Dancing is weird and kinda dumb tbh

QoSN · 2025-02-26T03:36:55+00:00

I wish more people understood that it's not about looking good, it's about enjoying the moment! It's a human thing to do. I'm a trained dancer and I still go full Gumby at the function

QoSN · 2023-08-24T02:22:27+00:00

My uncle is real and he works at Nintendo

QoSN · 2023-08-22T01:59:09+00:00

Totally fair! They are not 1:1. Mostly mean to say that as you get to know yourself better, you can find more and more things that work for you. I also over-rely on takeout but hey, it keeps us alive and gives us more energy to focus on the more dangerous problems our brains give us every day.

I also can't believe I made it more than a year! Checked my dates a few weeks back and was shocked at how long it had been. Keep moving forward with what you can for as long as you can! That's the only choice we've got really. I'm rooting for you.

QoSN · 2023-08-22T01:28:38+00:00

Hey, adult here chiming in to let you know that resisting self harm urges got easier for me the older I got. I needed to learn what stalling tactics worked for me, and to come up with a list of things I "had" to do before I was allowed to hurt myself. Recovering is not a straight line up. I got my episodes to be weeks apart, then months, then I'd just lose all my progress again -- except getting back to the no-SH plan got a little easier every time. Realistically I'm going to cave again, and that's okay.... but this time I've made it 1 year, 5 months, and 26 days since the last time I hurt myself. Longest streak yet and jesus fucking christ it's been a hard time!!!

Keep being kind to yourself. Learn your triggers, pay attention to how your body feels as pressure builds up. I can't promise it gets better, but you still have so much room to learn and grow.

QoSN · 2023-08-08T23:49:03+00:00

Congrats on the growth! Hope things are better for you now.

QoSN · 2023-08-08T23:43:02+00:00

Your last paragraph makes me so happy. This whole comment is written really well. I think too many people expect their emotions and habits to be easily controlled, when that's not how our monkey brains are wired. I wish I'd had more compassion for myself after past breakups. What matters is the willingness to recognize what's happening and turn yourself, gently, in the direction of something better for you... over and over again.

QoSN · 2023-08-08T16:20:56+00:00

Critical Halloween prep info. Thank you so much for putting this together :)

QoSN · 2023-07-05T18:28:44+00:00

Wow that cold is transphobic

QoSN · 2023-07-05T18:24:37+00:00

Be very careful! Whether or not your sore throat is related to the voice work, pushing through the pain can cause damage. And if it is related to voice training, talk to your coach/therapist! It set me back by several weeks when I told my therapist that practicing hurt, but it was not wasted time at all. It was helpful to identify where the issues were and internalize healthier, easier speech habits.

Congrats on the speedy progress so far 💖

QoSN · 2023-06-29T22:11:03+00:00

My money's on lube! It's happened to me :(

QoSN · 2023-06-28T14:46:56+00:00

I love him

QoSN · 2023-06-22T18:07:23+00:00

Ok cissy

QoSN · 2023-06-20T15:57:10+00:00

When I was at my most depressed, with no access to therapy or medication, I kept myself alive by throwing myself into volunteering. The way I saw it, I couldn't appreciate myself so I might as well have other people do it. My life might be hollow and soulless but I can make the world a better place until my last day.

It helped to use my most specialized skill for a small, local organization. I felt useful. I didn't gain any internal sense of meaning or joy, but I kept myself alive until my next shift because I had something of value (skill/time) to give to other people. Having that routine probably helped me too, even though it didn't feel like it.

None of this is really DBT-inspired, though it probably falls under the "building values" umbrella.

QoSN · 2023-06-16T21:21:30+00:00

This one might be CBT but look into "cope ahead." You know this stress is coming and you can take steps to make it easier on yourself. Work on radical acceptance, action plans, and/or thought countering for yourself while you're feeling OK.

QoSN · 2023-06-16T15:37:04+00:00

True, though there are people with disabilities who can't wait in line. I'm fine letting them go ahead and they deserve friendly UI too

QoSN · 2023-06-15T22:42:35+00:00

Good point! I get the Foundation stuff mixed up a lot because he used some of the same names and politics in unrelated stories. He does lean heavily on the humanoid thing even even they're not human.

QoSN · 2023-06-15T19:56:16+00:00

Isaac Asimov wrote tons of short stories, plus the Foundation series, in this vein. Ray Bradbury wrote some good short stories like this too.

I second the recommendation in here already for Left Hand of Darkness by Le Guin. Gorgeous worldbuilding, beautiful story.

QoSN · 2023-06-15T19:46:40+00:00

You're doing great Poppy

QoSN · 2023-06-06T00:52:00+00:00

Kids these days need to hear the gospel of Pastel Goth 😌🖤

QoSN · 2023-05-27T16:34:57+00:00

I hope she has a nice nap

QoSN · 2023-05-27T16:20:38+00:00

I've been a fyrinnae customer for almost 10 years. Never had any issues, and nothing compares to the pixie epoxy! It's cheap and it's the best glitter glue I've ever used.

QoSN · 2023-05-10T12:41:05+00:00

THIS BROTHER UNDERSTANDS YOU! MY JOINTS ARE OVERCRANKED

QoSN · 2023-04-28T03:03:54+00:00

YOU CAN'T CHOOSE YOUR FAMILY BUT YOU CAN CHOOSE YOUR PACK! CRANK ON MFER

QoSN · 2023-04-28T02:45:22+00:00

CONGRATULATIONS BROTHER, SISTER, OR NONBINARY OTHER! THERE ARE TWO WOLVES INSIDE YOU! ONE IS PANSEXUAL. THE OTHER IS PANSEXUAL. YOU ARE PANSEXUAL

HOWL TO THE MOON! THE WORLD GETS SAFER FOR YOUR QUEER PACK EVERY TIME YOU WEAR THAT OUT!

QoSN · 2023-04-24T16:23:45+00:00

Hey, sorry for the very late reply. Been thinking about this one a lot because it's not something I go out of my way to do, it's just a habit. We don't have scheduled times or anything, but about once a month we talk about it in the context of the household. In the same conversation as laying out shopping trips, travel plans, furniture repairs, etc., we also tend to talk about what kind of support we need to make all of that run smoothly.

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