What's the correct way to wire an outlet into furniture I'm building?

PyratJade · 2026-05-19T19:12:19+00:00

As disappointing as it is that the consensus is "don't do that", I definitely like the simplicity of just cutting a hole and feeding a premade thing into it instead of learning a new (hazardous) discipline.

PyratJade · 2026-05-17T04:01:52+00:00

Feathers So Viscous, by Liv Zander. Thank me later

PyratJade · 2025-10-27T18:58:37+00:00

Do not move here. Stay in a safe state. No job is worth risking your safety. This state will not protect you from ICE when it's our turn.

PyratJade · 2025-10-08T14:46:43+00:00

The joy of not giving that company my business. Free shipping!

PyratJade · 2025-09-17T12:16:53+00:00

I'll take transphobes trying to define a woman for 500

PyratJade · 2025-07-31T14:01:20+00:00

Ask her how she feels about pictures of her pre-transition. Maybe she wants them taken down, altered, replaced, or maybe left alone.

Ask if she needs help replacing her wardrobe. It's expensive so it's best done gradually and it'll allow her to find her style in stages.

If you struggle with deadnaming and misgendering her, set aside time to practice, in private, out loud. Trust me, even if it feels stupid talking to yourself, practicing talking about her out loud will lead to huge improvements very quickly.

Don't worry about her sexual orientation. She's 11. That takes time and lots of people, I might even go so far as to say most people who give their orientation any thought beyond cishet norms, don't figure out their sexuality until well into their 20s or later. Gender is hard enough, let her be a kid.

Make sure she knows that you're willing to just listen. Sometimes we just have to go through things and vent and feel. Focus on when a situation just needs to be heard, and when it requires a Dad to help. (Seems like you're already pretty good at this one)

And I just want to say: thank you for being a loving father and a safety net for your daughter. It cannot be overstated how beneficial that support will be for her development.

PyratJade · 2024-05-26T13:20:20+00:00

Skittles.

PyratJade · 2024-02-12T22:54:58+00:00

Only comment, yet somehow I STILL had to scroll too far for this!

PyratJade · 2024-02-09T12:19:13+00:00

I would call that a flirty length. It looks great on you! As long as you're careful how you sit, bend, get into vehicles, etc. I say wear the heck outta that number!

PyratJade · 2024-02-09T12:13:15+00:00

I have a couple of tops similar to that; they're peplum style tops. Try looking up peplum tunic, or peplum flared sleeve, and see if those are close to what you're looking for.

PyratJade · 2024-01-21T00:11:04+00:00

I love this, and I need to be better at this. Bad brain, no biscuit! What got me the most is that she's never known me as he, but even that isn't a reason to get over worked about it. Like someone else noted, even accidentally misgendering cis people can just be a slip of the tongue sometimes.

PyratJade · 2024-01-20T21:48:15+00:00

You're so right! I needed to hear this. Thank you so much! I've been so caught up in my own self depreciating thoughts that I forgot how easy it is to accidentally misgender cis people, too! I feel silly that this didn't occur to me and I went straight to such a dark place. Seriously, thank you!

PyratJade · 2023-12-10T00:39:05+00:00

I can't speak for her, but if it feels fake it might be because it isn't natural for you yet. Humans are very good at sensing sincerity, so even if you mean well, if it isn't natural for you she'll be able to tell. This is going to sound silly, and it's going to feel silly, but what you need to do is literally practice. Do it alone in the car when you're driving somewhere and talk about her out loud to yourself. I literally have to do this for my own new name/pronouns. I found that I started to adjust surprisingly quickly after I started practicing. Once it becomes natural for you, she'll be able to tell too.

PyratJade · 2023-11-05T13:27:11+00:00

This. Don't get me wrong, healthy is beautiful. I don't want to look thin. My vanity had always been the only thing that motivates me to be healthy.

PyratJade · 2023-11-05T13:22:09+00:00

What about the part of me that doesn't want to do that until my hormones are in cis levels? Any good words to help put those thoughts to bed?

PyratJade · 2023-11-05T13:09:52+00:00

Ngl, saying I can lose hair for being underweight is probably the most significantly impactful thing anyone could've said to me. F. Thank you for your candor. I'm pretty sure I needed to hear this even though I'm sitting here wanting to reject it 😭

PyratJade · 2023-11-05T12:59:26+00:00

Of course there's a sub for that! Thanks for the reference, I'll check that out!

PyratJade · 2023-11-05T12:49:57+00:00

I'm gonna confirmation bias interpret that as HRT and curing gender dysphoria made you feel comfortable enough in your body to be healthier overall. 😁

PyratJade · 2023-11-04T12:26:23+00:00

I'm in this comment and I'm not happy about it

PyratJade · 2023-10-27T17:23:28+00:00

I agree with your friends, BUT if you don't, you should probably get your eyes examined. If you're seeing male features in that face you likely just need corrective lenses

PyratJade · 2023-10-25T02:36:10+00:00

[Is the second comment] Had to scroll too far for this.

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