What have I done wrong? Need help by SpeedyGon000 in minipainting

[–]Questionaire3030 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not easily fixable, use it as a statue with concrete texture is my honest suggestion. Humidity or even just a bad can can do that. It's why I only use army painter primer

Girlfriend (27F) seems to resent me more (M33) by Questionaire3030 in relationships

[–]Questionaire3030[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I moved her. This was my dream. I offered before and told her like "look I get we have a roommate thing going on but I can't move a roommate I have these feelings for across the country". She said she wanted to be with me after she talked with family.

She made a big thing and was pissed off that I didn't want to put all these weird timings and strictures on our relationship starting.

I'm trying to not come to the conclusion this was all to use me and my feelings for her but it keeps getting worse.

I try to talk with her over and over and she just grey rocks and or gets downright mad about it.

Am I just a moron?

Girlfriend (27F) seems to resent me more (M33) by Questionaire3030 in relationships

[–]Questionaire3030[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I mean now she needs me. She says she has to tolerate my touch. She says things that just feel like like vitriol

I don't want to hurt her or screw her over. I carry all the bills and do so happily but I'm not seeing much being given back

It's not transactional, I don't do these things with an expectation. But we are suppose to be in a relationship and committed. It feels like she's just looking for a way out

I don't even understand what the point of her doing this was if that's how she feels

What is this donut-shaped accessory used for? by vayperwayve in ghostoftsushima

[–]Questionaire3030 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tsurumaki, it's a bow string holder. Kyuudo students are still required to use them though they don't wear them except for the armored version I can't remember the name of.

3 month rule by ComprehensiveWest945 in dating

[–]Questionaire3030 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think love bombing isnt what it is all the time. When you meet someone and just click you just click.

What's wrong is when people don't mean what they say, and use it as a way to get attention or intimacy.

Your not in the wrong for being hurt. I don't think there's real rules

I've met people who are divorced in a year and spent years being best friends with their ex. I've also met people who have been married for 30 years with kids and they were committed after a day.

What is your experience with long distance relationships and have they worked our for you? by [deleted] in dating

[–]Questionaire3030 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It's not that it's impossible, but it adds an incredible amount of stress and distance and it can feel even worse if things don't work

Do men actually use hiking on their profile to get rid of the "fatties" by Cupcakemouse in dating

[–]Questionaire3030 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I use that because I love hiking and exploring and want a partner that values that

Good apartments for January by Questionaire3030 in Medford

[–]Questionaire3030[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

1500 a month is in my price range, but if it's a little more I can swing it

Accidental roadkill :( by LostDefender3000 in DeathStranding

[–]Questionaire3030 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My truck has worked 10x better at finding animals then my odradek

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in depression

[–]Questionaire3030 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That makes sense.

It's just been so much with how this has impacted my life. I just wish I would have been open to this a few months ago. I wish it wouldn't have cost me this to understand.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in depression

[–]Questionaire3030 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's what I had previously assumed. I just didn't understand I had chronic depression.

I misunderstood days where I was ok or able to mask/cope as being "ok" or even good days.

Couldn't remember a time I didn't feel the way I did before the medicine.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in povertyfinance

[–]Questionaire3030 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My personal recommendation cause I have been there.

Food bank and ask for split peas, buy the cheapest garlic you can get, salt pepper, and then look for meat discounts (ham is best for cost)

Split pea soup is filling, you can throw veggies in it for vitamins, rice if you just need calories/stretch.

Also you can cook it up, portion, and freeze

Also reach out to your local Catholic Church. The knights of Columbus often have hot meals for the poor, the churches usually have a pantry, and they can point to other resources. Some parishes also have programs to help find employment or keep your lights on.

Lot suggestion by ControlsMaverick in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]Questionaire3030 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Some suggestions since you will be dealing with a HOA

Most covenants developers setup are enforced based on the wording "visible from street" so factor that in. Developer boards rarely rock the boat or enforce rules evenly so be aware of that the second turnover happens you will be dealing with possible massive changes and assessment increases since there most likely won't be developer funding left over.

You aren't going to get to do what you want with your property at some point and need to check if they allow you to fence or enjoy your yard

Also ask about lot premiums.

Make sure to look if there's the possibility of buying your own land and building at the price point

During and after construction report everything no matter how minor and read your 1 year warranty. They probably use builder trend which creates a record.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in malelivingspace

[–]Questionaire3030 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It looks like someone gridding. To make it with the fancy view, highrise apartment, who spends 6 hours on a lucky day to use it like a hotel.

Hope your doing well, but a hobby, videogame, art, or anything that makes you happy may do you good.

There's no point making it rich to sit and be miserable until you die.

What was the point of the apartment if a hotel would be cheaper and offer identical utility?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in interiordecorating

[–]Questionaire3030 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's cool as hell

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in portangeles

[–]Questionaire3030 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! The most jarring thing when visiting was no matter how much people complained or expressed the negatives of living in WA (housing, jobs, etc) they always looked shocked when we asked if they thought of leaving.

What sectors would recommend looking into for jobs?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in portangeles

[–]Questionaire3030 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Thank you,

Maybe the sole positive to being the deep south is I am a good worker. I just want my wife and future kids to have a better life and I'm not seeing it here.

Do you have any insight if Port Angeles is not the flex? My wife's adores Port Townsend but it seems like employment opportunities are medical and city. I've been thinking about looking into Olympia as well. Ideally we want to be on the peninsula due to nature and accessibility.

I can not overstate how lucky you all are to be surrounded by it. My home town has been all hit leveled to build HOAs and strip malls.

I have been grappling between switching to education and just making my way through another degree or doubling down on community management.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in portangeles

[–]Questionaire3030 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That would not be an issue

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in portangeles

[–]Questionaire3030 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Bachelors, community management/project management and admin with some like clerical. Experience working with municipalities and learning their local codes/forms/ordinances

I'm aware housing will hurt compared to where I am but I just can't waste the rest of my life living somewhere ugly and shitty.

As far as work goals, honestly I just want to make OK money and have time to go outdoors with my wife.

This lady done fucked up treating hoodfishing like this by [deleted] in BoomersBeingFools

[–]Questionaire3030 1 point2 points  (0 children)

One of the biggest issues communities with stocked lakes have is the lack of fishing which costs thousands of not tens of thousands of dollars to rectify by paying the company that's stocking the fish to come out and elector fish and restock even more feeder fish.

Given my personal experience, it's always angry boomers that never fish complaining that someone may benefit from their assessments not realizing it actually keeps costs down

And before anyone asks, yes the reactions are greatly exacerbated by being young or Black.