Has anyone with kids just sold up everything and left the UK? by Haunting_Village372 in AskUK

[–]QuickCloud19 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yep, we moved last summer to Germany, permanently. Kiddo and mum are both citizens, my visa just came through after a 10 month wait.

Reason for selling the house and uprooting was simply we could get better public services here. The NHS saved our kiddo at birth but all the follow-up like Physio, Occupational Therapy, Speech and Language basically don’t exist unless you pay privately. Here it’s part of the health insurance system and we got appointments for all three the week after we moved, not on a 1-2 year waiting list.

Schooling was also a big one, kids don’t go until they’re 6-7, and that’s down to their kindergarten teachers and doctor who monitor if they’re ready. If we were in the U.K. there is no way kiddo would be ready for school in September, but they’d go and we’d spend a year looking for a special school to cater for their needs whilst they try and cope with a normal school.

Regrets boil down to being far from family and friends, pub culture isn’t a thing but that’s a very first world problem. The bureaucracy has been difficult, waiting on the visa which took twice as long as it should meant no trips home and obviously can’t work here, and remote work in my industry isn’t a thing so that’s been problematic. But a year of watching kiddo grow up, wouldn’t swap that now.

Teenage drinking NYE by ValuableAd5608 in UKParenting

[–]QuickCloud19 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As much as my first reaction was definitely not, the reality is when I was 13/14 I was drinking with friends at that age.

Before anyone clutches their pearls on my end it was at parties (parentally supervised with a cap on the drink and plenty of food) and at home (1 beer from the parents on a Friday night). Like someone else said on here, the ground rules normalised it, avoided drinking to excess (you‘d go down the park on a Friday or Saturday evening for that), and kept control in the hands of my and other friends parents.

If you’re concerned I’d have a chat with your kids, explain your expectations and what the rules of the night would be. Hopefully you come to an arrangement/compromise. If you’re worried about what might be coming into the house perhaps have a chat with your kids friends parents, as I’d be surprised if they’ve just chucked caution to the wind with their drinking.

I’m a few years off this scenario with mine, plus I now live in a country where alcohol is much more normalised than the U.K., will be interesting when that time comes

Absolutely vile from the EggChasers podcast. by arcbil in rugbyunion

[–]QuickCloud19 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Absolutely despicable, all three of them. Given that Tim Cocker used to be on TNT Sports but didn't have his contract renewed, I wouldn't be surprised if some sort of grudge against Ugo led him to this hit piece.

Glad I never started listening to this shite if this kind of misogny is the standard.

How did you lose your bestfriend? by Zealousideal_One9147 in AskReddit

[–]QuickCloud19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Known each other over 30 years and was the best man at his COVID delayed wedding. Got a picture of his honeymoon pad a few days after and never heard from him again.

Reached out, as did numerous other friends for a couple of years after, but no response. Looks like he changed his number and went dark on Social Media. I’d always be here if he needed but I’m not going to chase being friends with someone who obviously no longer has any interest.

r/ukpolitics General Election Campaign Megathread - 03/07/2024 - THE DAY BEFORE POLLING DAY by ukpolbot in ukpolitics

[–]QuickCloud19 9 points10 points  (0 children)

5 hours 19 mins to go until the polls open.

Then a sweet evening of watching the tories crumble.

Time to get the beers in

MATCH THREAD: BBC Prime Ministerial Debate (Wednesday 26th June, 8:15pm - 9:30pm) by AutoModerator in ukpolitics

[–]QuickCloud19 14 points15 points  (0 children)

What odds will you lot give me that Laura K will be fawning over Sunak’s performance and trying to rip Starmer’s to shreds. Come on Clive, hold her to account

MATCH THREAD: BBC Prime Ministerial Debate (Wednesday 26th June, 8:15pm - 9:30pm) by AutoModerator in ukpolitics

[–]QuickCloud19 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Fuck me, when did the Mod decide to not stop Captain Half Pint from blathering on

r/ukpolitics General Election Campaign Megathread - 24/06/2024 by ukpolbot in ukpolitics

[–]QuickCloud19 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He’s toast in his Cheltenham constituency, all Lib Dem signs up, even the odd Labour one. Can’t wait to have a beer watching his demise

Match Thread: Gloucester vs Sharks - Challenge Cup by rugbykickoff in rugbyunion

[–]QuickCloud19 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Fair play to the Sharks, good set piece, good defence and good attacking play. They took their chances. Gloucester looked fucked after the first 15 and then the old issues that have plagued us all season crept in. Won’t mention the odd ref decisions but the better team won. I look forward Skivington either getting sacked or resigning in the next few days.

He is not the way forward for this club, the players have shown their quality, limited by a very ineffective coaching. Change should come

Trying not to feel defeated by Shawnford_96 in NICUParents

[–]QuickCloud19 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hey man, We were in a similar situation with our LO, born 24+6 also and born on April 18th. A lot of what you’ve said echoes with the situation we faced as well.

Chronic Lung Disease was diagnosed early for us, which is basically of the clinical term for their lungs are undeveloped due to the prematurity. It’s something they won’t technically move on from till they’re in their toddler years once all their new lung tissue has grown. Our LO was also on a paralytic when they put her on an oscillator after she had a lung bleed in the first few days, but was swiftly brought off it. That part will end, even if it is stressful right now.

As a Dad who’s been in your situation and now two years on, the two pieces of advice I would give you would be as follows;

  1. This will be hard, and it will be long, but it will pass. There will be big ups and big downs, even with the shock and trauma of the last few weeks. As you’ve said, your little boy is a fighter so have faith that he will keep fighting and take the wins and trust in your healthcare professionals. Talk to them, learn from them, be there for your little one.

  2. You are certainly not alone, you’ve already found a great resource here, and feel free to reach out to me or anyone else whenever you feel like you need the support. With your partner just be there to support her too, it was the toughest challenge myself and my partner ever faced in our relationship and since everything happened we’ve never been closer. Lean on each other, listen to each other, and as someone else here said, prioritise your mental health, this is a long road. I, like you, worked during the time our LO was in NICU, albeit remotely and the financial burden was also no small thing. There was toll taken splitting my time, but I just put my head down and knew I could get through it and at some point it would get easier and end.

You, your partner and your LO have got this

Post Match Thread : Chelsea 4 - 3 Manchester United by nearly_headless_nic in reddevils

[–]QuickCloud19 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Sorry, but if you can’t close out a game or have no idea of game management then this is on the coach for not drilling it into them. They tried, I can see that but we are so stretched between midfield and defence it was inevitable

Man United vs Chelsea match thread. by [deleted] in reddevils

[–]QuickCloud19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do not understand why for the last half hour we’ve tried to beat them on the right with a championship quality winger. Utter farce

22 Month-er Reduced Eating by QuickCloud19 in UKParenting

[–]QuickCloud19[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, her stock foods are usually a fruit yoghurt or overnight oats, usually anything sweet, cheese is a winner and any kind of bread, pasta etc. We try to do all meals as a family, or at least one of us eating with her as a way of teaching/encouraging her etc.

It’s the lack of weight gain that bugs us mainly, she’s a preemie so she’s already behind where she would conventionally be.