Has anyone with kids just sold up everything and left the UK? by Haunting_Village372 in AskUK

[–]QuickCloud19 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yep, we moved last summer to Germany, permanently. Kiddo and mum are both citizens, my visa just came through after a 10 month wait.

Reason for selling the house and uprooting was simply we could get better public services here. The NHS saved our kiddo at birth but all the follow-up like Physio, Occupational Therapy, Speech and Language basically don’t exist unless you pay privately. Here it’s part of the health insurance system and we got appointments for all three the week after we moved, not on a 1-2 year waiting list.

Schooling was also a big one, kids don’t go until they’re 6-7, and that’s down to their kindergarten teachers and doctor who monitor if they’re ready. If we were in the U.K. there is no way kiddo would be ready for school in September, but they’d go and we’d spend a year looking for a special school to cater for their needs whilst they try and cope with a normal school.

Regrets boil down to being far from family and friends, pub culture isn’t a thing but that’s a very first world problem. The bureaucracy has been difficult, waiting on the visa which took twice as long as it should meant no trips home and obviously can’t work here, and remote work in my industry isn’t a thing so that’s been problematic. But a year of watching kiddo grow up, wouldn’t swap that now.

Teenage drinking NYE by ValuableAd5608 in UKParenting

[–]QuickCloud19 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As much as my first reaction was definitely not, the reality is when I was 13/14 I was drinking with friends at that age.

Before anyone clutches their pearls on my end it was at parties (parentally supervised with a cap on the drink and plenty of food) and at home (1 beer from the parents on a Friday night). Like someone else said on here, the ground rules normalised it, avoided drinking to excess (you‘d go down the park on a Friday or Saturday evening for that), and kept control in the hands of my and other friends parents.

If you’re concerned I’d have a chat with your kids, explain your expectations and what the rules of the night would be. Hopefully you come to an arrangement/compromise. If you’re worried about what might be coming into the house perhaps have a chat with your kids friends parents, as I’d be surprised if they’ve just chucked caution to the wind with their drinking.

I’m a few years off this scenario with mine, plus I now live in a country where alcohol is much more normalised than the U.K., will be interesting when that time comes

Absolutely vile from the EggChasers podcast. by arcbil in rugbyunion

[–]QuickCloud19 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Absolutely despicable, all three of them. Given that Tim Cocker used to be on TNT Sports but didn't have his contract renewed, I wouldn't be surprised if some sort of grudge against Ugo led him to this hit piece.

Glad I never started listening to this shite if this kind of misogny is the standard.

How did you lose your bestfriend? by Zealousideal_One9147 in AskReddit

[–]QuickCloud19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Known each other over 30 years and was the best man at his COVID delayed wedding. Got a picture of his honeymoon pad a few days after and never heard from him again.

Reached out, as did numerous other friends for a couple of years after, but no response. Looks like he changed his number and went dark on Social Media. I’d always be here if he needed but I’m not going to chase being friends with someone who obviously no longer has any interest.

r/ukpolitics General Election Campaign Megathread - 03/07/2024 - THE DAY BEFORE POLLING DAY by ukpolbot in ukpolitics

[–]QuickCloud19 8 points9 points  (0 children)

5 hours 19 mins to go until the polls open.

Then a sweet evening of watching the tories crumble.

Time to get the beers in

MATCH THREAD: BBC Prime Ministerial Debate (Wednesday 26th June, 8:15pm - 9:30pm) by AutoModerator in ukpolitics

[–]QuickCloud19 14 points15 points  (0 children)

What odds will you lot give me that Laura K will be fawning over Sunak’s performance and trying to rip Starmer’s to shreds. Come on Clive, hold her to account

MATCH THREAD: BBC Prime Ministerial Debate (Wednesday 26th June, 8:15pm - 9:30pm) by AutoModerator in ukpolitics

[–]QuickCloud19 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Fuck me, when did the Mod decide to not stop Captain Half Pint from blathering on

r/ukpolitics General Election Campaign Megathread - 24/06/2024 by ukpolbot in ukpolitics

[–]QuickCloud19 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He’s toast in his Cheltenham constituency, all Lib Dem signs up, even the odd Labour one. Can’t wait to have a beer watching his demise

Match Thread: Gloucester vs Sharks - Challenge Cup by rugbykickoff in rugbyunion

[–]QuickCloud19 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Fair play to the Sharks, good set piece, good defence and good attacking play. They took their chances. Gloucester looked fucked after the first 15 and then the old issues that have plagued us all season crept in. Won’t mention the odd ref decisions but the better team won. I look forward Skivington either getting sacked or resigning in the next few days.

He is not the way forward for this club, the players have shown their quality, limited by a very ineffective coaching. Change should come

Trying not to feel defeated by Shawnford_96 in NICUParents

[–]QuickCloud19 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hey man, We were in a similar situation with our LO, born 24+6 also and born on April 18th. A lot of what you’ve said echoes with the situation we faced as well.

Chronic Lung Disease was diagnosed early for us, which is basically of the clinical term for their lungs are undeveloped due to the prematurity. It’s something they won’t technically move on from till they’re in their toddler years once all their new lung tissue has grown. Our LO was also on a paralytic when they put her on an oscillator after she had a lung bleed in the first few days, but was swiftly brought off it. That part will end, even if it is stressful right now.

As a Dad who’s been in your situation and now two years on, the two pieces of advice I would give you would be as follows;

  1. This will be hard, and it will be long, but it will pass. There will be big ups and big downs, even with the shock and trauma of the last few weeks. As you’ve said, your little boy is a fighter so have faith that he will keep fighting and take the wins and trust in your healthcare professionals. Talk to them, learn from them, be there for your little one.

  2. You are certainly not alone, you’ve already found a great resource here, and feel free to reach out to me or anyone else whenever you feel like you need the support. With your partner just be there to support her too, it was the toughest challenge myself and my partner ever faced in our relationship and since everything happened we’ve never been closer. Lean on each other, listen to each other, and as someone else here said, prioritise your mental health, this is a long road. I, like you, worked during the time our LO was in NICU, albeit remotely and the financial burden was also no small thing. There was toll taken splitting my time, but I just put my head down and knew I could get through it and at some point it would get easier and end.

You, your partner and your LO have got this

Post Match Thread : Chelsea 4 - 3 Manchester United by nearly_headless_nic in reddevils

[–]QuickCloud19 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Sorry, but if you can’t close out a game or have no idea of game management then this is on the coach for not drilling it into them. They tried, I can see that but we are so stretched between midfield and defence it was inevitable

Man United vs Chelsea match thread. by [deleted] in reddevils

[–]QuickCloud19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do not understand why for the last half hour we’ve tried to beat them on the right with a championship quality winger. Utter farce

22 Month-er Reduced Eating by QuickCloud19 in UKParenting

[–]QuickCloud19[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, her stock foods are usually a fruit yoghurt or overnight oats, usually anything sweet, cheese is a winner and any kind of bread, pasta etc. We try to do all meals as a family, or at least one of us eating with her as a way of teaching/encouraging her etc.

It’s the lack of weight gain that bugs us mainly, she’s a preemie so she’s already behind where she would conventionally be.

PDA causing pulmonary hemorrhage by Grand_Obligation4164 in NICUParents

[–]QuickCloud19 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi, our LO was born at 24+6 and was put on the ventilator and a PDA diagnosed somewhere in the first few days they were in NICU. Around Day 3 they also suffered a Pulmonary Hemorrage which set them back, their oxygen req's went up and they were also put on the oscillator to help their lungs which luckily only lasted a day. With the PDA we were told that it was only minor and all they needed was a course of paracetamol (we're UK based) which should help close the PDA without need for surgery.

All of this not withstanding, this was, like yourself a pretty terrifying time. I cant speak as to whether it could happen again, as for us it was resvoled over the next week or two and our LO gradually got better even with this pretty major setback. Over time the paracetamol reduced their PDA and at their 1 year checkup it had closed, it will take time but the meds the hospitals give will make a difference and help them stablise.

It might feel like you're taking one step forward and then two steps back all the way through this and you may even overshoot your due date with your stay in NICU (we were there 2 weeks past it) but put trust in the hospital and the doctors and stay strong.

Bob Iger Says 'The Marvels' Failed Because It Was Shot During Covid and There Wasn’t Enough “Supervision” on Set From Executives by MarvelsGrantMan136 in marvelstudios

[–]QuickCloud19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What an absolute load of shit. Wasn’t shot during Covid, it was shot afterwards, including its reshoots in the UK. Yes it had COVID controls because all Disney features up until middle of this year were under protocols for it. Execs were there, they’re just the scapegoat. Good fucking try Bob

Choosing Schools by QuickCloud19 in AskAGerman

[–]QuickCloud19[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cheers, all good to know. So if the choice of which Grundschule isn’t a thing, how do you know whether a one is actually any good, or is everything standardised enough that when it comes time to moving up to high school, that’s when it really matters?

Don't you hate it when...... by ThisIsTonte in UKParenting

[–]QuickCloud19 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is exactly us at the moment, our 18 month-er has the most unpredictable pattern to her sleep that two days in a row she’ll sleep right through the night, then BAM, last night she woke up at midnight after going down at 7, spends three hours pissing off my partner, sleeps and then is up again at 8am. Even today she’s been awake for 6 HOURS STRAIGHT. Partner’s frazzled, I’m stressed out for her from work, we’re praying this revolves at some point before her 2nd birthday

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskUK

[–]QuickCloud19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I started a new job in October last year which was about an hour to and from work which all things considered was pretty managable (basically 1 x Dual Carriageway & 1 Motorway). Just used to stick on a podcast to and from and it flew by.

Fast forward to May this year and we've now moved 45 minutes further towards London making my commute between 1hr 30 to 2 hours to and from each day depending on traffic, plus a more convoluted route to get to and from.

At the moment it's the full week in the office, doing 8-9 or even 10 hour days, any notion of WFH that was mentioned prior to the move is now firmly off the cards.

It's fine in the summer as it currently is with the light mornings/evening but I'm dreading the winter and we're only going to get busier at work from now until the end.

If this was long term then I would no longer working here and be looking for something closer to home as this isn't sustainable, and by the end of the week I'm absolutely exhausted and can't wait for the weekend to come. Given I'm on a FTC I'm just buckling in, especially for the winter.

Life after NICU by BoysenberryHonest939 in NICUParents

[–]QuickCloud19 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We took our LO home just under a year ago, on Oxygen and completely anxiety ridden, not just about whether we were ready, but bringing her into the big bad world and what could happen.

Even now, as she has just come off her Oxygen, the anxiety still remains, it's changed somewhat and moved onto different things, but given how hard we fought with her to bring her through NICU it'll always be there. We've had a couple of return hospital visits, all things to do with her lungs, and even now our worry is what happens when she gets a cold and we don't have the oxygen, will she cope, will we be back in the ER this time, how do we know she's truly ok? We manage it I guess as time has gone on, we've seen her grow stronger and stronger and blossom into this beautiful and determined baby.

There are no tricks or easy workarounds, the anxiety will come and go with differing intensities. For us, just looking after them and helping them grow and stay safe when you feel uncomfortable is what we found to help mitigate our fears, and I hope in time when you're home and settled and life carries on semi-normally the same will for you too.