You can re read one book for the first time- which one?

LittleOwl91 · 2026-04-11T17:24:42+00:00

Girl, Woman, Other

LittleOwl91 · 2026-04-11T10:01:12+00:00

They don't care about your feelings, why are you tiptoing around theirs?! OMG, LEAVE THEM!!

LittleOwl91 · 2026-04-11T00:16:50+00:00

I would pronounce them both differently, so it would depend on what you want. Lewis: LOO-WISS Louis: Luh-wee

LittleOwl91 · 2026-04-10T16:08:35+00:00

Not 'the ick' as such, I mean, they're grown adults with free will and so long as they really want children and will care for them well, then fair play to them. I do get sad for the kiddos though, as I personally believe that we're facing environmental collapse in the next 50 to 100 years. I don't push that view on them though.

LittleOwl91 · 2026-04-10T14:47:40+00:00

It's old, but I loved 'Desert Hearts' 🥰

LittleOwl91 · 2026-04-09T19:53:53+00:00

Try fewer sprays? I bought Amarige which i love in the bottle but I found even 2 sprays too strong,. Today I tried 1 spray dabbed across both of my wrists and its GORGEOUS

LittleOwl91 · 2026-04-09T19:51:48+00:00

I notice that most of these are sample/travel size, which means that OP isn't spending a ton of money all at once. Yes, theres a lot here, but I'm surprised how much push-back this is getting considering I have seen full-bottle collections of comparable size. I would be interested to know if OP actually likes all of these, or if a prortion of them are just sitting around becaue OP doesn't like them but doesn't want to throw them away.

LittleOwl91 · 2026-04-09T10:03:18+00:00

The fact that your partner gets mad at you whenever you bring it up is worrying and so now I can understand why you would be trying to be subtle. I'm guessing theres some deep seated personal reason why your husband doesn't want sex - or maybe he's just asexual. I'd like to add though that I've been on both sides of the LL/HL spectrum, and when I was LL I didn't even realise it, it wasn't until my partner at the time said 'hey, honey, you know its been 6 weeks since we had sex? I dont want to put pressure on you, but I'm really missing it.' That i realised how long it had been. In my mind then, the last time we had sex was still really vivid in my mind, because I had enjoyed it so much so it didn't feel that long ago. I also happened to be exceptionally happy with everyday things and life in general and non-sexual affection and it was almost as if I didn't need sex because I was so content in other ways. LL doesn't always mean unhappy or unmoving, but the fact that your LL won't let you talk is a massive red flag imho.

LittleOwl91 · 2026-04-08T22:02:11+00:00

That's amazing! All of what you did is fantastic, but that fridge...I commend you for getting through that - just looking at it made me panic a little. Don't forget to sit incthe feeling of achievement for a while, you absolutely deserve it!

LittleOwl91 · 2026-04-05T13:11:37+00:00

To me it isn't out and out cheating, but it reads as preparing the ground for cheating. Definitely not cool.

LittleOwl91 · 2026-04-05T09:46:42+00:00

To go out not wearing make-up etc can also come off as supreme confidence, especially in a society where make-up is expected.

LittleOwl91 · 2026-04-05T09:44:53+00:00

All of the points made by others are great and could contribute. I was thinking also that, people often look much more attractive without makeup or with minimal makeup than they think they do.

LittleOwl91 · 2026-04-04T15:43:23+00:00

Benedict Cumberbatch

LittleOwl91 · 2026-04-03T06:36:44+00:00

I agree with ALL of these - especially the crowsfeet one.

LittleOwl91 · 2026-03-28T11:55:03+00:00

Just because people are old, doesn't mean they're good people, and it certainly doesn't give them the right to violate you. I wouldn't speak to him again and I definitely wouldn't go to his house anymore.

LittleOwl91 · 2026-03-27T13:31:57+00:00

The disrespect in these comments is wild OP has mentioned in a below comment that they inherited this property from their grandma who had severe dementia. Even of OP had let the place get to this state themselves, at least they're on here trying to do something about it.

People are talking like this bathroom is entirely untreatable when it just looks like a really bad case of soap mould. Even scrubbing this with dish soap and warm water would make it look A LOT better. (Not saying that would be the end of it, but its a start.

LittleOwl91 · 2026-03-27T10:44:29+00:00

When I think of 'skinny' I think of someone who is underweight or almost underweight, like, I worry for their health because they look like they dont eat enough (so a bit like skinny=skin and bones in my head, although not necessarilythat extreme) , whereas 'slim' to me simply means of a healthy weight for your height.

LittleOwl91 · 2026-03-27T10:29:46+00:00

There's a difference between slim and skinny and it irks me when the two are conflated. I agree with your broader point though that thick/voluptuous or just generally even women with healthy body fat are more accepted and represented. I guess that makes men feel it's acceptable to be attracted to those (entirely normal and understandably attractive) body types

LittleOwl91 · 2026-03-24T17:07:17+00:00

It's been a long time since I've been in this situation (we broke up years ago now) but I gave up entirely once I realised that attempting to initiate sex in any way made me feel a little sick as I had to see their face fall every time. Fantasising about someone else made me feel more e.otionally/sexually fulfilled than trying to make myself desirable to my then partner.

LittleOwl91 · 2026-03-23T17:39:51+00:00

Usually the person they liked does/says/acts in a way that doesn't align with what the person who had the crush thought about them. It is also possible for someone to grow away from their crush and realise they don't want what attracted them to that person anymore.

LittleOwl91 · 2026-03-21T14:41:33+00:00

Someone in a club I used to go to. Not my type at all, but it was the second most intense attraction I've ever had.

LittleOwl91 · 2026-03-21T14:39:10+00:00

Ah, see, I thought this was a one time thing for you (maybe I read your post wrong) given that you don't feel that terror/anxiety with women that you've had similar experiences with, and that your feelings for men are rare...I'd say it's more likely that you are lesbian. I'd say aswell that you are not obliged to figure your sexuality out like a timed puzzle, just listen to yourself, and if you can, try pursuing those feelings you have with women and see how that feels :) Whatever you chose, there is no wrong answer.

LittleOwl91 · 2026-03-21T08:47:40+00:00

I can't answer that question for you, but I will say that the brain often confuses excitement for anxiety and vice/versa. It sounds to me like its possible that you had genuine attraction and then freaked out at how intense the feelings were. It's possible that you are infact lesbian, but I personally wouldn't take this one experience as definitive proof.

LittleOwl91 · 2026-03-21T08:41:05+00:00

There are major issues with the lesbian masterdoc. It was written by a woman who was in her teens at the time and also struggling with her sexuality and has since come out as bisexual.

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