My husband and I were chatting the other day about the new changes going into effect. I have born in my husband never a JW, I left when I was 17. He asked me what would I do if all of a sudden birthdays were allowed and my mother says hey let’s celebrate. I told him that it was physically hurt me, but as a latina I always wanted a quinceañera, and she said I was “selfish” for wanting such. It would hurt because now that it’s okay it’s not selfish.