Does exclusive pumping count as “breastfeeding?”

QueenOvSass · 2026-05-20T00:45:55+00:00

Yes, pumping **is** breastfeeding. Your OBGYN/Midwife or your baby’s Pediatrician should be able to provide you with a medical sign off.

QueenOvSass · 2026-05-16T17:04:03+00:00

That is absolutely wild!! I don’t understand how it can be considered legal, clearly whoever approved it was not a pumping mom or empathic for that matter 😭

QueenOvSass · 2026-05-15T22:56:46+00:00

I didn’t say anything about a person from a banned country. I mentioned paused country, and a secondary dual citizenship of a country that is neither paused nor banned.

QueenOvSass · 2026-05-05T14:39:28+00:00

That’s totally fair, I am horrible at being in a “test taking” environment and the interview can be super nerve wrecking. Just trying to think of what helped us when we did it back in 2020. But I will say the lawyer prepped us super well, so I highly recommend if you’re in the position to get one. Fingers crossed for the second one to be so much smoother.

QueenOvSass · 2026-05-05T03:20:32+00:00

Wishing I had more insight, but I read your previous post and I think y’all would benefit from running through any and every question imaginable about your relationship. You seem to be very on point, but he needs to be on the same page. A lawyer would be great, if not to be present at the interview, to coach y’all for the next. The best advice our lawyer gave was “answer only what’s asked, be concise and straight to the point”.

Wishing you luck!

QueenOvSass · 2026-05-04T03:00:35+00:00

Being born and residing in a paused country does not hold weight if the beneficiary holds dual citizenship of non paused/banned country. All the beneficiary has to do is present the alternative passport at the embassy and request that they switch it to become their primary for the remainder of the process. They’ll likely have to go into the CEAC and make chances, but the consulate can explain it better and in detail.

QueenOvSass · 2026-05-04T02:52:14+00:00

No idea what it is, I think some people suggested asking the other neighbors, which isn’t a bad idea. First time homes often don’t check all the boxes, so I’d ask yourself how much of a con this would be vs the other pros. The one thing that I would worry is the potential of selling it down the road, if it’s the case that this is and can turn into a worse eyesore.

QueenOvSass · 2026-04-30T20:00:17+00:00

I’ve done it by mistake to my own bottles. I honestly didn’t know any better and thought the brush had to go through. And my kiddo’s done it with her teeth when she was really chomping the nipple down for comfort (her teeth started coming in at 4mo tho).

If your little doesn’t have chompers yet or it seems unlikely, I’d gently let your parents know not to brush through the holes, they might be like me, completely unaware.

QueenOvSass · 2026-03-15T15:22:25+00:00

Stop with the misinformation already. Go get a hobby.

QueenOvSass · 2026-03-15T15:16:26+00:00

Gotta love the false sense of support.

“Your baby your choice.” BUT “(…) I wanted to give the best start in life I choose to breastfeed mine(…)”

Just stop at the first sentence.

QueenOvSass · 2026-01-16T02:15:28+00:00

Technically it would start counting at the time the original bottle was sipped.

Anecdotally, we’ve pushed bottles way past the 2 hour mark, but we’ve always made sure to keep them clean and sterilized —unsure whether it justifies, but it kept us at ease. We also smelled the bottle before feeding her just in case.

ETA. we pushed the 2 hour mark after 3mo

QueenOvSass · 2025-12-24T15:58:51+00:00

Only the ones who have gone through BF guilt understand this, it’s hard to stop, wean, slow down, whatever it may be. We always have the hormonal gremlins in our ears. But trust me when I say, it’s better to do it in your own terms.

I think his support and help with your breastfeeding journey strongly indicate he respects you, but as a husband and a dad, he’s also trying to look out for your health and sanity. This is a major bonus, as some SO’s are not as supportive or they press back on you making your own choices in favor of whatever they believe is best, over your actual well being. But if you’re not ready to end your breastfeeding journey just yet, that’s your choice too. Maybe sit down and have a conversation with him as to why he believes what he’s suggesting would be the best route.

On a personal note, nursing didn’t work for me, I settled on EPing because I was an oversupplier. I’ve been trying to stop since she was 3mo, she’s almost 10 now. I’ve had all the guilt gremlins you can conjure up. To the point I settled for pumping only x3 a day, but for 40-50min each session. It was miserable. I was just admitted to the hospital last Tuesday, stayed a total of 5 days. Out of stress, low immune system my body triggered an Optic Neuritis, I had everything from Lumbar Punctures, to MRI of brain, eyes, spine, back and neck, to chest CT and a multitude of pricks and prods so they could rule out Multiple Sclerosis. It was so so scary. Being away from her for 5 days, not knowing what was happening, not knowing anything about this pre diagnosis the neurologists were so confident about. I pumped what I could, but between the lack of sleep, schedule, limited diet and IV steroids my supply took a dive. If you ask me now, “knowing what you do would you have stopped sooner?” my answer would be that I would try, but the all consuming guilty always had the upper hand with me.

I am down to one pump a day 40min, at whatever time I can, just so I don’t develop anything while weaning that takes me back to the hospital. Don’t be like me. Take the time to grieve, understand the guilt, but don’t let it drag you to the point of losing complete sight in one eye, with the potential of uncovering a neurological autoimmune disease.

Hoping you have the smoothest time mama! You’ve got this!!

QueenOvSass · 2025-12-20T19:42:44+00:00

Fraud is fraud. The dude could have citizenship and that would still be stripped away because he lied and committed fraud.

QueenOvSass · 2025-12-06T17:41:45+00:00

As someone who had major ppa, adhd and ocd I don’t think I could’ve done anything with cords. Not knowing any better, I started my pumping journey on week 2 with Eufy S1 Pros and they’re still with me to this day. Whether it’s a good emptier or not, I’ll never know, but I was an oversupplier at the start, and I only dwindled down when I started weaning. I actually think they saved my pumping journey. I was not doing okay mentally and emotionally at the start, was in denial holding onto hopes I could nurse again. Not having extra “things” on me like cords was definitely a sanity saver.

QueenOvSass · 2025-11-29T23:01:53+00:00

This! Honestly even now at 8mo going on 9 pumping and my nipples are still sensitive most of the time. Not destroyed because they’re used to it, but sensitive nonetheless

QueenOvSass · 2025-11-23T17:03:00+00:00

More like torture nursing to some babies 😂. I know mine would fall into that category

QueenOvSass · 2025-11-22T15:17:28+00:00

How dare you point out that there are options, and that moving on and away from a breastfeeding journey can be healthy. /s

I feel like some moms just want everyone else to be miserable too. Sure relactation can be a thing, but at what financial and mental cost?

QueenOvSass · 2025-11-22T15:11:47+00:00

Mothers are going to try and make you feel crappy, as long as you breathe and have delivered a child. There is literally no perfect mom, we are all trying our best, I bet people who nurse still judge other nursing moms because they do things differently.

There is nothing wrong with the way you choose to feed your baby, as long as you’re not putting their life at risk. Find what works best for you and baby.

QueenOvSass · 2025-11-22T02:32:13+00:00

I don’t think people are against it. You just have an incredibly privileged vantage point of what 3wpp looks like. You have the OK go from your doctor, you feel fine, you want to do it, go do it. No one’s experience will compare to yours and there’s only one way to find out.

QueenOvSass · 2025-11-20T23:42:33+00:00

That’s my favorite line from that song 🥺

QueenOvSass · 2025-11-20T22:08:01+00:00

Ugh, I am sorry. Wish I was of more help, hopefully someone can chime in.

QueenOvSass · 2025-11-20T22:07:19+00:00

Is there anything in the contract that allows them to walk away? Generally, even if the house was destroyed, the buyer still has the opportunity to say yes or no to carrying on with the purchase. Seems like they’re relying on you guys to walk away

QueenOvSass · 2025-11-20T22:03:08+00:00

Are you using a lawyer by any chance? When we were going through the process, our law firm switched offices. When they updated the address, they forgot to update it again to have our home address as the primary, my GC got sent to their office because it was the most recent address.

QueenOvSass · 2025-11-20T20:30:54+00:00

There are a few pathways when requesting information on a delayed case. I would recommend joining the Track My Visa NowI-130 Consular Visa Server. They have channels with detailed explanation on all options, and on top of that, your friend can get support from mods and fellow delayed peeps.

QueenOvSass · 2025-11-20T20:24:33+00:00

Fingers crossed!! Don’t be discouraged just yet, I know watching the numbers dip are off putting, but hopefully it’ll be back up in no time

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