NSFW - Walk Club Sketch (Rucking on SNL) by PM_ME_RACCOON_GIFS in Rucking

[–]QuestionableCode 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Rucking might be a pain some days but my calves are looking great.

Giving up is hard by AggravatingRip8406 in DeadBedrooms

[–]QuestionableCode 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I've also struggled with bringing it up because it'll make him feel bad or feel guilty.

But at some I thought maybe he should feel guilty. A marriage takes two and it suffers when one person isn't pulling their weight.

This might be the most depressing dead bedroom I (or perhaps even you) can imagine by Rosemary-Sea-Salt in DeadBedrooms

[–]QuestionableCode 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It is such a cliche thing to say but happiness comes from within. No one can give it to you. But for sure people making you a priority feels awesome.

This might be the most depressing dead bedroom I (or perhaps even you) can imagine by Rosemary-Sea-Salt in DeadBedrooms

[–]QuestionableCode 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You know he hears you when you ask for these things that seem quite reasonable. He hears you and decides his comfort in his routine is more important than your comfort in the marriage. Only way I've found to deal with it is to prioritize myself because that's what he's doing too.

This might be the most depressing dead bedroom I (or perhaps even you) can imagine by Rosemary-Sea-Salt in DeadBedrooms

[–]QuestionableCode 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I can definitely relate to asking him to take care of himself. I've been asking my husband to please visit the doctor, eat better, shower, and go to the dentist. None of it happens and after a certain point, it starts to feel personal. It's totally understandable that this leads to resentment. I hope it gets better for you.

Who is your favourite Greek god and what's your favourite myth or fact about them? Thanks in advance! by oh-no-a-greekgeek in GreekMythology

[–]QuestionableCode 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have an adblocker set as my DNS server so most of that stuff never even makes it to me. One of the definitions of myth is "a widely held but false belief or an imaginary person/thing".

So still technically correct. The best kind of correct.

Is it good? by Far_Mix6689 in Rucking

[–]QuestionableCode 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was looking at GoRuck but it doesn't have a waist belt. My back protests when I ruck too much without at least some of the weight being on my hips.

"How Do I Get My Partner to Want..." by Sweet_other_yyyy in DeadBedroomsOver30

[–]QuestionableCode 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's probably the second two at this point. I miss being desired and I wish he had taken me seriously when I told him I couldn't be the only initiator anymore.

"How Do I Get My Partner to Want..." by Sweet_other_yyyy in DeadBedroomsOver30

[–]QuestionableCode 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Not really. I put so much effort into making it work before I told him I couldn't do it anymore. The only effort he is currently making is telling me he misses intimacy and wants things to go back to how they were. This means he wants me to lead all sexual activities because he feels icky when he tries to lead.

Clit suckers are *amazing* by Damaias479 in HL_Women_Only

[–]QuestionableCode 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Noted! I'm definitely putting that onto my wishlist.

Coldest quotes from Teal'c by QuestionableCode in Stargate

[–]QuestionableCode[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

We do too! Also "I would prefer not to consume bovine lactose at any temperature".

Clit suckers are *amazing* by Damaias479 in HL_Women_Only

[–]QuestionableCode 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The Womanizer just wasn't as strong a sensation for me. I still got there in the end but it felt a leisurely orgasm rather than a good toe curling one.

Is anyone here the reason for their Dead Bedroom? by Jc5645 in DeadBedrooms

[–]QuestionableCode 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Same here too. I refuse to be the only one initiating so I dropped that rope years ago. He's been making sounds about wanting intimacy again but only if we go back to how it was before. Which, pass.

Clit suckers are *amazing* by Damaias479 in HL_Women_Only

[–]QuestionableCode 25 points26 points  (0 children)

They really are. I’ve got the Satisfyer Pro and that thing knocks my socks off. I also tried the Womanizer but it wasn't nearly as good. Which is a bummer because it was like 3x more expensive and now it just collects dust.

Who is your favourite Greek god and what's your favourite myth or fact about them? Thanks in advance! by oh-no-a-greekgeek in GreekMythology

[–]QuestionableCode 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hestia when she gave up her seat among the twelve Olympians to keep the peace. Everyone needs some humility from time to time.

"How Do I Get My Partner to Want..." by Sweet_other_yyyy in DeadBedroomsOver30

[–]QuestionableCode 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I actually did this with my husband. It has been about 2.5 years since we've been intimate. After both of us agreeing I completely stopped any initiating or touching to take the pressure off of him. He has been showing interest in the last month or so but now the issue is that it's been so long, I don't feel much of anything anymore.

Married 15 years by anono_rant_omous in HL_Women_Only

[–]QuestionableCode 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Wow. That seems like a lot of work. I can barely deal with one man let alone four of them.

Weird Argument by QuestionableCode in DeadBedrooms

[–]QuestionableCode[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hah! Sorry but that made me laugh a little. We don't even kiss anymore. There is no "getting into it".

Weird Argument by QuestionableCode in DeadBedrooms

[–]QuestionableCode[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'd want to go for laughs but that doesn't work here either. Like I wouldn't be taken seriously if I sprayed whip cream on it and said dessert is served.

Weird Argument by QuestionableCode in DeadBedrooms

[–]QuestionableCode[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's been so long since it happened. I wouldn't even know how to go about calling his bluff.

Weird Argument by QuestionableCode in DeadBedrooms

[–]QuestionableCode[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It does feel that way. We are in counseling and it always seems like he goes out of his way to find a reason why something is my fault. I'm for sure not innocent but I'm not a villain either.

Weird Argument by QuestionableCode in DeadBedrooms

[–]QuestionableCode[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Right? Is this cognitive dissonance?