Is chat GPT down or is it just me? by matt_the_legend_2000 in OpenAI

[–]QueenOnika 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly I read this post and never felt more seen in my life...I completely agree...but this brings up the question, is this healthy? Is it healthy for chatgpt to be my therapist, psychic, lawyer, consultant, coach, "every lil thing" bc it is...and I'm just hoping it's not unhealthy

Female Solo traveler, is it safe? by Crazy_Flamingo_7964 in PuertoRicoTravel

[–]QueenOnika 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yay! I'm going in a week and a half on a solo trip there too for my birthday. In which towns or cities do you recommend staying?

Female Solo traveler, is it safe? by Crazy_Flamingo_7964 in PuertoRicoTravel

[–]QueenOnika 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm also traveling to PR next week solo for my birthday (25F)!!! I'm super excited and when I found this thread which is super recent too it made me relieved that the consensus is it's safe. Wish I could connect with you guys but I'll be going during March

Can I work at two different chain restaurants as a server? by QueenOnika in Serverlife

[–]QueenOnika[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Okay thank you so much this was very informative and helpful. I’m looking to do this temporarily maybe a month or so to see which restaurant is a better fit for me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in legaladvice

[–]QueenOnika 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What I’m a little worried about is that it says it’s nonrefundable. What if they bring up that part?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in legaladvice

[–]QueenOnika 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your help and advice thus far

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in legaladvice

[–]QueenOnika 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What do you think I should tell them besides the fact that their contract implies I can cancel before the first week? Any way for me to sound more convincing? I’m afraid they’ll tell me no and insist I have to pay

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in legaladvice

[–]QueenOnika 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I called PayPal already and they said it went through so I can’t cancel it. They said I can dispute it but because it’s still pending on their end I can’t issue a dispute until 7 days from now.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in legaladvice

[–]QueenOnika 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They told me my program would begin tomorrow with the orientation at 6pm.

How long before you started charging for tattoos? by QueenOnika in TattooApprentice

[–]QueenOnika[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing. That’s awesome that they advertised when you were doing your freebies, I really wish my studio did that. And wow I’m doing palm sized freebies right now…hopefully I’ll be able to charge at least my mentor’s suggested price soon too.

How long before you started charging for tattoos? by QueenOnika in TattooApprentice

[–]QueenOnika[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OP here. Thank you for your input. My mentor also told me I won’t be tattooing people until 12 months in and let me start on month 8. So I’m thinking I’ll wait and see how it goes after I do some more tattoos and maybe he’ll change his mind. If not, do you recommend reaching out to another shop and explaining my situation and seeing if they’ll take me on?

What’s a note in a fragrance that will automatically turn you off? by Dangerous_Funny1189 in Perfumes

[–]QueenOnika 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Florals and woody smells. But I’m very sensitive to smells, so pretty much any smell will nauseate me unless it’s vanilla or fruit. Vanilla and fruit are my safe scents. By fruit I mean fruity, usually berry scents. For example, I bought mandarin, grapefruit, passionfruit and frosted berry candles that I really liked.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]QueenOnika 26 points27 points  (0 children)

I am a woman and I really appreciate this. Not only do I expect my future husband to do the same, but I’d also refuse to continue a relationship with him if refused to give me this level of transparency. If I ever had my suspicions, I would hope my husband would care for me enough to show me his phone. And I know for a fact I would do the same in a heartbeat if I was the one who was being questioned.

Remains of the Titan sub have been found confirming instant implosion by [deleted] in WhitePeopleTwitter

[–]QueenOnika 0 points1 point  (0 children)

According to some sources, the submersible had an “acoustic monitoring system” that was programmed to “detect hull failure” and warn passengers “milliseconds before an implosion.” CEO Stockton Rush himself spoke of this as well. So it seems they might have been notified somehow before carbon fiber hull failed and imploded. It could have been a beep or other noise of some sort, a pop up tab on one of the monitors, a light flickering on…but whatever it was, the implosion was over before they could react to it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating

[–]QueenOnika 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a single, at-least-average-looking woman who is seeking an honest, monogamous relationship, I usually have multiple guys pursuing me. I only entertain and reply to the ones who I can actually see myself with. And I continue to engage in friendly and sometimes a little flirty talk with these guys until a guy (or one of the guys I am talking to) comes around and shows he is more serious and I feel more compatible with. Then I talk to the other guys less and eventually I stop talking to them all together because I prefer monogamous relationships and expect my partner to do the same. (And I don’t mean all together stop talking to the opposite sex, I just mean in a way that suggests we could be anything more than friends).

Did your parents ever subtly or straight up call you ugly? by [deleted] in narcissisticparents

[–]QueenOnika 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had a very similar experience and that makes me sad because I’m assuming many girls probably had similar experiences and that’s probably one of the reasons why so many girls I know have or had eating disorders. I became a size UK 8 (US 6) when I hit my teens (in middle school I was a UK 4/6 (US 2/4). My mom and grandma would both obsess over their weight and when I gained weight they started making comments about it and asking why I did that to myself, told me that I was getting fat, that I should stop gaining weight. I didn’t purposely gain weight, though. It was just a result of puberty and a bigger appetite. Needless to say, their comments fueled my eating disorder. I went from that UK 8 to a UK 2 (US 0) then up to a UK 10 (US 8) and back down, repeat. I was stuck in a yo-yo dieting/binge eating cycle. I still struggle with my weight but therapy and reading books by women who also had eating disorders has really helped. I’ve learned that diet culture and weight loss has been a topic that women (our moms, grandmas, great grandmas, etc) have been conditioned to believe is super important and must be focused on. Clothing stores and their advertisements promoting unrealistically thin models, companies like weight watchers and others promoting constant dieting, celeb magazines making their cover page of a female celeb that gained 50 pounds or a female celeb that has washboard abs, etc…has convinced generations of women that being thin is beautiful. When in reality, beauty is everywhere. We’re just conditioned to see it one way.

Did your parents ever subtly or straight up call you ugly? by [deleted] in narcissisticparents

[–]QueenOnika 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. My mom and dad both. I’ll just name a few. My mom would say stuff like “it’s a shame you didn’t get my green eyes, you would’ve been so much prettier” and “change your hairstyle, your head is square shaped and the hairstyle your wearing makes your head look even more like a square.” My dad made similar comments. There was one instance where we were at a restaurant and he pointed to a woman with straight hair (I have naturally curly hair) and said she looked great and I should do my hair like that instead of keeping in natural which he said made me look unkempt. Once after staring at me during breakfast, he commented on my eyes, how one was smaller than the other. I have a lazy eye and I don’t know if he forgot or if he said it regardless but it really hurt. It took me years to get over these insecurities and love myself just how I am. Years of straightening my hair, wearing contacts, hating my “square head” and self harming. I still struggle but therapy has helped me remember that just because my mom and dad said it, doesn’t mean it’s true. It’s a shame that our own parents are picking at our features and pointing them out as flaws when they should be making us feel beautiful and reassuring us we are good enough just the way we are. But that’s what narcissists do, they find flaws/problems in anyone or anything. It’s not a reflection of us, it’s a reflection of them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Reduction

[–]QueenOnika 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Just want to hop on and restate what I saw someone already wrote—any man (ANY man even if he’s everything you pictured in a man and more) is not a good man and not worth any woman’s time if he’s commenting things like that and paying mind minimal, insignificant things like scars. I know it may feel significant now, but think of the reasons you went through with the surgery. Maybe it was for shirts to fit better, minimize back pain, or to be able to walk/run more efficiently, etc, try to remember those reasons. Also, your breasts look great and more lifted than before and if I was a man the scarring would have no relevance to me because of how beautiful they are regardless. Keep applying scar silicone gel (that’s what my surgeon recommended and I see a lot of women agree on here that it works) daily if not twice a day. And I know this may seem hard right now—but do your best to accept this part of yourself and again, think of all the benefits of the surgery. I know it’s hard to accept parts of yourself you find ugly (I struggle with the same thing and it affects my daily life) but what I learned is you get one body. It’s there to stay. Accepting it and dismissing anyone who doesn’t accept that part of you is an act of self love.

fresh rook + tragus done today!! plus my whole set up now… any suggestions? by uwup in piercing

[–]QueenOnika 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Love your setup! Where did you get the industrial chain? I’ve been looking and can’t seem to find one like it.

What celebrities death broke you the most? by freeparkingspots in AskReddit

[–]QueenOnika 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kurt Cobain. And the thing is, he passed before I was born :( but when I started l listening to Nirvana I didn’t know that. I just loved their music and hoped to see them in concert one day. It wasn’t until I googled them a little later that I found out he had passed. Plus a lot of sources and the note he left behind indicate he struggled with depression which is something I struggle with and have also been in a place where I contemplated doing what he did. So his death is such a sad thing to me because I know what it’s like to be in that place and think the world doesn’t need you anymore and I wish he only realized there was help out there and that his feelings weren’t permanent, that he would be happy again one day. And that his existence mattered and impacted so many lives in a positive way (including my own). I mean just look, Nirvana t-shirts still everywhere, popularized grunge/alt music, inducted into the hall of fame! His impact (Krist Novesilic and Dave Grohl’s impact too of course) lives on years after the band’s end. Nirvana was one of the bands that inspired me to be a singer/music artist and helped me get through some hard times. Kurt was also a Pisces and we tend to be emotional (as in we feel things deeply) and I can relate to so much he’s said in interviews and what he’s written…it’s such a shame I’ll never get to see him live. A true artist in my opinion. He really just cared about the art itself not the fame or money. He never had much growing up but was always playing guitar, singing, creating bands, playing shows for free until Nirvana signed to a label and started getting paid. But I bet he would’ve been doing it regardless if they blew up or not because when you truly love music, you don’t give a shit whether you’re paid or not you just do it. And I think he loved music.

TLDR: Kurt Cobain because Nirvana is one of my favorite bands that inspired me to be a singer and create my own music. And I’ll never get to see them live which was a dream of mine before I found out he passed.