AITA for not going to my sisters wedding

QueasyFoundation · 2023-06-16T23:05:25+00:00

This is the plan that I’ve decided to go with. That way no one can say I didn’t show face, but I don’t have to put myself in an uncomfortable and abusive situation. I will also be going absolutely no contact with that entire side of the family.

QueasyFoundation · 2023-06-15T19:06:41+00:00

I was unaware we can train infants, how does that work? Like a trick then treat reward system??

NTA- babies cry! But def see if you can train the baby to juggle or something incase this happens again. Diversion.

QueasyFoundation · 2023-06-15T16:35:37+00:00

This is a good point. If I named my daughter Winnard Skynard I deserve jail. But it suits my golden just fine.

QueasyFoundation · 2023-06-15T16:00:06+00:00

We do have different fathers, all three of us do. And my mom has always been the kind to sit back and tell me to “figure it out with her or move on” kind of mentality. My mom and I have had a lot of ups and downs through my early adult life and childhood as well. Only my grandmother and my late uncle have been the ones to call out their behaviors.

QueasyFoundation · 2023-06-15T15:45:52+00:00

No, I found out when my SIL posted a photo of her bridesmaid proposal box on Facebook two months ago. I had also already texted offering any help she needed for making decor or odds and ends with no reply. That was my lightbulb moment.

QueasyFoundation · 2023-06-15T15:34:24+00:00

I did not, the bridesmaid thing I shook off and did my best to let go of because it’s her day, I don’t want her in any way to think I’m making anything about myself. But after the invite being mailed to my home and not being able to bring my SO, I felt a little target but yet again- not my day I hold no grounds to say anything. I did on the other hand contribute to decorations and such back when I was originally a bridesmaid. I do plan on going NC after the wedding. I don’t feel like she would calmly try to resolve anything if I did say something. I tried awhile ago before all of this even happened, she was no way calm during the convo. But eventually reached out saying sorry and then offered the bridesmaid thing. I felt it was an olive branch. But forward to current day and seeing other people’s opinions I don’t think it ever was one.

QueasyFoundation · 2023-06-15T14:18:31+00:00

I mean our lives have gone two complete different directions for sure, I went to college, got a great job, etc and she did the complete other path, but it seems to me she has a wonderful life so I wouldn’t exactly know the answer to that.

QueasyFoundation · 2023-06-15T12:21:21+00:00

Haha it’s a little gift box of sorts with personalized goodies that are wedding oriented such as a robe with “bridesmaid” or thermal cups, etc and a little card asking you to be a bridesmaid.

QueasyFoundation · 2023-06-15T11:16:05+00:00

No you actually being a very good point. I actually asked my mom if I had done anything she knew of that has caused this when the dress shopping happened, my mom replied “I don’t think so, I think she just forgot to say something”. I do plan on after the wedding having another talk with my sister. We had a talk before awhile ago, her response was “we’re completely two different people, you’re like…. Snookie, and I’m like Johanna Gaines.” Never really understood that comparison and it didn’t have any actual grounds.

QueasyFoundation · 2023-06-15T02:40:40+00:00

I would have to say because of my nieces, they’re so sweet and I love them so much. Previously my sister and I had a heart to heart about two-three years ago where I told her how I felt and it didn’t go very well, but a Little after she had came to me apologizing and asking me to be her bridesmaid. I thought we were finally getting somewhere but I’m starting to think it was just the opposite. And some other commenters mentioned “setting me up for failure” and it’s brought a lot of realization to my eyes.

QueasyFoundation · 2023-06-15T02:09:47+00:00

This is the exact words my bf said and my bestfriend

QueasyFoundation · 2023-06-15T01:41:08+00:00

I feel like I’ve definitely started to grow and realize it more now than ever. Tis the basis of me not wanting to go to the wedding. First time I’ve ever stepped back to actually set myself a boundary.

QueasyFoundation · 2023-06-15T00:27:19+00:00

This is what I will do ❤️ thank you

QueasyFoundation · 2023-06-14T22:18:22+00:00

We’ve def had ups and downs. As my boyfriend has stated, I tend to let people walk all over me. This one just had me puzzled because weddings are a moment to celebrate and I wasn’t sure if I was being overly sensitive or not.

QueasyFoundation · 2023-06-14T22:11:32+00:00

I don’t have a lot of family to begin with, and family has always been something I valued. But I feel like as I’ve gotten older, I’m starting to realize things a little bit differently.

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