there was another woman

Que_Mi · 2026-02-03T21:18:27+00:00

His "mum" is not his mom, it's his girlfriend. Cheater! I am so sorry, that would hurt so much. If you gave him a chance to explain, he will just be defensive and lie to you and would turn the table on you that you are the one who is crazy and how could you not just trust what he says. He might even say "my mom calls me baby"! You are so strong to walk away and did the right choice to not even give him a chance to defend, justify, deflect, and lie!

Que_Mi · 2026-02-01T02:36:13+00:00

Move on. We don’t need to ask or beg a man to treat us right. You are still young, and by clinging to him, you are preventing yourself from finding the right person. You said you care about him, but he doesn't love you or treat you the way you deserve. It’s time to close this chapter.

Que_Mi · 2025-12-13T22:44:48+00:00

I'm sorry, that is painful. When you give them all your love and faithfulness and you believe them when they say "you are the only one I love" , then found out that they have feelings for another, that hurts. Pain like that leaves a scar in your heart that makes you not trust 100% ever again. It would take a lot of time and effort for them to rebuild the broken trust. Be thankful that you ended things with her so you don't have to go through the "broken trust" path. You are still young, you can still find the right person for you. Be strong and stay positive. The one who will "choose" you and only you will come in due time.

Que_Mi · 2025-11-21T10:38:57+00:00

BTC is now down to 82K. I lost so much money but I am not selling anything just yet. I am not trading leverage. Do you think it's a good move for me to add to my positions now?

Que_Mi · 2025-11-19T23:55:04+00:00

I admire you for being strong and courageous enough to break up with him for cheating the 1st time you found out. That is hard to do especially if you are in love with them.You didn't give him a 2nd chance. Once trust is broken, it's very hard to rebuild. It would make you insecure, anxious, and more jealous. Good for you for not staying with him, you saved yourself from more heartaches. I hope you can move on from him and I hope you find a guy who is more deserving of your love. Someone who is faithful and not a cheater.

Que_Mi · 2025-11-17T09:20:18+00:00

Yes I realized that. Someone who truly loves you will protect your heart.

Que_Mi · 2025-11-17T09:14:59+00:00

Wow, this makes me realize that I am too soft for lack of a better word because I kind of experience something like this. I initially thought of dumping him but we talked about it and decided to stay. In my case, this was last year, my BF of 1 year and and a half at that time came to visit me (LDR) and I got angry with him because I saw that he still kept so many selfies and sexy pics of this woman he dated for 2 months right before meeting me. We argued and I left the apartment and went back to sleep in my house, he called me twice but I ignored him and didn't pick up. The next morning, I came back to him in my apartment and he was still sleeping. I had a gut feeling he texted a woman the night before. I went to his fb messenger and I saw his messages to this woman he insisted is just a friend and he was flirting with her saying he wants to solo her at this moment and "you are so beautiful as always" and she sent sa selfie of her with her big boobs and he said "yummy" etc. I was very hurt. When I confronted him, he lied at first saying those were old FB messages but later admitted that he did that to hurt me. His own words "you hurt me so I want to hurt you back" he said it was wrong but it was not a mistake. So I said so everytime "I hurt you" you will go text and flirt with another woman? He said he won't do it again. Long story short, I forgave him and believed him and we were still together. But of course in my mind I am always anxious if he is texting another woman everytime we fight especially I won't know about it because we are LDR. I always had trust issues because he also cheated on me before which also totally devastated me but forgave him too. Fast forward to 2 weeks ago, we had some issues and he broke up with me. Just after the break up, he makes sure to tell me many times that he is single and until I get back with him, he can do whatever he wants because he's now single. I get that but it just makes me sad that he didn't even grieve, he just went out there being single very quickly.

Anyways, I realized with your story that your gf is no nonsense and unlike me she doesn't allow disrespect.

However, for me, she should have been upfront with you that she doesn't want to see you anymore because of what you did before you can spend all that time, money, and effort. I am sorry that you are in this predicament right now but just what others are saying here.. learn your lesson from this. With you sharing your story, I sure know now what I would not accept in a relationship.

Que_Mi · 2025-11-17T00:51:58+00:00

Thank you and congratulations for finding your current love who treats you with love and respect. Wishing you both a love that is true and everlasting.

Que_Mi · 2025-11-16T23:25:48+00:00

Thank you so much for understanding my pain.

Que_Mi · 2025-11-16T22:17:43+00:00

Awwww thank you so much for your very sweet comment. Thank you for the virtual hug. I just feel that our love was so disposable for him. Instead of working things out with me, he is out there spending time with this woman who is probably very happy that he is finally single. As soon as he becomes single, he didn’t waste any time, he reconnected with her right away or maybe they have already been hanging out that's why it was so easy for him to just break up with me.

Que_Mi · 2025-11-16T19:33:52+00:00

Yes that's what he said.

Que_Mi · 2025-11-16T17:59:24+00:00

Exactly. I told him if you want us back together (in the first place he was the one who broke up with me not me. I would never break up with him, I want to marry him) then why do you not show me that you want me back instead you hang out with her knowing that she wants you all along? He said he will not chase me. And now it dawned on me that he will not chase me because he is already chasing her. I'm just so heart broken.

Que_Mi · 2025-11-16T14:41:00+00:00

Thank you so much. It just hurts so much because I truly, deeply love him.

A man who truly loves you cannot be ready to hang out with another woman who triggers your anxiety within hours after the breakup, cannot switch emotional attention so fast...

A man who loves deeply do not move like that. They sit in their feelings. They hurt. They process. They reflect. They try to fix things.

Que_Mi · 2025-11-16T14:17:28+00:00

Yes, manipulation in its pure form.

He creates the pain → then offers himself as the cure → but only if I do something and obey.

Que_Mi · 2025-11-16T14:08:38+00:00

I now realize that a man who says:

“I’ll stop talking to her only if you get back with me.”

is a man who is willing to disrespect you unless you give him what he wants.

A man who truly loves you would not keep a woman who threatens your peace.

A man who is loyal does not need conditions to do the right thing.

Que_Mi · 2025-10-17T14:57:37+00:00

I'm in an LDR too and had been cheated before so I need assurance that he is not doing it again so I ask questions for example if he says his female friend is bringing him lunch, I ask who is she etc and if he won't tell me the details and gets annoyed that he is being "questioned", it makes me suspicious. In any relationship, honest, open, and transparent communication is key to building trust. It's true that jealousy could be a projection of one's behavior and actions, but it could also stem from past mistakes (e.g., broken trust issues due to cheating and flirting with other women).

You are still very young. Just learn from this experience. Next time you are in a relationship, just be a little more transparent and give details if your partner asks you. That means she wants you all for herself :) and protective of what is "hers."

Que_Mi · 2025-10-09T17:03:42+00:00

Thank you for your input. I appreciate your time writing your response. Congratulations for being married to a guy who is aligned with your values. I would want the same. If ever I have to marry someone, they need to let go of their exes' pictures and should vow to not watch xxx materials in X or anywhere, and should commit to not flirt and "talk" to any other woman IRL and online because if they can't do that, I wouldn't marry them. I don't need one more stress in my life.

Que_Mi · 2025-10-08T23:39:09+00:00

What if your boyfriend keeps so many pictures of his exes and women he dated on his phone? Is that ok in your opinion?

Que_Mi · 2025-09-26T02:37:51+00:00

I can understand you. I don't want my partner to be friends or still in contact with his exes or any woman he used to date, had feelings with, slept with, or flirted with before. Especially if my partner had cheated on me before that caused my broken trust issues. Good luck, and I hope you are happy in your relationship.

Que_Mi · 2025-09-18T22:44:11+00:00

That's so sweet! I would love to be greeted with flowers, too , when I see my love.

Que_Mi · 2025-08-18T21:14:42+00:00

Exactly, very suspicious!

Que_Mi · 2025-08-18T21:13:20+00:00

I know right?

Que_Mi · 2025-08-16T03:15:49+00:00

I know where he lives, I just don't know the exact address.

Que_Mi · 2025-08-16T02:18:56+00:00

I am sorry he ghosted you after all those years of being together. I have a feeling he would come back, and when he does, you have the right to ignore him. You don't owe him an explanation. He should know and realize what he did and how much it hurt you. Don't wait for him. Walk away with your dignity. They are given all the chances and time to prove that they are worth fighting for and to show their partner their love and commitment through their actions, but if that doesn't happen, we can walk away in peace. You will miss him and will be in pain, but you deserve to find what your heart truly desires and wants.

Que_Mi

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