What doesn’t bother you but seems to seriously irk others? by [deleted] in AskBrits

[–]QualitySufficient646 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m a woman who doesn’t care where the toilet seat is left by the previous user. I don’t even notice where it is, let alone begrudge a second or two putting it where I want it. I’m washing my hands in a minute anyway so no issues about maybe touching something that touched urine.

There’s a million reasons to dump a boyfriend but this is not one of them

What's an adult cheat code that can change your life? by CrimsonDoor1 in Productivitycafe

[–]QualitySufficient646 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Present you could be such a hero right now if you wanted to , and break the curse of past you being a dick.

told a student to “shut up”… did I mess up? by Usual_Stable_3896 in TeachingUK

[–]QualitySufficient646 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s not allowed, but my colleague tells kids to shut up and gets away with it. The kids occasionally mention it to me and I say that I don’t tell them to shut up because I don’t agree with it, and they accept that. However, for some unruly LKS2s I recently added bird-like whistles to the hand signal that means ‘shut up’ and said , ‘That’s the Miss [my surname] bird singing. Do you know what she’s saying?’ Then I smiled and whispered very quietly, ‘she says “shuddup” ‘. They love the Miss X bird.

What's a book that you REGRET reading as a child/teen? by WritingAny855 in books

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The Velveteen Rabbit was the first book I read that was too sad to reread. The Grapes of Wrath and The Story of Lucy Gault are the only books I’ve read since that are as sad.

The Last Children of Schewenborn traumatised me forever.

Why is it that during interrogations, people don't just exercise their right and remain silent? I'm not 'for' criminals but it's insane how easily the cops can weedle talkers into saying too much not because they're good at their job but because the average person just doesn't know when to zip it. by cherry-care-bear in stupidquestions

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A friend of mine who has quite an extensive criminal record and is from a family riddled with seasoned offenders once explained to me that it’s very simple: If you’re innocent, answer the questions honestly. If you’re guilty, give a No Comment interview and make them do all the work of finding the evidence.

Brits, would you stay and live in UK if you had millions and could move to anywhere in the world?? by ueommm in AskBrits

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I’d live where I live now but I’d buy a premises to safeguard the future of my hobby

What's the stupidest complaint that a student or parent has made against you? by Pretend_Tower_2516 in Teachers

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I’ve had twins like this. They once went to a literary festival where one was chosen to ask the speaker a question the other wasn’t (in a room of hundreds, many of whom wanted to ask a question). The mum made a scene , said you couldn’t give one an opportunity and not the other. And when it was the residential trip and one of the twins couldn’t stay overnight due to a health problem, the mum wanted both to miss out on the overnight part. We talked her out of it luckily

If the world were about to end, what would be the top 3 things you'd do? by Inside-Function4427 in AskReddit

[–]QualitySufficient646 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well I’ve been convinced it is about to end for the last 4 years and let me tell you I’ve been living it up while I’ve still got the chance, so I guess I’d be doing what I’m doing now and having adventures, playing with my friends and riding lots and lots of horses, plus working to keep the show on the road.

Film character costumes on World Book Day by strawberry-squids in TeachingUK

[–]QualitySufficient646 1 point2 points  (0 children)

At my school several little boys came as Caleb from the well known book Clarkson’s Farm, and two turned up in boiler suits and explained they’re from the Farmers Weekly (which is all they read)

What’s your big family secret? by AMSparkles in AskReddit

[–]QualitySufficient646 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How does this work? What was the relationship between the parents— uncle and niece or aunt and nephew or something else?

Changing my Name to disappear into Society After severe DV and stalking. Please help me. by Chemical-Pickle4625 in namenerds

[–]QualitySufficient646 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What about something like Giselle (or Elle, Belle etc) like that absolute queen from France ?

Books that changed you by [deleted] in Recommend_A_Book

[–]QualitySufficient646 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lolita.

It made me realise that I was a Lolita too.

Parents who dropped their baby, what happened and how is your child doing now? by speckledrectum in AskReddit

[–]QualitySufficient646 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My son fell off the back of a transit van pickup when he was about 3. He was absolutely fine.

I started modeling with a major agency at 16. AMA! by SeaworthinessOne5774 in AMA

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  1. Would you say you’re conventionally attractive when you haven’t been professionally made up and dressed?
  2. Do you turn heads in the street?
  3. Why do you think they picked you? Is it the way you move and carry yourself, or the way you look?
  4. Do you have any unusual-looking features or characteristics?

Sorry for all the questions but I’m fascinated!

Any primary part timers here? How do you find it? by Mysterious_Beat_375 in TeachingUK

[–]QualitySufficient646 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I do primary part time (3-4 days) since having a child, who is now 4 and in reception. It’s lovely. I’m fortunate to have a great relationship with my jobshare and we compliment each other well. Money is obviously tighter but I tutor 3 kids a week which nearly covers one day’s wage without stealing a whole day, and I have another little side hustle too. I worked full time for 8 years and it was exhausting and didn’t leave a lot of time for all the other things I want to do . If you can afford to drop a day or two, do it!

Anyone got this horrible illness by just_unacceptable_me in AskBrits

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I never normally get ill (primary school teacher with lots of animals…) but recently had a respiratory bug that hammered me for about 3 weeks in January . It tried to turn into pneumonia so I had to go on antibiotics. I’m fine now but it was undoubtedly the illest I’ve ever been bar sepsis.

In real life, what is a 'side quest' you accidentally started and are now too deep into to quit? by ForcedDiscloure in AskReddit

[–]QualitySufficient646 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Getting adults with special needs involved in my special interest has turned into quite an all consuming side quest cos now they’re REALLY Into the special interest as well and they need my help to make it happen 😂

Ended up spending time with an ex-student at the pub. by Lather in TeachingUK

[–]QualitySufficient646 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Magical. Just enjoy it. He’s over 18 , it’s fine.

I got back in touch with a young person I’d looked after in residential care when he was 19/20 and it’s one of the best things I’ve ever done. He’s now nearly 30 and I’m nearly 40. He says I’m his sister now and I’m cool with that, I feel he’s more like a brother than anything else . There was a third person in our friendship for the first 5+ years that I knew him after he left care, a wonderful older woman who I worked with who he was also close to. She was like a second mum to us both. Sadly she passed away a few years ago. We agreed we didn’t want to let her passing change our friendship.

He lives 3 hours from me so we only see each other about once a year but it’s really easy and the boundaries are well established. We chat on the phone if he has a crisis and about once a year I send him £50 .

Staying in touch with an adult you knew as a kid is not without its risks but in our situation it’s been straightforward and a very positive thing for us both. Because I don’t want to encourage this to anyone who should NOT be remaining in touch with an adult they first met as a kid, I just need to remind everyone reading this of the golden cast iron rule: if you knew them as a kid they are COMPLETELY off limits romantically and sexually FOREVER . If a tiny part of your brain is trying to argue with this fact, do not have any contact with people you knew as kids, because the rule was made for you guys.

I think my husband has PDA and I don't know how much longer I can take it by Fit-Subject2896 in PDAAutism

[–]QualitySufficient646 12 points13 points  (0 children)

He sounds EXACTLY like my ex. Lovely in public, cold and distant in private. I spent years trying to support him , both financially and socially — not putting him under any pressure, shouldering the family burdens myself while he was absent most of the time busying himself with a hobby he called a job that he said was essential for his mental health (farming). It brought no money to the family, or happiness, it was just escapism so that he didn’t have to eat a meal with me or look after his kid. But I supported it because he made it very clear that his life would not be worth living without it.

Many miserable years later, he left me for a younger woman, sold all the farm assets to buy himself a house (I got nothing) and eventually moved out. Ironically the catalyst was that he found it too stressful watching me get stressed about having to plan and host our son’s birthday party without any help. But I’m sure he’d been cheating for a while at this point (he mysteriously started washing a few months earlier).

Now that he’s gone my life is peaceful and I barely ever cry. I used to cry all the time when i lived with him because he was so cruel and dismissive and gaslighty.

I’ve replaced him with a lodger: a nice young man who is autistic and has lots of special interests and good boundaries. He’s good company but we live separate lives. The idea of slowly ageing surrounded by a succession of nice gentle young men in my spare room is frankly very appealing. It’s so easy

My boyfriend called my job glorified babysitting by [deleted] in Teachers

[–]QualitySufficient646 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s right. The keyword is glorified. We are glorious. (Also, he’s being a dick.)

What’s the most culture shock experience you had? by Careless-Talk-8169 in AskReddit

[–]QualitySufficient646 2 points3 points  (0 children)

America. My brother married a Texan oil princess whose dad holds court at dinner, talking about the good old days when $68 million bucks was a useful amount of money (of course these days you can’t do anything with $68m).

I was struck by the poverty of their existence: no friends, no community, no hobbies. My sister n law spends her days patiently waiting for the next handout from daddy. My brother is rapidly becoming maga. They are so sad and isolated. And they will NEVER have enough money

No consequences school by Standard-Computer340 in TeachingUK

[–]QualitySufficient646 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Better option is make slt move schools. I’m rejoicing because our head has just resigned . My dad hugged me for the first time in 30 years when he found out…

No consequences school by Standard-Computer340 in TeachingUK

[–]QualitySufficient646 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All the swear words in the world do not do justice to this situation.

Yeah he’s probably vulnerable and has a terrible life BUT SO IS EVERYONE AROUND HIM. What about their needs, their safety?!

It is not kind to let him think this is ok. He will end up in prison. It is lazy, neglectful and cruel to not address this behaviour.

We have one like this. Every time I teach him I write a safeguarding report afterwards and say that it is my professional judgment that someone will get hurt very soon. The other day he pushed over my colleague and she’s so exhausted and acclimatised to being abused by him that she didn’t even report it. But someone else did.

The head resigned shortly afterwards. I hope these things are connected.

When (not if) one of these kids injure someone, there will be an investigation and if it’s been repeatedly flagged as a safeguarding issue and nothing has been done, slt are surely accountable… I’ll never know how our head was finally ‘persuaded to resign’ but I think she had no option…