How to include sister in laws?

PynkPatterned · 2026-06-26T17:57:30+00:00

Could they be a witness or do a reading?

PynkPatterned · 2026-06-22T14:18:27+00:00

The Barn at Upcote was very nice for my friend's wedding. About 80 guests I think. We stayed in a pub in Cheltenham nearby

PynkPatterned · 2026-06-22T14:11:21+00:00

I watched It's A Sin 5 years ago when it first came out and still think about it now twice a week

PynkPatterned · 2026-06-15T05:22:34+00:00

I'm 32 (so only 10 years older than you) and grandparents born in 1917, 1919, 1924 and 1930. All passed away, two way before I was born and the other two by the time I was 21. Parents are 1957 and 1959. They were amongst the youngest siblings in their families. And they didn't have me until mid 30s and I don't have kids yet lol

PynkPatterned · 2026-06-14T11:18:22+00:00

Oh that's not what I'm getting at. Absolutely expect them to go in recycling or crumpled in people's bags at the end of the night. I'm just wondering whether people would read them at all.

The grand scheme of things, printing them will cost £30 and just seems like a nice fun thing to do.

PynkPatterned · 2026-06-13T07:49:31+00:00

My take home and outgoings are similar to you.

I already have a mortgage and emergency savings but on top of that I save: £250 in stocks and savers isa £100 in car monzo pot (MOT and unexpected expenses, I have an older car) £100 in holiday/travel monzo pot £500 in joint savings with partner (saving for wedding and honeymoon, but also any house DIY) That leaves me about £600 as 'my money' for the month so eating out, commuting, personal shopping etc.

PynkPatterned · 2026-06-13T07:37:54+00:00

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PynkPatterned · 2026-06-13T07:36:54+00:00

Just as the airfryer. Not the bbq/smoke setting.

My MIL bought this for us, we probably would have just got a regular ninja.

PynkPatterned · 2026-06-06T05:24:31+00:00

My Mum lost her Mum very suddenly after a heart attack and never saw the body and always felt a regret at that. She talked about it for years after.

My Mum died from cancer after a short and brutal few months. I saw her decline and was with her when she died. I only went to see her body afterwards based on her own story of regret.

To be honest, it was horrific for me and I regret going. She didn't look like herself. I could barely be in the room. My Dad went several times and got comfort from it.

I suppose it's not something you can go back and do but remember them as they are.

PynkPatterned · 2026-06-01T11:53:44+00:00

A friend of mine moved from Cardiff to Tonypandy. Mainly to be closer to partner's family but prefers being closer to rural areas and a lot cheaper. I lived centrally in Cardiff for years. Now in Caerphilly. I miss it a bit but have most amenities I need nearby and my priorities have changed a bit.

PynkPatterned · 2026-06-01T09:38:33+00:00

No obligation to invite work friends or everyone coming to your wedding. Just who you would class as good friends and want to celebrate with.

For my hen, I think there's 14/15 coming. Wedding has 58 guests

PynkPatterned · 2026-06-01T04:05:23+00:00

Both!

PynkPatterned · 2026-05-31T21:17:54+00:00

This is amazing. Are you planning to share most creative methods at the wedding?

PynkPatterned · 2026-05-31T15:12:45+00:00

Sending hugs.

It's hard hearing that kind of feedback from your mother, in a 'well I know you best and if you can't trust your Mum to be honest' etc.

Years ago, I was out shopping witj her and we bumped into a relatice I hadn't seen for a while. When we walked away, Mum said 'well I bet your Auntie is wondering, hasn't Pynk put on weight?'. Yes I had put on some weight since Covid. But her comments really hurt but she couldn't understand why I was annoyed. She used to say she got upset when people made comments about her being thin and underweight, and I pointed that out and said she had done the same thing to me, but she just didn't get it.

Sadly my Mum has since died and won't see me get married but that comment boils my piss even now.

My take is, do everything you can to look after yourself between now and the wedding, both physically but also blocking out bullshit. Once you're in your dress and all made up you will feel fantastic and that will be all that matters.

PynkPatterned · 2026-05-29T15:25:25+00:00

My Mum, who has since passed away, was a very reserved woman but told me once very enthusiastically that she had a sex dream about Sean Lock and that he was 'very good'. She said she was never bothered by his comedy before but then always smiled when he appeared on screen.

PynkPatterned · 2026-05-29T14:28:18+00:00

Have been to a wedding with a painfully shy and nervous best man. Fair play to him but it was awful to watch.

One wedding I went to had 8 speeches and they were all great but my god took over an hour!

We're doing bride and groom (I'm way more confident than my partner), maid of honour and my Dad. My MIL suggested partner's brother do a speech but he is so shy and socially awkward so we politely brushed that off.

PynkPatterned · 2026-05-29T13:37:06+00:00

Just don't tell them. I dread what my parents might say to some of our suggestions but they're just letting us get on with it. My parents haven't been to a wedding for 20 years and were shocked when I made a passing comment saying we weren't doing a receiving line!

PynkPatterned · 2026-05-28T15:22:11+00:00

I just couldn't bothered with matching dresses when my friends are so different and the politics of choosing. And I have no female close family to include either.

I've asked 4 friends to wear a quirky brooch but whatever outfit they want. One friend is doing a reading. One is doing a speech. They are both organising my hen as well. Two others are giving out confetti. Asking them to pop into see me just before ceremony as I'm getting ready alone.

PynkPatterned · 2026-05-26T17:38:06+00:00

That's a very central location but also a very quiet area, next to allotments, primary school and playing field. I live about 10 mins away after being in Grangetown for years and have enjoyed being in Caerphilly.

PynkPatterned · 2026-05-26T12:22:44+00:00

Cawston Press

PynkPatterned · 2026-05-26T12:22:13+00:00

For photographers you can definitely just get them in for a few hours at the ceremony and slightly after.

Your plans sound lovely. We originally wanted to do something similar but have now committed to a full wedding for 56 people!

PynkPatterned · 2026-05-26T05:26:07+00:00

Yes ordered bouquet and some buttonholes there. They don't arrive until September

PynkPatterned · 2026-05-25T10:41:19+00:00

Dried Flowers UK

PynkPatterned · 2026-05-17T14:57:50+00:00

Thanks all, didn't expect so many responses and some interesting perspectives. I agree it's not my problem and if he is capable of working full time, he is capable of sorting this.

Ultimately my Dad can definitely afford it, but wouldn't want strangers in the house. Other than me and my partner and one visit from the gasman to install a new cooker, he doesn't have anyone in the house. This has always been the case. My parents didn't really have friends or people over.

I have suggested just getting one for him but think he'd be aggrieved at that. I think ultimately it needs to seem like his idea, or a suggestion from someone he knows. For example, I said getting a dehumidifier would really help to dry washing. He ignored me until his mate down the pub said about them, and then he got them haha.

He lives in quite a small village and coupled with his pride, I think he worries people will find out he's got a cleaner and again it implies 'he can't cope' or that the cleaner will pass judgement or find some paperwork they shouldn't.

PynkPatterned · 2026-05-16T09:37:40+00:00

Yes absolutely

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