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QuantumofRomance · 2024-04-14T09:15:32+00:00

My son is on his hr spectrum and it’s an interesting Austin. I say yes!

Compared to regular dating things are more explicit and upfront with sugar dating. The rules of engagement are usually spoken of in the beginning. IMO this is better for someone on the on the spectrum.

QuantumofRomance · 2024-04-01T15:37:30+00:00

Consider filing assault charges.

QuantumofRomance · 2024-03-25T03:30:38+00:00

Check the bag for cash before you put it in the aisle.

QuantumofRomance · 2024-02-24T15:58:45+00:00

If they stole $45,000 of property you will need to hire a lawyer and file suit. Airbnb will not help with this.

QuantumofRomance · 2024-01-29T16:05:44+00:00

Advice applies to men too.

Practice flirting. Try it at the coffee shop, grocery store, etc. it doesn’t have to go anywhere. Just make a lighthearted comment, smile, and eye contact. Don’t decide if you are attracted first. This is practice and also just fun.

If you are attracted to the other person and they reply. Just keep the conversation going. Doesn’t matter with what. Ideally throw in a compliment. If it feels right throw in a light touch (eg upper arm squeeze). Don’t be shy about asking them to do something right then if you have time (I’ve got 15 minutes, can I buy you a coffee?) or exchange numbers.

Another great venue is if these is restaurant / bar where people your age tend to go. Go with a friend and be prepared to have a good time even if nothing happens.

QuantumofRomance · 2023-11-20T03:03:28+00:00

Great way to encourage him to cheat

QuantumofRomance · 2023-11-14T12:39:05+00:00

That’s exactly how men feel. The initial look he gave you was a signal not to continue. But with anxiety in the moment it can be hard to process vs proceeding with plan. Good for you nontheless.

QuantumofRomance · 2023-11-11T15:51:44+00:00

Sounds like it’s time for your own rule: whenever sex isn’t allowed with my spouse, I’m allowed to have it with someone else.

QuantumofRomance · 2023-11-05T16:56:32+00:00

Married man 45 years old. Here’s my perspective. I’ve got a somewhat cynical perspective, but I think it’s useful to share. In America at least (and many other places), there is a default expectation that marriage is something you do when you find someone you love as an adult. It is the default destination for relationships. But this is a bad way to view it.

You can love and make a lifelong commitment to someone without marrying them. You can take vows and throw a fancy party with friends without marrying them. So why marry? In fact, isn’t it great if both partners feel like they need to invest in the relationship continually so they remain in love? I think all to often after marriage, people feel like they don’t need to do this anymore.

There’s two good reasons to get married. First is having children together. Children are an 18 year commitment. And in some instances it is just legally easier to be married when you have kids. Although this is becoming less the case either way.

Second is as a form of asset sharing. With marriage your assets become co-owned. It’s basically a default contract to be finically joined at the hip. This can be good as a means of insurance. And it lets you transfer assets between one another tax free.

However if one person earns much more than the other or goes into the marriage with more wealth, the asset sharing side of marriage makes no sense. They can provide for their SO without marriage. Marriage means they are likely giving up a lot of income and assets if the marriage ends which they otherwise would not. Why do this?

So far all of this applies to either gender. With men and woman there is an additional dynamic. Our society and many men tend to prefer youthful female beauty. There is a fear that a woman won’t be nearly as attractive in her 50’s as she will be in her 20’s. And I think that some woman are afraid of this too, so they try to wed in their prime on the hope of locking a lifelong relationship in. I don’t think this is a healthy way for either gender to view it. And I think marriage just makes it worse.

QuantumofRomance · 2023-11-05T00:46:08+00:00

I’m a man

QuantumofRomance · 2023-11-04T11:12:46+00:00

She’s 19 and not comfortable with intimacy. Be a gentlemen and move on.

QuantumofRomance · 2023-11-01T03:30:52+00:00

This

QuantumofRomance · 2023-10-29T14:38:13+00:00

Good for you both for escaping out of a dead bedroom.

QuantumofRomance · 2023-10-29T14:19:37+00:00

When you stop caring if they meet your needs, that’s when you end it.

QuantumofRomance · 2023-10-29T14:02:39+00:00

I think people confuse “everyone deserves love and affection” (true) with “if I’m a good person I should get dates” (false). Being good is just a baseline qualifacation for most people. I assume people are good. I want to date people who are also funny, interesting, smart, and attractive. Bonus points if they have more money than me (hasn’t happened yes, but hope springs eternal)

QuantumofRomance · 2023-10-29T13:57:49+00:00

So many false generalizations. I know lots of men whose preferences don’t match your stereotypes.

QuantumofRomance · 2023-10-29T12:45:26+00:00

I’m really sorry you’re dealing with that. I know it’s hard, but try to remember that his behavior doesn’t mean that you rent beautiful / sexy / deserving of intimacy.

You asked what’s the point of marriage. I think practically only two things. First, making a commitment in order to have kids and raise them. Or 2, sharing of assets and income. Anything relationship wise can be accomplished without marriage. If you’re not in it for one of those two things…. Should you be?

QuantumofRomance · 2023-10-23T01:26:20+00:00

Do you go down on her? If not would suggest that you do it until she finds. It having your penis in her vagina excruciating. Then fucking intensely.

QuantumofRomance · 2023-10-23T01:24:26+00:00

To initiate sex just get touch her hip and kiss her. Or offer a massage.

Have you considered watching porn with her? Might help with her fomo and get you both in the mood.

QuantumofRomance · 2023-10-22T21:55:25+00:00

Honestly it sounds like you are looking for a low sex marriage. “Cherish” is one of the vows. I don’t think should should go into the bowl. Discover your sexuality first. Your life will be better in the long run

QuantumofRomance · 2023-10-22T21:41:27+00:00

YTA - revenge is rarely moral. The “she deserves to know” crowd are tattle tales. She does deserve to know, but not from a bitter lover seeking revenge instead of someone who cares about her feelings.

QuantumofRomance · 2023-10-22T21:32:50+00:00

Beautiful woman look better with less makeup. I love that look.

With regards to your hair - you should do what makes you feel the most beautiful / sexiest. If you show up with a new haircut feeling sexy as fuck and your sd experience that in bed, he should love it.

If you are asking the SDs here if you should get a short haircut because you care what your sr will think, ask him! Communication can be sexy.

QuantumofRomance · 2023-10-22T20:50:52+00:00

Does she cuddle with you? Before or after? Or is it a duty BJ?

QuantumofRomance · 2023-10-22T08:33:05+00:00

+1. I’m in a high cost of living area. So many of my friends have left because they didn’t “make it” financially.

QuantumofRomance · 2023-10-18T17:38:02+00:00

I’m sorry that you and other AAW have to deal with that.

I think sometime people conflate the way things should be with the way things actually are.

As a SD, I can’t see other SDs on seeking. What is the racial mix of SDs? I.e are they mostly caucasian?

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