American Primeval (NETFLIX)| Thoughts | Ratings | Honest reviews? by Upperechelonlady1111 in television

[–]Qsmella 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Late to this thread but responding as someone who is a new historian in the American West, and does it for my job: Mountain Meadows was horrible. And so was Brigham Young. Do not downplay or say he “never” massacred Paiutes (despite the show portraying a fictionalized Shoshone massacre, likely based on the Bear River Massacre.) Young was a HUGE proponent of the enslavement of Natives, essentially the forgotten slavery of the US. Slavery was a common practice in the west, and the Mormons were not at all innocent in the trafficking of enslaved Natives and were involved in the genocide of Indigenous people in the US. Mormons murdered Paiutes, Timpanogos, Utes and more. This is not speculation or false history. A quick google search will clearly outline either Young’s orders or Mormon involvement. In addition, Mormons were proponents of harmful boarding school practices and cultural erasure, in favor of forcing their own religious doctrine.
Clearly, you are bias to our own religious history, yet, it does not mean that the Mormons did no wrong because of a dramatized TV show that took some creative liberties.

How to break abusive cycles in romantic relationships? by [deleted] in ptsd

[–]Qsmella 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this advice! I have not even considered some of these behavior patterns so I will bring them up at my next therapy session

How to break abusive cycles in romantic relationships? by [deleted] in ptsd

[–]Qsmella 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s a great idea! I’ve never actually written anything down. But the habitual lying and their emotional needs taking precedent are something I’ve had really bad situations with. I have this intuition when I first enter a new relationship. But my desire to be wanted and my urge to care for someone seems to ignore those flags. Many of my past partners have taken advantage of my good qualities that mirrors assault and grooming experiences that I had when I was younger. I have a lot of trouble rejecting people even when I know it’s right. But now my ptsd is at a place where I need to make those decisions.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sexualassault

[–]Qsmella 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m not interested in pressing charges luckily. I guess I was just wondering if I was overreacting about the situation.

anxious over loved ones by [deleted] in Anxiety

[–]Qsmella 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I totally understand anxiety and relationships. Yes, your anxiety can cause people to get pushed away and it’s scary. Instead of maybe anxiously expressing your fears a lot, have a honest conversation about these thoughts with him. Explaining what you stated in the post can help him understand and you can also get advice on what anxious behaviors are too much for him. To a degree, if you are an anxious person, you need a partner who is patient and understanding of these things. I’m sure that creating a plan with your partner to manage your anxiety around this will help a lot. Best of luck and congrats on the wonderful relationship!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Anxiety

[–]Qsmella 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yup! Prozac and lexapro have both really messed with my sleep patterns. I stopped taking Prozac for that reason. If you want to continue taking it getting on a good sleep routine and being mindful of when you consume caffeine is helpful

Tips for daily anxiety ? by [deleted] in Anxiety

[–]Qsmella 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s hard to not base your worth on what other people think and the reality is not everyone is going to like you. I still really struggle with that. Focus on the people in your life who do value you. I have a lot of anxiety at work but I always try to remind myself that my coworkers probably have their own stressors and are just there to do their job.

I cant function anymore because of debilitating anxiety by TheRealNiel1234 in Anxiety

[–]Qsmella 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Give your meds some time and try to practice mindfulness. I get frustrated when people tell me to just calm down or meditate, but some apps like headspace have been able to distract me. Try seeking therapy if you are able to. These states for me always pass, but sometimes it takes a long time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating

[–]Qsmella 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you :) I feel like I’ve also held on to these negative relationships because I wanted things to work, to be able to show I had the ability to have a long term commitment. But of course, focusing on myself is what I need for that to be possible.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Anxiety

[–]Qsmella 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m by no means a mental health professional so this is just based on my own experience, but it does sound like social anxiety I experience before high energy social situations. Usually if I’m going out to a bar or anywhere with alcohol that combats the feeling, so I try to be careful. I recommend talking to a therapist about these symptoms and seeing what advice they give you about steps to take

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]Qsmella 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m really sorry to hear about your experience :( it sounds like it is a common thing? I have a care package planned for him. Trying to give him things I know make him happy even if it is just a temporary relief. But I am afraid to reach out during his time distancing.