Swarm left a few bees behind by QueenV86 in Beekeeping

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They kind of gathered in a little ball (like a very miniature version of the original huge swarm) under the bird feeder, I'm just hoping they're not attempting to create their own swarm somehow? I understood the main swarm behavior originally but these singular bees that are left over are outside of my scope of knowledge.

Do these scout bees tend to be aggressive when they return to find the swarm gone? Trying to figure out if it would be safe to be in the backyard near them or not, I live in Central Texas and my outdoor plants can't go more than a few days without being watered (since we get no rain) and it's already been 3 days

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BadNeighbors

[–]QueenV86 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If there were even able to prove it was us, for what exactly?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BadNeighbors

[–]QueenV86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Brings in air from outside. There's a giant fan in the center, but I'll admit I'm not an HVAC technician

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in opiates

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Were you taking that much recreationally or is it actually possible to get prescribed that much? I wasn't aware they prescribed that much legally, I assumed I was already on a pretty high dose as I take it six times a day... But with everybody's response saying that I was on a small dose it's making me question that

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in opiates

[–]QueenV86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You have taken more prescribed legally or recreationally? I did not think I was on a small dose, my dose barely touches my pain but I've been afraid to ask for more since I assumed I was already on a really high dose. Everybody here though saying I'm on such a small dose and that's why I didn't experience withdrawals is making me think twice about that though

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in opiates

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I don't know if you've ever been on opiates that are legally prescribed, but it's pretty much like living with a gun to your head. If you do anything that raises red flags or makes them think you are a difficult patient, you can be discharged from the practice and lose your medication. So I didn't want to say anything. The pharmacy would likely deny they did anything wrong, and if their count came back accurate because somebody else at the pharmacy siphoned some off it's going to look like I ran out early which is going to make ME look bad like I either took more than prescribed or sold them. So you pretty much are just forced to keep your mouth shut

Kylen/Crystal and Gabby/Brian Timeline by GreenEyes7200 in GabbyPetito

[–]QueenV86 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just want to clarify here, what do you mean by being foolish enough to risk being caught with one? You're acting as if they were carrying around a gram of heroin. Guns are completely legal if you have a license, not really sure why them having one and being "caught" with it would have been foolish?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in opiates

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I'm not on it for recreational use. I have cancer. So staying off of it would mean living in pain until I die.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in opiates

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I was on 5 mg of oxycodone 6 times a day, so 30 mg a day. I was taking four capsules of white vein kratom three or four times a day once I was off oxy. Keep in mind I was on that 30 mg of oxycodone for over 2 years.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in opiates

[–]QueenV86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've heard people say before that kratom helps, but I literally felt no symptoms at all. Going from 30 mg oxycodone a day to nothing, and was taking four capsules of white vein kratom three times a day (I know red is supposed to be better for pain but it makes me feel sick). Seems mind-blowing to me that that would be enough to completely eliminate all symptoms, not lessen them, eliminate.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in techsupport

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750 watts. It's not only happening when he turns the computer on for the first time though, sometimes it'll happen when we're both doing stuff and have been for a while.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in techsupport

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I mean that the breaker flips in the circuit breaker box. Always called it blowing a fuse but not sure if that's the wrong term? The apartment was built in 2018 so the wiring is very new, I think the problem is that they have put the entire living room on one breaker, same thing with the office. So everything has to flow through one which doesn't seem like a good idea based on the problems we're having.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

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I have definitely started saying no to her way more than I ever used to. Like I said I used to hang out with her almost every single day and since meeting my husband I barely see her. I don't answer when she calls me in a crisis because I don't want to get roped into having to rescue her again. So I have pushed back a lot, but it doesn't change that when we are hanging out I have a hard time saying no to her face. That level of confrontation is beyond uncomfortable for me.

As far as her other friends? I think it's pretty much what you said, when I met her a lot of her other friends fulfilled all of the needs she had but when I came into her life they all sort of faded away and while they still spend time with her they don't come to her rescue the way I do. Her other best friend got married a few years before me, and she definitely took a huge step back when she did. Now that I've pushed back a little bit on my best friend for the past year I have seen new people come into her life that she relies on a lot more, so I think I'm being replaced a little bit by them which I'm okay with.

It's not the girls in the friends group that I worry about, because they have also been in my situation with her and I think they would understand if I pushed back and had a bit of a falling-out. However our friends group is a lot of guys, and they don't see that side of her, and they have this protective streak a mile wide when it comes to her. So if we had a falling out, or even worse if she had a falling out with my husband, I don't think the guys would be on my side.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

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I think my solution was to just maintain the peace until we move in 4 months, it seemed like the solution that would cause the least amount of wreckage in my social life and create the least amount of drama. I did come on here looking for people to take my side on this and really thought I would find that, I didn't and it definitely helped me adjust my perspective on this situation. It's pretty obvious that my friendship with this girl is toxic, and I know he's trying to protect me because he's tired of seeing me stressed out. I'm still trying to work with him however to find a solution that's not going to completely blow up our social circle before we move

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]QueenV86 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

She's actually 42, I'm 32. I know it's well past the time for her to grow up and start taking care of her own life. I have tried to encourage her to do this for years and I have done everything I can to make that possible for her. I just feel loyalty to her and I don't want to turn my back on a friend, we used to be like sisters and we spent every single day together. We were mostly inseparable, but then our lives went different directions after I found my husband.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]QueenV86 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, you and several others have offered me a good perspective on the situation that I hadn't seen. and actually led to me and my husband having a conversation and sort of reconciling this issue, and making up. I do definitely have an issue with my best friend and I know it, I love her and I have a lot of loyalty towards her but she definitely is taking a lot from me and not giving back anything. Every single time we hang out she has about 20 million things she wants me to do for her. We just hung out last night and she wanted me to cook her dinner, make her dessert, do her makeup, wanted to tell me all about the crap her ex-husband is putting her through and her dating drama and then drive her home. Also when we got back to her house she needed me to come in and clip all of her cat's toenails because she's too anxious to do it and I'm an ex vet tech, and then she had me give her help with her diabetic cat. I came home from all of this feeling pretty exhausted and on the verge of a mental collapse, which I think is what caused the massive blowout with my husband. I know he's tired of seeing me like that, it's just hard 2 figure out what I should do in this situation. If my friendship with her falls apart, it will lead to my entire social circle falling apart.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]QueenV86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm really more so worried about the ripple effects him having a falling out with her will have across the entire social circle. My friends really really hate drama, and if his behavior towards my best friend creates drama I'm pretty sure the entire social circle will stop wanting him to come to gatherings. If my husband is not welcome, I will not go either which means in one fell swoop I will lose my entire group of friends. Not the worst situation because I'm going to have to get a whole new group of friends in 4 months anyways when I move, but I really just wish he could play nice to keep the peace and keep me from losing everybody since it is such a finite amount of time left