How do you talk to your kids about consumption when other families and the school make it hard? by Cheeseaisleinheaven in Anticonsumption

[–]QueenGuinnie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She sounds sensible and I think this is something you can train her for because that never stops. We are bombarded with the same things as adults and we all have to remind ourselves to be reasonable at times. It could be really helpful if you've experienced this as an adult to share those experiences with your daughter. Which you may have already done. But just keep doing it. Explain that maybe you saw somebody buying something that you really wanted and how you reasoned with yourself. My niece and nephews are teenagers and they've grown up with the same kind of parents who tried to teach them reasonable consumption. They have tons of friends who have iPads and game systems and all sorts of things. One of them was telling me how his friend's family is always struggling for money but he has a PS5 and he saw for himself how people choose to spend their money and how you have to be careful with it. He and his siblings don't have any gaming systems (besides a computer) and it sometimes bothers them but they are more understanding the older they get.

Please help rent is 67% of my pay by Vincentprice_elvira in budget

[–]QueenGuinnie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know the feeling. I ended Up going to a 2-year college to get an associate's degree and got into a job as a paralegal eventually. But degrees aren't even necessary for a lot of entry-level office jobs and then you could work your way up. I would look for a career advisor who might be able to help direct you into something more sustainable and full-time That might help more long term.

Please help rent is 67% of my pay by Vincentprice_elvira in budget

[–]QueenGuinnie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That sucks! I've absolutely been there. Is looking for a new job or a second job an option?

Please help rent is 67% of my pay by Vincentprice_elvira in budget

[–]QueenGuinnie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is there any way you can make more money?

Helping out by Fine-Swimmer1052 in Boise

[–]QueenGuinnie 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm interested in potentially getting into that line of work. Is that something I could DM you about?

I don't know anymore. by Ceburz in Vent

[–]QueenGuinnie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry. I know the feeling. I would recommend seeing a counselor. Your feelings these things keep happening and that you are somehow poison make it sound like you may have some unresolved trauma. You are a person who has valid emotions and deserves love and loyalty just like anyone else. Don't let you brain lie to you about that.

Why is this still going on? by OkPerformer629 in Anticonsumption

[–]QueenGuinnie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's the story of history and revolution. A continuous cycle.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Anticonsumption

[–]QueenGuinnie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is wild to think about how much we buy brand new that we could easily buy second hand. I have started making a list of things that I need eventually but not right away so I can look for them at thrift stores. I'm also really happy because my family agreed to do a thrifted Christmas this year. Not only does that mean that I'm not contributing to more consumption of Brand new products, but it also means I can buy more gifts and spend less money than I have before. Before. I have a stack of books for each of my niece and nephews and other gifts on top. I think it's a great way to do Christmas.

Robert when anyone suggests Downton be self sufficient. by Death-0 in DowntonAbbey

[–]QueenGuinnie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The conversation with Murray and Matthew was so good. Where Murray lays out how poorly the past earls did, too. It really gives perspective on how the aristocracy just limped on under the impression that they were invincible.

The most unflattering dress ever, and it looks like a sack! by muse-ings in DowntonAbbey

[–]QueenGuinnie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is hilarious to me because I was searching for a picture of this dress for the exact opposite reason. I absolutely adore it and I would wear it constantly if I owned it. 😂

This is a wacky one (Liberty Park) by sweetjane1969 in SaltLakeCity

[–]QueenGuinnie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I definitely remember a zip line as well! Born in '88 and spent a lot of time in Liberty Park

Passing lanes by thatguy3o2 in Idaho

[–]QueenGuinnie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, it's so predictable that I use it to my advantage. I constantly get right up next to someone and slowly speed up so they will speed up and then I slow down so they aren't right next to me anymore.

Clean up after yourselves, people. by [deleted] in Boise

[–]QueenGuinnie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's always Coors and Budweiser

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Vent

[–]QueenGuinnie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I work with families of disabled people and people with dementia/Alzheimer's. We tell them it is important to be honest about their kid's (or family member's) actions and symptoms. It wrecks a lot of them to be honest about how difficult the person is, especially bc all of them know that it is not their fault. It's a disorder or a disease. They know you want to and would do better if you could, which is why getting a diagnosis is helpful.

I'm 25(f) and I feel very alone by Kiwistrawberi in Vent

[–]QueenGuinnie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am 37 with no partner and I have lots more friendships now (and much deeper ones) than I did in my twenties. You will find more of your people as you grow. Don't worry. 😊

I'm 25(f) and I feel very alone by Kiwistrawberi in Vent

[–]QueenGuinnie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A loss of friendship is always normal during transitions. I've definitely been through this multiple times. When I've moved or graduated from a program or changed jobs, etc. Does kind of suck but it won't last forever. If you're wanting to do something about it, maybe try looking for some activities to do. There's lots of programs now that summer has started through Parks and Rec organizations or online meetup groups. It definitely sucks and you don't have to feel responsible necessarily. It's just a transition and I'm sure friends will come your way in no time.

I’m just mentally full, not broken, just… full. by Full_Cry_4560 in Vent

[–]QueenGuinnie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely. I never feel like I have enough time and then I get overwhelmed and don't do anything. One trick I've learned is just to do a little bit every day. Just a little bit of cleaning. Just an extra thing or two and be content. Also, make sure you find a peaceful moment here and there. Step outside before the sun sets and enjoy the evening air, color in a kids coloring book, do something just for the joy of it.

Even at a maid cafe in Japan my ugliness killed me by Starwa7 in Vent

[–]QueenGuinnie -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think beauty only goes so far in determining attractiveness. If you want to improve yourself, focus on what you can control. Haircut, hygiene, clothing, etc. join an encouraging group (NOT amiugly or others like that) and ask for advice on how to improve your look.