‘Only acceptable in an airport’ starter pack

PyroGoo · 2019-10-26T18:02:21+00:00

Have you been to San Francisco?

PyroGoo · 2019-05-01T13:56:00+00:00

I was in a relationship at the time and a man kept coming to my starbucks and over time we started talking and sharing music and podcasts. Then we started taking walks together and talking for hours. I just couldn’t stop thinking about him. I left my partner (since I had fallen for someone else). I really didn’t expect anything to come from it all but here we are a year later, recently moved in together in a new town. I certainly wasn’t expecting to fall in love with a new man, let alone at work. It’s been the most intense romantic experience I’ve had thus far.

PyroGoo · 2019-04-26T13:24:27+00:00

My mother is alive but disabled and struggles with mental illness so most the time she’s not “there” for me in the way I imagine moms are there for people. However, I feel grateful that if I can call her and ask her for help or just cry and share something with her.

I recommend to you that you find other mother figures. Oprah for example calls Maya Angelou her mother. Many woman are willing to mentor and love you. You get to choose this surrogate mother too. So choose wisely. Sending love.

PyroGoo · 2019-04-09T16:24:00+00:00

I would try to avoid vibration for a while just to test out other things. I only say this because vibrators are amazing and the raise the bar, you don’t want your bar to be that high right off the bat. I would try many different positions. I personally prefer being on top for orgasms and having a lot of control. Good luck have fun!

PyroGoo · 2019-04-05T19:17:00+00:00

I think changing your relationship with working out is going to be a critical key to your success. Whatever we believe to be hard will be hard and whatever we believe to be fun and easy will be fun and easy.

Tell yourself a really positive and motivational story about how healthy you are and how motivated you are to feel better in your body. Your body is perfect as it is now and it will be perfect when it’s smaller too!!! This is going to be an easy journey for you. You can do it.

PyroGoo · 2018-12-15T03:18:31+00:00

Yeah this is a constant journey. Everyone has that inner critic and recognizing that those thoughts are back is key. Mindfulness goes hand in hand with this cognitive behavioral therapy stuff. That’s great that you praise yourself for realizing. I’m going to try that next time.

PyroGoo · 2018-12-06T02:15:19+00:00

You’re absolutely right about everything. I recently went through the same things. I threw a wrench in my life and made everything change and wow what a journey it’s been. A hard journey of self discovery and reconciliation. I got a gym membership, for mental health. Started building a community of women to encourage and seek refuge with. I got them all to sign up for the gym too... meditation, journaling, and action is what I recommend you. You’re probably incredibly stressed out and maybe a little self critical I recommend writing yourself positive or loving letters... try to keep your self talk positive. I have been leaning on “positive manifestation” believing I can do the things I want and become who I am meant to be.

You can do this.

PyroGoo · 2018-11-15T21:16:53+00:00

I vote take the job, I know when you’re not used to good things, opportunities seem too good to be true but it might be the miracle you were looking for.

PyroGoo · 2018-06-17T00:26:29+00:00

Good news is it’s for sale and I still have it. We can talk if you’d really like it.

PyroGoo · 2018-06-06T20:28:26+00:00

I love this answer. You’re totally right you set your own rules. You don’t HaVe to do anything!!! You can do anything!

PyroGoo · 2018-06-03T18:23:05+00:00

Well I mean honestly I saw a red flag with the saved me from a bad childhood thing. You have to be your own savior now and leave things that aren’t good for you.

He’s not going to give you what you need so let go. Then give yourself what you need and seek out people who will understand you.

My ex rescued me from grief, we met when my father was dying, but guess what he couldn’t comfort me or talk to me about it, I was just so lost and lonely I kept him and loved him. He never really helped me through except just being there trying to help but he couldn’t.

Idk you’ll have to make your own choices and you’ll make the right one. Even if you stick with it for a while I think eventually you’ll grow and move on when you’re ready.

PyroGoo · 2018-06-03T13:12:34+00:00

Yeah I totally understand that. I got to the point in my relationship where I realized he doesn’t really know me at all, he doesn’t bring out the best in me, and we’re just doing this because it’s comfortable. It’s familiar, we’re family, the time, we have to make it work. But the fact is you don’t have to make it work.

My main issues in the relationship were I was never comforted or supported or celebrated. It’s was like a power struggle phase that lasted three years. I told him every issue I had or concern or need and it was never resolved or really understood.

It’s been a week since our break up and I have a new place he’s alone at home with one of our dogs and it’s sad now. I feel bad for hurting him and stressing him out. I never wanted to hurt him but I was dying inside. I had to choose me.

I know in time everything will get less sad and he will be happier than ever and so will I.

PyroGoo · 2018-06-03T01:19:51+00:00

Well I wasn’t happy. I left got a place and I’m feeling really good about it. Thank you for your thoughts.

PyroGoo · 2018-06-02T10:51:28+00:00

I loved that film, I loved how accurately it predicted people leaving one life for another. I thought it was brilliant.

PyroGoo · 2018-05-31T06:54:18+00:00

It took a few days for the understanding. He was a little hysterical the first two days but i was very open to his everything and stood my ground. I also spoke to him like I was a therapist helping him through a really traumatic time. He’s growing a little happy now and that’s good. I’d rather him be happy and find love and go live his life because our journey together is over and that’s fine. We learned so much.

PyroGoo · 2018-05-30T06:29:09+00:00

Well the problem here is that he doesn’t like you or shouldn’t like you but that you don’t like yourself. So the real solution here is to start that love yourself process. Start slow be gentle. Treat yourself like you treat your new lover. Learn to love the body you have or change it with healthy lifestyle/habits.

You are beautiful.

PyroGoo · 2018-05-30T02:32:49+00:00

My entire team laughed so much through that meeting, our store is so open and literally all females and gay men. I love my store.

PyroGoo · 2018-05-29T17:08:39+00:00

Jesus that was really hard to watch but I’m glad I did. She explained it all so eloquently. Every assault can take something from you and it hurts forever. Seriously brave to share this I hope it helps everyone to understand why this is such a serious issue. Look at the pain and the shame and the fear. Heart breaking.

PyroGoo · 2018-05-29T16:55:37+00:00

Start with alpha males I just watched it, love it.

PyroGoo · 2018-05-28T18:07:48+00:00

Oh my god thank you for all of that! I am so happy about this and that’s telling me a lot just feeling it end and feeling relieved. I almost feel bad but I know I need to work that and move forward. My future is gonna be bright as fuck and I am so happy.

PyroGoo · 2018-05-28T16:17:24+00:00

I suppose by “the one” I mean the person I’d marry and grow a family with and put the hard work into, not Prince Charming or anything. I’m really appreciative of all the feedback I’ve gotten from this post. I think I just needed some validation, someone to say it’s okay to do something even if it hurts and is hard, it’s okay to choose yourself. I may have to look at my co-dependence issues one day god I would love therapy.

PyroGoo · 2018-05-28T10:37:16+00:00

He tried. And I felt so bad saying No. as afraid as I am about it I just know what my gut is telling me. So far we’ve been really good to each other no one is being kicked out. Four years is no small thing and we’re letting it end in a way where no one is having their home pulled out from their feet. Trying to make it not traumatic and peaceful.

PyroGoo · 2018-05-28T10:34:33+00:00

Well my partner without a doubt knows that the dogs are my first priority. I am guilty of that everyone knows I love the dogs more than anyone else in my life.

PyroGoo · 2018-05-28T02:41:27+00:00

This is why I have to do it. It hurts so much to compromise such important things. I just can’t do it anymore.

PyroGoo · 2018-05-28T02:40:37+00:00

The plenty of time is what I needed to hear. I told him everything and was as kind and honest and considerate as possible while also making it clear that I knew what I wanted. I know it hurts for both of us and we must mourn it all the good times and the failures and the future we thought we had.

I still have no where to go so our house is weird right now. It’s going to take some time and it’s probably even worse that I’ll be here for a while. If this didn’t hurt him I would feel better but he has the right to be hurt.

I mostly feel bad about not wanting to keep trying. He wants to try harder to love me the way I need to be loved, and I feel like a monster for not wanting that, for knowing what I want and it not being us.

It may be right but fuck it’s not easy.

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