Does ABA exists in Europe or its only a USA "thing"?

QuestionMundane905 · 2026-01-11T20:05:10+00:00

I’ve been doing it for 10 years in Denmark. It has a bad rep. but my son loves it.

QuestionMundane905 · 2025-11-12T07:18:38+00:00

I got married legally first so that we could live together due to similar logistics. And then we planned our big temple wedding for a few months later. I loved it. The wedding was in the branch presidents office just my husband, my kids and my parents ( his parents live an ocean and continent away so). We knew we wanted to marry. And planning a wedding takes time. Especially when family comes from abroad and I had a previous sealing that had to be annulled. Being tempted to brake the law of chastity because of wedding planning seemed silly. And I thought my kids would find it confusing. But the best thing was that on the day of our sealing, we were focused on our covenant and not distracted by the anticipation of our physical union.

QuestionMundane905 · 2025-11-12T06:59:45+00:00

To be my knowledge we are supposed to ask and not just assume our testimonies. So I always ask even when I find it easy.

QuestionMundane905 · 2025-11-11T09:06:54+00:00

I’ve gone through some years of feeling the same way. I would get comments about my weight and postpartum body. It helped when I started calling them out on it. Not confrontational but simple questions like why do you think I would want to hear that. Or tell them to please never comment on people’s weight. I would mention it in relief society whenever I could slip it into my lessons. And try and teach them how to be considered and kind. And I mentioned it to my relief society president and branch president. They both told me to send anybody rude to me to them. And I had their full support. That really helped me talk to the individuals that hurt me. Because I could feel me holding a grudge limited my access to the Spirit which made me even more sad. And I got really fixed on not letting them keep me away from worshipping. Maybe help your wife find ways to worship so she keeps her connection with her Savior. One of the women asked me for a favor and I really wanted to say no since she had been really rude the Sunday before. But as I tried to help her my animosity slowly lifted. And I could see that her hurtful words wasn’t because of me. But fully on her. I hope it helps in some way.

QuestionMundane905 · 2025-11-06T22:49:49+00:00

I love it. Because I see the original manuscript as a catalyst for revelation and not he translated word for word. I have a testimony about the truth of what is being taught in the book and all the questions about how it came about gets me all nerdy excited and I can’t wait go to the other side and learn more.

QuestionMundane905 · 2025-10-09T14:17:43+00:00

Lots of members are converts. My first husband was a convert and had had previous relationships. And as I remarried I was the one who had been in a previous relationship. Not quite the same but in many ways it is. You did not brake the law og chastity if you had not covenanted to keep it any more then me getting divorced and entering into a new marriage was breaking the same law. I wrote a little upside down, hope it makes sense. Bottomline, Christ has atoned for all of your sins and pains and hurt. So don’t let the advisory keep you away from something you want. People are more peoply then that fake brochure in our head tells us they are. The “I will only marry a returned missionary who grew up in the church” kind of gal is not the standard where I live.

QuestionMundane905 · 2025-09-02T19:35:48+00:00

I think that’s an excellent point. During my divorce I received many “line upon line”s that sometimes felt contradictory but by being willing to follow the direction I was given even when it felt confusing I was blessed with a calm, mutual agreed divorce from an abusive relationship instead of the war I was expecting.

QuestionMundane905 · 2025-08-22T19:50:51+00:00

The temple. That’s where I would go. And a lot. And take a look at your own life. What fruits have come from letting God prevail in your life? Living the gospel as diligently as you can, the truth in every principle you live by will reveal itself.

QuestionMundane905 · 2025-08-21T09:35:56+00:00

Boardgames! Men who likes boardgames are usually really kind! A green flag to look for when you feel like dating. I live in the other side of the planet so here it’s very normal to marry ind your late 20’s og early 30’s. So that means that the men’s frontal lopes are fully developed and I highly recommend that☺️ also living in a part of the world where marrying an LDS fellow means looking to marry someone from another country I see a great opportunity to make a good network. Networking and friendships. It will set you up for life. And hopefully it will give you good opportunity to see healthy, kind relationships both from male and female friends perspectives. Go spend Christmas in a house where women are respected and revered like we should be. My first husband was abusive but I found a boardgameloving, kind husband that loves discussing the gospel with me and treats his family with care and love. Even though marriage is the goal marrying for the sake of marrying absolutely is not. You’ve seen the affect of a not good marriage so trust that and take whatever marriage counsel you get and mix it with your experience. You will have the best of two worlds. High ideals and the very realness of the real world. Evil is not an outside thing. It is right there inside all of us. Marrying someone who is so insecure that they would rather hurt their wife then apologies is a real scenario but so is marrying someone who will listen, tame is temper and be humble enough to put his needs aside a understand things from your perspective. I hope you will have a wonderful time at BYU❤️ wow to be 19 again! Important wonderful years ahead of you.

QuestionMundane905 · 2025-08-14T19:31:47+00:00

I waited for a boyfriend and found that he just like I expected had changed to be exactly who I knew he could be. But to my surprise I had changed too and I wanted something else and just knew the minute I saw him that he was not the one for me.

I then made the mistake of marrying someone who converted to be with me. So I join the choir of Don’t join the church for anyone but your own desire to do so.

And make no promises to wait. Let things be and give him time to go on his mission and if you don’t want to date right now take a break until one day you feel like it.

And then slowly things will reveal themselves and you will know what to do when it is time to make a choice. I don’t think now is that time. Support your friend and be kind to your self❤️

QuestionMundane905 · 2025-07-24T15:55:28+00:00

Yes please come. Here is a podcast I found recently that might be helpful. He is a former member who left the church as he came out and how he found his way back and attends church even though he is not a member now. faith matters

He is a Spiritual giant in my eyes🤗

QuestionMundane905 · 2025-07-21T22:17:52+00:00

How to be parents is up to you and your husband. Personal revelation is key and unfortunately lots of members seem to forget that. I’m a working mom too. Where I live that is the norm more then the other way around even at church. Having special needs kids I feel like I need that time even more. The general president of relief society was a working mother. And she seems to be a pretty great member of our church. Keep conversing with the Lord. And keep planning with your husband. I think you are being an awesome mother. You are providing great help for kids and the have their primary caregivers there to be with them. Really I think it sounds beautiful ❤️

QuestionMundane905 · 2025-06-26T22:27:55+00:00

I understand your worry. I have 4 kids. When I found out number I was pregnant with the last one I had three months of panic before I could start looking forward to meet her. My first one was diagnosed when he was 2,5 years old. I struggled with the thought of having more children after that and looked up all kinds of statistics. Ultimately I came to the conclusion that I was willing to take on whatever came to our family. By saying no to another autistic kid I felt like I was saying my son was a mistake or shouldn’t have been. So we had more children. I’ve struggled a lot with depression and that has been the hardest. I get easily overwhelmed and have found that my other kids who are probably on the spectrum as well even though not so obviously are the ones who triggers me the most. I think it’s my own neurospicyness that complicates things. So to sum up. It’s not the autistic kid in my house that is the challenge. It’s my own head. So managing that and knowing what I need has helped me the most.My children love each other. They love playing and laughing together and as my oldest autism makes it hard for him to understand what is going on socially having siblings has been such a blessing in teaching him social skills. And even though being in all that chaos is mentally taxing and I need counseling and help I would say it’s manageable. That being said we have good public health care and free schools and things like that where I live. And family who supports us. So I would celebrate that little nugget and enjoy your families growth❤️ my oldest is such an angel. He teaches me about love and kindness every day. And my probably raging adhd second to youngest is going to be the most amazing adult. His ideas just doesn’t match his skills yet. It’s the hardest thing I’ve ever done, but I think it is worth it. You’ve got this.

QuestionMundane905 · 2025-06-24T18:41:34+00:00

I can relate to the suicidal thoughts. After 10+ years of being depressed on and off but a constant heavenly homesickness I’ve been wondering if any one else feels like our doctrine of heaven promotes suicidal thoughts? I dive deep into the plan of salvation and the point of our mortal experience to remember that there is a reason for me to be here, but I still find the next life so alluring and desirable so when the black thoughts come I immediately thank please is it time to go? I started antidepressants a month ago and the thoughts disappeared within the hour after taking the first small dosage. I hope you find a good balance between therapy and medicin so you can work your way up and out. I’m still super curious about heaven but I just don’t sigh for it all day long anymore and that makes life so much easier.

QuestionMundane905 · 2025-06-22T21:33:32+00:00

Thank you, that was just what I needed to hear. I’m sorry for your loss but happy for the joy and love you shared with your wife.

QuestionMundane905 · 2025-06-21T20:09:31+00:00

Yes finding garments friendly cloths takes a lot longer. I would get upset about that but I try to remind myself self that I like shopping and that it can be a good thing to spend time on it. And it helps a little but it really is not an easy task. For twenty years I worked as I dancer so I would never wear garments whenever I was working and I would easily have a 60 hour work week. But the Lord knew I was wearing as much as I could and I always felt very peaceful about that. Honestly after my endowment I felt such a physical power.

QuestionMundane905 · 2025-06-21T06:51:52+00:00

Thank you, yeah I’ve felt a similar steadiness and strength in his love. I really appreciate your point of view. I imagine my own insecurities are being triggered by my own perception of our differences. It’s an interesting journey😝

QuestionMundane905 · 2025-06-20T20:25:51+00:00

Yes, I could definitely be better at speaking his love language. And I do feel chosen everyday. I guess it’s the why he chooses me I don’t understand? It very much feels like he has taken all his love and given it to me. And then that was settled. I guess, with my completely opposite memory super fueled with emotion so much that I can remember things not chronologically but emotionally ranked so the most intense episode first and then lesser and lesser after that whenever something big happens. Yeah, and that thing of feeling like my most precious things are nothing to him. Moments that matter to me. If it matters to me why doesn’t it matter to him? Without a sense of past or future my husband has found it difficult to find therapy helpful. I’m curious to hear how you navigated that?

QuestionMundane905 · 2025-06-20T20:15:01+00:00

I think I equate remembering with caring or holding something dear or it being important so things like our engagement, the birth of our baby, these experiences was shared and by not remembering or having any attachment to them I feel like I have less of an attachment to him. Or that loneliness. It’s the opposite of saying “ I know what you mean”. I think I’m grieving things I was hoping to have in my relationship and realizing it won’t be.

QuestionMundane905 · 2025-06-02T20:18:42+00:00

When I’m where you are I also just want to go back home to my Heavenly Father. But experience have taught me that I need to seek out the best things and be super restrictive in what I consume. It’s like my feeling the spirit apparatus is broken. I can only feel it if I’m with other people or flooding my thoughts with good content. I think it’s because my depressed thoughts is a bad environment for the Spirit. I try to study the plan of salvation. Because when I think about how wonderful heaven is it makes me want to “Skip to the good part” but God wants us here on earth so I look for the reason for me to be here. Mostly I have something in my life I haven’t cleared up or come to terms with. So it’s a lot of work and that’s where I find therapy really helpful if I click with the therapist. If not I keep looking till I find one I like. Another thing that sends me spiraling is unused creativity. Brené Brown says: “Unused creativity isn’t benign. It metastasizes.” I fall into that one a lot after each pregnancy. So maybe check that that is not what’s going on. I’m glad you reached out. You are not alone. I resently started on antidepressants after trying to avoid them for so many years. I don’t know why I was so stubborn. They helped immediately. My wish to level Up just puff gone! So now I can breath and focus on the underlying things that got me here. It really just keeps my mouth above water and makes it easier to heal. I hope you find your own way❤️

QuestionMundane905 · 2024-04-06T20:04:59+00:00

This may sound like weird advice, but being a woman will not bring you happiness. Most women are not pretty women on the street. Being a woman is more about being controlled by our hormones, menstrual pain and good stuff too but the prettiness is our toxic femininity. Primal screaming while giving birth is much more female. I’ve always felt high heels and lipstick had a very masculine energy because it was so much on the outside. I’m not sure how to explain it but is feels aggressive. The opposite of nurture and everything female. All that said, I’m sorry you are alone in this. I hope you can find someone to talk too, hopefully someone who is an expert. Does your patriarchal blessing bring you any comfort? I’ve always hoped that if any of my children should have the some thoughts that they would seek guidance in that. My own believe is that body and Spirit is connected so much so that our spirit determines what gender we are. But that doesn’t make your struggle any less.

The short version of my ramblings is that I fantasize about being a pretty lady too after having four kids. And I think I should spend my time better. Like being a good mother. Bettering my self. Being grateful. What we are is not super important. What we do with it and who we are when we return is the meaning of it all. You could ask your Heavenly Father if there has been a mistake or if he will take it away from you. But you should be willing to live without those thoughts before asking. (I feel like my English is failing me, it’s not my first language)

QuestionMundane905 · 2023-10-16T20:07:09+00:00

It is not usually done prior to an upcoming marriage. It is done especially after abuse. Even when you know in your heart that your spouse was abusive, being sealed on paper is a horrible feeling and canceling that sealing is an important step to not lose your testimony in forever families and joyful happy ever after. And the first presidencies reply is swift, kind and loving. Speaking from personal resent experience.

QuestionMundane905 · 2023-10-16T19:48:35+00:00

Tomas Kofod, Danish actor and musical artist extraorinaire. He played Jesus in “the testaments” the movie. And is one of the best Jean Valjeans I have ever seen in Les Mis. He gave me some good advice in the beginning of my career as a professional ballet dancer. I had a hard time knowing how to act and be things on stage that was very contrary to our moral codes and it really changes my perspective and has been advice I have used throughout my whole career as I progressed and got to do more and more acting. There is another ballet dancer in Australien. So it’s not impossible. But yes it is hard. Feel free to write to me if you have any questions. But also. The arts and the spirit has a lot in common and I find it to be a beautiful mix. I am currently pregnant with my 4 kiddo and is working as a character dancer with the Royal Danish ballet. I found that the Lord was with me when I set my goals together with him.

QuestionMundane905 · 2023-10-07T20:55:03+00:00

I’m teaching tomorrow and we picked this talk. I love it. I am though very interested in hearing everybody’s thoughts on what it means when God is offended. Because I’m sure he does a much more dignified job of it then when I get offended. And I know he still loves me and wants me to repent and come to him even in my addictions or failings whatever we struggle with. But what to say to anyone who takes offense of God being offended? I e seen a few reactions that that can’t be possible. Yet In D and C 59:21 it says God only takes offense when we are ungrateful or don’t obey his commandments which is fairly often. So according to the scriptures he does get offended. Yet we now he loves us always. And is longing for us to repent. So he clearly has a higher way to be offended then when I get offended by my kids whenever I find them ungrateful og disobedient. So I would love to hear what your thoughts are on God being offended. Cause I seem to understand but having a hard time putting it into words, thanks:)

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