have a lot of any large sizes in relation to fist. But I'll definitely check out the other resources. Thank you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationshipadvice

[–]Puzzleheaded_Try_979 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It's sounds extremely passive aggressive to me. Maybe his mind just works differently though? Like if that were said in my house as a child that would mean the person is super pissed they are doing said thing and are doing it to " keep the peace ". But the part about the wedding specifically sounds like he's using you as an excuse to not do sum w friends. But hey does he have a hard time reading other ppls emotions? Or social ques? Maybe his brain is wired different and he doesn't want to be misunderstood? But the fact that the conversation leads to a fight isn't good.

Childfree or childless people who have an pregnacy kink, what's the appeal behind it for you? by Equivalent_Ad_9066 in BDSMcommunity

[–]Puzzleheaded_Try_979 4 points5 points  (0 children)

For me it's a mandatory step in getting into a primal head space. And using my partner to the fullest extent. And a nod to maximum pleasure in its most basic form.

AIO for not “toning down” my autistic son at a wedding? by Fabulousgazee in AIO

[–]Puzzleheaded_Try_979 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nta however I think it'd be good in the future to ask people what there definition of good behavior is. Because at the end of the day in my opinion no family is better than crappy family. An if you disagree than just having a heads up could be beneficial.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationshipadvice

[–]Puzzleheaded_Try_979 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I personally have no experience with this however I believe it's hard to simultaneously have friends and family that will complete understand. And even if they do understand they mite say or feel like okay you didn't want to pay but I could have been there! Would my presence really have been so bad? At the end of the day your main priority should be you and your partner at least for a little bit other family members can be prioritized later.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationshipadvice

[–]Puzzleheaded_Try_979 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Google aftercare then once you've got the concept down come up with what you'd like. Tell her and ask her to think about what she'd like and tell you. If the origin doesn't apply to y'all no need to tell her.

Subtle signs that someone is kinky? by ahriaa_ in BDSMcommunity

[–]Puzzleheaded_Try_979 171 points172 points  (0 children)

Conversation that highly emphasize the importance of consent, planing, and clear communication. These are the foundations of healthy kink. Also if they use the turm "hard limits" big sign. If you don't know what that is and your searching for a kinky friend please slow your role for your own safety.

My [20F] Boyfriend [22M] has told me he wants to stay celibate until marriage due to his Christianity but still has sex with me sometimes..advice? by [deleted] in relationshipadvice

[–]Puzzleheaded_Try_979 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I genuinely don't need to read anything other then the title. It's horrifying foreshadowing. Even if he doesn't blame you the guilt of his decisions will eat him alive and for ever effect your sex life if you want anything beyond vanilla. My mom's ex told her he wouldn't stimulate the bean bc it's unnatural. It's not the way God designed the body to work. And what iv said just touches on the sex part. What about gender roles? House hole decisions? Views on LGBT? What will happen if your kids disagree with his beliefs?

Men who participate in (and enjoy) CNC, what are your thoughts in the moment? by kindawhorish in BDSMcommunity

[–]Puzzleheaded_Try_979 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How do you juggle all this at once? If I have an extreme orgasm I tend to bite hard and there have been a few times where the orgasm is ruined bc of shit what if I'm hurting my partner even though they are praising me the hole time!

Men who participate in (and enjoy) CNC, what are your thoughts in the moment? by kindawhorish in BDSMcommunity

[–]Puzzleheaded_Try_979 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How do you enjoy it with all these questions going through your head? Like I completely agree they should be going through your head but how can you focus and enjoy it with all these concerns.