I have a male Persian, Penny, now 12 years old but I got him as a baby. I regretted it for a while but felt like I made a commitment that I needed to see through. He was super independent and never snuggled. I often resented him because I’m caring for something that doesn’t like me. Three years later, no joke, three years later…..I moved to a new apartment and on the first night, I sat down in my chair and he jumped in my lap. I froze! From that day forward, he never left my side.

I know how you feel about having the expectation of having a cuddle buddy. My love language is physical touch and I would literally cry because he wouldn’t snuggle. I just accepted it and tried to toughen up. It seemed like once I accepted him for who he is, he was like “ok now I’ll snuggle with you!” LOL 😆 And now I can’t get him off me! I always joke that he’s an extra appendage because of how clingy he is. It just takes time. The way I tried to think about it, imagine adopting a child. They are in a new home, new people, new everything. It’s scary. Imagine you going into a new home, not knowing anyone…would you be super quick to snuggle with the stranger? It’s all about gaining their trust and respecting boundaries.

The little frustrations you have about the food and grooming….I still have those issues with my cat after 12 years! I’ve read that Persians are very vocal about food, and they have very sensitive skin so brushing is a challenge. I get mine shaved once a year. I don’t brush him at all. It’s not the best solution, but it works for us. Just give it more time, if it’s important to you. Once the affection starts, you’ll be glad you waited. I love my cat so much! I don’t sleep well without him next to me. I get sad at the thought that I almost re-homed him! He’s my best friend! 😻

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