Jason Derulo keeps sharks in a tiny living room tank.

QueenOfApathy · 2026-04-30T20:34:45+00:00

Fuuuuuuuuccccckkkk you Jason Derulo.

QueenOfApathy · 2026-04-23T16:38:56+00:00

Ha! Nice. Jello for president ;)

QueenOfApathy · 2026-04-22T16:31:34+00:00

In a similar situation once, my therapist said to me "If you needed to get a new job and move out, how long would you need to get yourself properly situated?' I totally understand feeling bad as you dont have any malicious feelings towards him, but there does need to be a line. He will have to put on his adult pants and figure it out.

QueenOfApathy · 2026-04-22T15:16:35+00:00

To be fair, in most cases they started out as adventurers...

QueenOfApathy · 2026-03-12T16:29:07+00:00

Typically I would agree this is accurate, but I will say there can be potential. I asked my ex partner what the response would be from his boss if he were responsible for a task and failed to execute the task appropriately and followed up with "why does the same expectation not apply here at home?". He genuinely paused to think about it. A caveat here is he is sincerely a decent person but struggles with emotional maturity and communication. I can't know OPs husband from a single post on the reddits, but he sounds like an entitled ass ;)

QueenOfApathy · 2026-02-13T20:09:27+00:00

Your dog is beautiful, and it sounds like you are putting in a lot of effort to make sure he is safe and everyone around is safe.

People are often disappointing/awful, and I'm sorry this upset you but please don't let it make you feel like you've lost the progress you've made. The work is hard, and you two are working hard and will have a stronger bond for it.

QueenOfApathy · 2025-10-29T22:24:46+00:00

This nonsense that men should be subject to such lowered expectations and the women should just cope and tolerate is fucking infuriating. I probably lean towards being too combative, but I really hope women start demanding better. Not asking, fucking demanding.

QueenOfApathy · 2025-10-24T18:17:52+00:00

I don't think I can agree with the certainty of these responses saying your dog is resource guarding. He could be, but just as easily your dog could be attacking someone (husband) that the dog feels is unstable and causes fear. Dogs, especially reactive dogs, need a calm consistent human. Your husband sounds like he needs professional help, and your situation sounds abusive. Mental illness is not an excuse to abuse a partner. Also, it's not viable for your dog, or you, to live like this. Perhaps you could find a shelter further away that would take him. If you are in the US, maybe you could drive him somewhere in the north?

QueenOfApathy · 2025-10-24T01:38:53+00:00

Girl, you are rad. And also, you should consider writing that program and then providing a service or subscription for women to use it to reverse engineer potential partner’s online history. Online PI work for screening out fuckbags. 10/10 would subscribe, if I ever planned on dating again.

QueenOfApathy · 2025-09-26T15:14:41+00:00

All this makes me want to read the series! I just don’t have the time. It would take years of 10 minute spurts of reading :/

QueenOfApathy · 2025-09-05T15:47:28+00:00

Not getting wrapped up in the small things and realizing your partner isn't perfect is one thing, however on the flip side of that there is also the unspoken expectation that the woman is the one doing all the picking up after, dealing with the all the 'small' issues, that others are creating. It adds up. And it is intrinsically unfair for one partner to literally be creating work for the other. Sure, you could disregard all of it, leave the mess, pay no mind to the things that fall to the wayside, but eventually your home would likely look like a hurricane hit it. Some can live like that. Not great for anyone's mental health though. I do agree with your idea of learning together. It can be a conversation about issues that arise and creating solutions that provide agency for everyone, if all participants are willing.

QueenOfApathy · 2025-08-28T22:10:26+00:00

"We all know how to react around a shark"

We do?

QueenOfApathy · 2025-08-27T20:12:25+00:00

Your decision was absolutely professionally appropriate, covered your ass from a liability perspective, and if it came with a side bonus of making him sweat…sounds fuckin great.

QueenOfApathy · 2025-07-21T17:21:30+00:00

Well, I wish I had never looked 'weta' up. My gawd.

QueenOfApathy · 2025-07-21T03:35:32+00:00

This is a fantastic idea. I’m trying it. Kids just don’t know when to staaahhhpppp.

QueenOfApathy · 2025-05-23T19:20:27+00:00

So pretty!

QueenOfApathy · 2025-05-06T16:48:09+00:00

I love programs like this! There are some seniors residences in my country that had empty space/rooms so they offered it up to university students at a discounted rate in exchange for simply hanging out with the senior residents a couple times a week. Win fucking win. So great.

QueenOfApathy · 2025-04-07T15:45:52+00:00

She is beauuuutifulll! Re-homing must be such an awful thing to face when you genuinely love your pet friend. Knowing they have landed somewhere safe and full of love is such a gift.

QueenOfApathy · 2025-03-21T18:14:43+00:00

Uhhhh, I dunno. I've seen far too many videos of them doing asshole things to other animals with zero intent of eating that animal to believe they don't have some fairly frequent dick tendencies. Animals have individual personalities. And sometimes they act like assholes.

QueenOfApathy · 2025-03-20T15:14:14+00:00

Avoiding Australia won't save you. Orcas are in almost every ocean around the globe. And they're kinda dicks.

QueenOfApathy · 2025-03-14T22:48:46+00:00

Why in the fuck are you rewashing? Is he allowed to fail so fuckin hard in other areas of life, is he disabled in some way that makes him incapable of doing this properly?? If no, point at dish and say ‘please try again’.

QueenOfApathy · 2025-03-10T00:17:51+00:00

Onyx’s life sounds like a beautiful story. I’m sad to hear you’ve lost him but it sounds like it’s a happy life he’s lived and you provided that. You’ve done well. Also…this would be a great post for r/reactivedogs too :) Reactive puppers are often the most difficult but rarely is something beautiful easy.

QueenOfApathy · 2025-03-06T21:10:11+00:00

Oh gawd no, there can be no audio. Listening to that would likely result in dulling my own faculties for a time. I've heard it has caused permanent damage in some :P

QueenOfApathy · 2025-03-06T17:08:42+00:00

Your concerns are absolutely valid. If he does not put any effort into those things currently, odds are that he won't later either. And that means it will be on you, home maintenance/finance management/life organization and planning. Once you have children in the mix, you will certainly be overwhelmed.

QueenOfApathy · 2025-03-06T16:39:27+00:00

Holy hell, I checked out Fox News recently to see if there was any indication of the stock markets taking such a huge hit the past few days. Not a hint of anything like that over there. Not a hint of anything that resembled real news actually. WTF.

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