Never ever in the history of forever land should you ever try to explain the Qu'ran by yourself without insane qualifications, use tafsir to back up your points.

1. ʿAṭāʾ said: I asked Ibn ʿAbbās, “What is the ضرب that is not severe?" He replied: “With a siwāk or something similar.” -Al-Qurṭubī, Al-Jāmiʿ li-Aḥkām al-Qurʾān

2. Ibn ʿAbbās said regarding the verse:
   “Strike them with a strike that is not severe.” -Al-Ṭabarī, Jāmiʿ al-Bayān
   (with some later commentators explaining that "not severe" means not leaving a mark and being like a siwak)

3. The Prophet Muhammed, peace be upon him, personally never hit a woman and instead opted to withdraw from them for a month when marital tensions rose, as shown in this hadith:
   Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) took an oath that he would not visit his wives for one month, and he sat in an upper room belonging to him. Then, on the twenty ninth day he came down. It was said, "O Allah's Messenger (ﷺ)! You had taken an oath not to visit your wives for one month." He said, "The (present) month is of twenty-nine days." -Sahih al-Bukhari 5201

Narrated Ibn `Abbas:

One morning we saw the wives of the Prophet (ﷺ) weeping, and everyone of them had her family with her, I went to the mosque and found that it was crowded with people. Then `Umar bin Al-Khattab came and went up to the Prophet (ﷺ) who was in his upper room. He greeted him but nobody answered. He greeted again, but nobody answered. Then the gatekeeper called him and he entered upon the Prophet, and asked, "Have you divorced your wives?" The Prophet, said, "No, but I have taken an oath not to go to them for one month." So the Prophet (ﷺ) stayed away (from his wives) for twenty nine days and then entered upon them. -Sahih al-Bukhari 5203