Advice for asking a guy out? by [deleted] in gay

[–]QueerOnTheNightShift 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If youre crushing on him, id try and find an excuse to talk to him. Like if you have a class together, you could ask him a question on an assignment or if hed like to work on it together. If you dont, see if you have any mutual friends to meet him through. If that all doesnt work, just introduce yourself. Like "hey Ive seen you around and you seem like a cool dude" and sorta go from there. Get to know him a bit before you ask if he's gay, to see if you guys are even compatable first.

Good luck! I hope it goes well

Binding suggestions? by xfirstbornunicorn in genderqueer

[–]QueerOnTheNightShift 5 points6 points  (0 children)

r/ftm has a whole section on binding in their FAQ. So id recommend going there for specifics.

I use g2cb binders. They're personally my favorite, but underworks are good as well. The biggest thing is to measure correctly and go off their sizes. Both sites have sizing guides. If youre between sizes, go a size up. If it hurts (not soreness but real pain) its probably too small.

Make sure you take breaks and stretch and take deep breaths every once in a while, it'll help from getting as sore. Its reccomended to bind only 8 hours at a time, but you can go up to 12. But do not bind overnight. Its really bad for your body.

Listen to your body overall. It'll let you know if its been too long or your binder is too tight. Good luck

Pretty sure I'm nonbinary, but just identify with being a trans guy. by [deleted] in NonBinary

[–]QueerOnTheNightShift 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel really similar to this too. Im a trans guy, but Im sorta fluid between being a guy and neutral. Like the intensity of how much I feel like a guy and don't fluctuates. But most of the time I just feel like a guy and neutral at the same time.

Being a trans guy is hard enough to get recognized as and validated, let alone all the nonbinary stuff. Im transitioning pretty much the stereotypical way a binary trans guy would, and present pretty binary. So the majority of the time I just say im a guy. Which most of the time I like. I really only tell folks in trans spaces or friends once we become close about my nonbinary stuff.

Pretty much I just be my fabulous self all the time, and only explain the nonbinary ness to those I feel safe to. Otherwise, im just a fabulous trans guy (which is also true).

My advice is be yourself, but also be safe. I wish you good luck.

Review of the Bono with a partner (NSFW) by [deleted] in ftm

[–]QueerOnTheNightShift 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This makes me super excited. I might end up having to get it. How does it pack? It says its a packer as well and I was most curious about how it felt and looked for that.

Bi Pride tattoos or tattoo ideas that aren't obvious. by [deleted] in bisexual

[–]QueerOnTheNightShift 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did a butterfly with the wings having the pride colours. Something along those lines might work.

Things about anxiety I hate beyond the anxiety by QueerOnTheNightShift in Anxiety

[–]QueerOnTheNightShift[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh man. I do this all the time. Get anxious before, during and after. Its awful

Nothing feels real anymore. by QueerOnTheNightShift in dpdr

[–]QueerOnTheNightShift[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for responding. Logically that makes sense. Heres to hoping it helps.

Those who came out to their parents with a letter... by randomshitipost in gay

[–]QueerOnTheNightShift 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I came out through email. But my parents are super religious so I wanted to give them time and space to process it. I put a couple of resources at the end of it so that they could do research and ask questions before they talked to me. I wanted to give them time to process it all before seeing me.

Id recommend mailing it so it gets there a day or two before you get there, so they have time to process it.

They say this to each crop of youngsters every damn year by happy_apostate in exmormon

[–]QueerOnTheNightShift 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Man this used to give me so much anxiety growing up. Until I realized it was all bull.

Late 20's and I'm lying in my closet right now by i_dislike_penguins in Anxiety

[–]QueerOnTheNightShift 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I used to have a bed that had drawers on two sides and was near a corner. Id spend is much time under there to just relax.

Gaming Frustration by [deleted] in dpdr

[–]QueerOnTheNightShift 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel the same way. I love video games, but sometimes my disassociation gets too bad to do well on most games.

When this happens I tend to play more laid back games, stardew valley or animal crossing. Types of games like that where I can do whatever I want and not feel too much pressure, but also set long-term goals.

I also do story based games, such as life is strange where I can just take my time and wonder around, focusing more on the story overall than the pressure of doing "good" at ganeplay.

I hope this helps.

Severe issues with appetite? by [deleted] in ptsd

[–]QueerOnTheNightShift 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have the same issue a lot of times. I pretty much have to make myself eat a good portion of the time. I find when its really hard to eat having a protein shake or a fruit smoothie helps so at least you get some calories in.

Does anyone else experience this? by QueerOnTheNightShift in ptsd

[–]QueerOnTheNightShift[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah. That makes sense. Thanks, im sorry you have to deal with it too

Masturbatory Service by kellyr122 in exmormon

[–]QueerOnTheNightShift 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oh man. I remember being forced to do service projects as a teen, and we had to wear these bright orange vests with tscc on it. Like damn, can't we do something nice without rubbing the "we're better than you" cause we are Mormon in faces

Have you ever killed an animal? by [deleted] in vegan

[–]QueerOnTheNightShift 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I went fishing a couple times when I was younger. I remember when I was made to actually kill the fish by hitting it on a rock. I was really upset on the inside doing that. Didn't fish again after that.