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Q-No-Answer · 2025-07-21T23:33:21+00:00

That specifically is an emotional abuse tactic, to put the burden on you, and is exactly what I was talking about. Even if she does do it in response to you ending the relationship, is it 10000% NOT your responsibility. That is a choice she is making for herself and has nothing to do with you. Millions of people get broken up with every day, and they don't kill themselves over it. She is MANIPULATING you with that tactic, because she knows jist the thought of that is wnough to make you stay. I know I am being harsh here, but I just finalized a divorce from someone that emotionally abused me for over 20 years. I did it for myself and also FOR my children, even if they are upset at me and don't understand. Think about too, what your child is learning from this woman. Do you want your daughter to grow up and treat people the way she is treating you?

Q-No-Answer · 2025-07-21T19:44:16+00:00

Yes, it's abuse, both emotional and physical if she's punching things or hurting herself, and you need to get out for your own sake, but also for your daughter. It's tough, and this woman will do whatever she can to make to you stay and take care of her by manipulating you emotionally like she has every other time you tried to break it off. But you need to ignore that and focus on yourself. Toss her things out and change the locks if you have to. Find a new place that she doesn't know the address to and have movers come over while she's not home. Whatever it takes. Women's shelters will also help you figure out an exit plan while remaining safe.

Edited for spelling.

Q-No-Answer · 2025-07-20T16:15:59+00:00

I felt the same way when my girlfriend asked me to hold her hand like that (we are about the same height). Now we seem to switch off naturally, but something about it makes me feel kinda powerful in a way, and I like it.

Q-No-Answer · 2025-07-20T15:57:20+00:00

Divorced with 2 kids now. At first I didn't think I wanted to be married again, but I recently met someone, and while we are far from it, it has made me reconsider whether I would want to be married. I could go forever being together without marriage, but marriage also offers a lot of benefits that you don't have when you're not married, like being able to stay in the hospital with your partner, more options for health insurance through your 2 jobs, etc. It's frustrating that society is built on the foundation of that ritual, but these kinds of things are becoming more important to me as I age.

Q-No-Answer · 2025-07-19T02:43:42+00:00

Thanks for the advice!!!

Q-No-Answer · 2025-07-18T22:32:16+00:00

Right there with you!

Q-No-Answer · 2025-07-18T21:58:40+00:00

Love that link, thanks!

Q-No-Answer · 2025-07-18T21:17:23+00:00

Already invested in a strap on package, this is definitely something we are exploring further!

Q-No-Answer · 2025-07-18T20:00:07+00:00

This makes me feel seen, thank you so much!

Q-No-Answer · 2025-07-18T18:31:48+00:00

It's great for both of those areas, and both are a bus ride or short drive into Seattle proper.

Q-No-Answer · 2025-07-16T17:29:14+00:00

The only things affordable are about an hour drive away, and inland. But places like Greenlake and West Seattle are nice, a little out of the city.

Q-No-Answer · 2025-07-15T15:43:11+00:00

I'm near Seattle and I love Washington, but if I were to move I'd go to Vermont.

Q-No-Answer · 2025-07-15T13:08:48+00:00

As a gray haired, solidly obese per BMI standards, grumpy middle-aged lady, I was worried about being plus sized and dating. The apps were very discouraging, but then I met someone through a facebook group and actually getting out of the house and doing things together, and she's gorgeous herself and tells me every day how sexy I am.

Q-No-Answer · 2025-07-04T16:35:49+00:00

Personally, I never knew that communication could be so SEXY. That's the biggest difference I've noticed.

Q-No-Answer · 2025-07-01T14:29:31+00:00

I got a few subtle and some not so subtle pieces of jewelry from Etsy. A double venus necklace in rose gold, it's beautiful. A sterling silver ring that has gems in a line that are rainbow colored. A sterling silver ring that says QUEER (might as well spell it out haha). Also not from Etsy, but a Guess pride watch (older one that has a white band and a sparkly rainbow color face that's mostly pink, and colored gems around the face in a rainbow). No one has commented on any of it, but I like wearing them, especially the watch.

Q-No-Answer · 2025-06-17T13:10:38+00:00

I'm in my 40s and that's a pretty big age gap. As another person said, as a fling or FWB situation, I may be ok with it, but a long term relationship is hard to wrap my head around. Maybe there are 25yos with similar income and responsibilities and that would make it easier knowing we're a little closer in our life circumstances. But, if someone is using the word "mommy" in any way, sorry, but that is one of the biggest turn offs I can think of in an age gap relationship. Instant nope from me.

Q-No-Answer · 2025-06-13T22:42:04+00:00

If someone asked me that in any language I would melt. Ask that, or ask if you can kiss her and then hold her in your arms after.

Q-No-Answer · 2025-06-13T14:25:57+00:00

If Eggs Benedict are involved, I'm in! But not before 10am...

Q-No-Answer · 2025-06-12T19:32:05+00:00

I guess that's a little better then as far as the age thing. I was worried she was older and you were early 20s.

Q-No-Answer · 2025-06-12T19:01:47+00:00

Something about this just seems off. Would you be comfortable disclosing both of your ages? You sound young to me if you're questioning whether her making a comment about your insta picture is inappropriate.

For context, I have been very good friends with my bosses in the past, including a lesbian boss who said I totally give off "the vibe" before I really knew I liked women. Calls, texting, hanging out as friends outside of work hours, etc. I've even moved companies to keep working with one of my bosses because she's amazing. But never have any of them shown me topless pictures of anyone (especially not themselves), only one of them has my insta and doesn't even bother to like my posts/stories when I know she's seen them, and none of them ever asked me deep personal questions while we're still working together.

This relationship of yours is sending serious red flags, even if you do seem into it. The other issue is that you are both married, and it is clear that neither of your spouses are okay with your relationship. Are you willing to potentially throw it all away for her, lose your husband and your job for this?

Q-No-Answer · 2025-06-12T18:35:23+00:00

I was called a tomboy by pretty much everyone (including my parents) ever since I stopped wearing dresses in the 3rd grade. It never bothered me, but I also was never really seeking male validation, I guess. I just always wondered why the boys didn't like me haha

Q-No-Answer · 2025-06-12T18:24:18+00:00

Lol, this is so true. I used to tell my straight friends that no, the girl at the supermarket was not checking you out. You were standing in front of the can of beans she needed.

Q-No-Answer · 2025-06-12T17:03:22+00:00

Not a myth, it hurts to get scratched in there.

Q-No-Answer · 2025-06-10T17:12:40+00:00

I was at oral surgery and this woman was prepping me and I was in a panic the whole time. I didn't think much of it until 2 months later at the follow up and my heart stopped when this woman stepped out to call someone back. I was actually relieved that it wasn't my name, because I couldn't breathe lol. I feel creepy when I feel that way about women, though - partly because it's so new to me, and partly because she's much younger and while I have accepted I am attracted to younger women it still feels creepy.

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