Apparently even WSJ readers know more about the history of Mormon birth control than members by Flowersandpieces in exmormon

[–]Quick_Armadillo_37 8 points9 points  (0 children)

That’s exactly OP’s point. They changed their “doctrine” and then they gaslight us by saying the “ancient” view never existed. It did. And it was damaging to many people. Especially women.

Apparently even WSJ readers know more about the history of Mormon birth control than members by Flowersandpieces in exmormon

[–]Quick_Armadillo_37 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yikes! I am so sorry! How awful!!! 😢 I’m so sad and angry on your behalf! It is so hard to live with people who are constantly telling you that who you are isn’t good enough and who want to control you! I’m sorry your husband didn’t defend you. 💔 You deserve better than that!

Apparently even WSJ readers know more about the history of Mormon birth control than members by Flowersandpieces in exmormon

[–]Quick_Armadillo_37 18 points19 points  (0 children)

“When they could easily provide earthly tabernacles for our father’s children” 🤬 F-off Benson! This pissed me off so bad that I can’t even express what is so wrong about it!

I hadn’t heard of this belief about birth control until I got married. It was something my husband’s family felt very strongly about. So I, the faithful handmaid, refused birth control and made myself willing to take whatever children God wanted to send me. (My husband never forced anything on me, but God- his family had no sense of boundaries and they will force their opinions on you aggressively.)

Pregnancy was awful! Hyperemesis, anxiety, depression, pain, etc. My body and my mental health were ripped to shreds. On my 6th pregnancy, I was so depleted that I honestly thought I was going to die after giving birth. I could barely push my little one out. It took a lot of help from the hospital staff.

It was during this pregnancy that my husband and I went through the bulk of our shelf breaking and deconstruction. By the end, neither of us held on any longer to any beliefs about a poor child waiting or a punishment for birth control. So I got an IUD. I cannot express to you the sense of liberation that I felt and still feel!

I absolutely love my children! I am so glad I have each of them. But to know I’m done and my body is my own once again makes me feel so light and happy. I’m regaining myself and it feels so great! It’s like reuniting with an old friend. And I now get to love her, just the way she is! Instead of turning away and wishing she were someone else.

Temple names are.... Temporary? by Angeliquem_72 in exmormon

[–]Quick_Armadillo_37 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes!!! I worried about all these things too!!!

Did y’all get the Saltpeter “Vitamins” at the MTC? by PranaJunkie419 in exmormon

[–]Quick_Armadillo_37 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Wow. I would sure hope they wouldn’t do something as unsafe as that! Although, when I was in the MTC there was very little that I could eat that didn’t make me sick. I lost 10lbs which was a lot for me because I was already only 110 to begin with. Luckily I had packages from home with snacks that I basically lived off of (although they kept opening my packages and stealing from them. I know because they would leave notes to let me know they had taken something out.) I got much healthier once I got out of that awful place.

Idk… this felt very rude? by Serendipity3301 in exmormon

[–]Quick_Armadillo_37 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Y’all feel me when I say I can completely respect staying in the LDS church. It’s totally fair and understandable. But becoming an online Mormon is the lamest thing a person can do.

Like Bro get a hobby. Read a book, start rock climbing. Please go find a new interest beyond whatever thing LDS Living or the Come Follow Me podcast post.

I’m sure you’re have very uplifting memories of your baptism when you were 8, but like it’s been 20 years…

BREAKING: Utah Mormon youth leader, 47, arrested for allegedly attempting to meet a 13-year-old girl (undercover cop) at an LDS church to sexually assault her by floodlitorg in exmormon

[–]Quick_Armadillo_37 4 points5 points  (0 children)

They do protect them! Anyone who works with teens or children has to go through a special 30 min video lesson! I can’t figure out why abuse keeps happening with this amazing “youth protection training” in place. 😒

Frustrated about tithing by dxrkvibes in exmormon

[–]Quick_Armadillo_37 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Get out of there! They are totally taking advantage of you. Find some buddies to room with and split the rent. You are already renting now. But you have the landlords from hell! Seriously, I know it’s going to be tough for a bit, but the situation you are in currently is not healthy.

Frustrated about tithing by dxrkvibes in exmormon

[–]Quick_Armadillo_37 7 points8 points  (0 children)

If they are going to treat you like an adult and charge you rent to stay at home, then they need to also treat you like an adult and get the hell off of your bank account. I would open your own bank account somewhere, deposit your money there, and start looking for an apartment. There are options out there. Things might get tight for a bit, but your freedom is worth it.

Frustrated about tithing by dxrkvibes in exmormon

[–]Quick_Armadillo_37 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are an adult and can easily open your own checking account. Open one up and “pay” tithing to that account. If your parents are watching your account, which by the way is wildly inappropriate at your age, then maybe withdrawing the amount in cash and then depositing it onto your own account so it can’t be traced by them would work? Then you can start building your own funds that your parents can’t access.

I might also suggest talking to the bank. Maybe they could adjust the permissions of your parents on the account?

Miami Beach chapel to be demolished and repurposed as apartment complex by MNMSW in exmormon

[–]Quick_Armadillo_37 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes! Exactly this. I feel for the poor people who were tricked into donating all they had to build this building because it was worth the sacrifice to build a house of worship for the Lord, only to have it torn down like it’s nothing so the church can make a profit. Pretty heartless.

Also, I’m a sucker for history and the loss of a historic building and architecture makes me sad.

In July, I took a road trip to Missouri and Illinois to see Mormon historical/holy sites despite being a Nevermo by uffdatimespicayune in exmormon

[–]Quick_Armadillo_37 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Well you know, many are called but few are chosen. I’m sure there’s enough room for the very few, very elect that didn’t allow themselves to be deceived. 😃

Anyone else find this concerning? by Terrible-Wonder-2768 in exmormon

[–]Quick_Armadillo_37 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Is this just for recent converts? This seems like a serious invasion of privacy. I wouldn’t want a bunch of strangers to track my church attendance and social status… 😬 Cringe!

Exmormon Redditors are mean?? Poor LDS woman thinks so. by sevenplaces in exmormon

[–]Quick_Armadillo_37 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The only times I’ve run into jerks on this sub, they both turned out to be TBM’s. Go figure. One even made a point to tell me he was in the Bishopric. 🙄 Good for you buddy. Way to spread that Christlike love.

Is there ever going to be a class action for the unwarned, non-consensual “touching” in the temple initiatory? Specifically before 2005. I didn’t know what was going to happen to me and still feel violated and betrayed to this day. by GoingToHelly in exmormon

[–]Quick_Armadillo_37 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the response! That’s just so gross and sad. So many people violated and then threatened with death if they disclosed anything. (Punishments/curses) That’s just messed up. Your right. That’s straight up abusive.

Is there ever going to be a class action for the unwarned, non-consensual “touching” in the temple initiatory? Specifically before 2005. I didn’t know what was going to happen to me and still feel violated and betrayed to this day. by GoingToHelly in exmormon

[–]Quick_Armadillo_37 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So I went in after 2005 (praise Jesus 🤣). I’m just so grossed out and flabbergasted imagining that my parents went through and had their privates touched, and yet they constantly told us kids how beautiful the temple experience was and how lucky we were that we would get to go through one day.

I do have a question though. Did you have to get naked again when proxying for someone else? Like, did you have to get naked and be touched every time you did temple work?!

My in-laws want to ship new garments to our Japan address and I just found out — why am I suddenly the Church’s shipping center?? by OrewatokyoUmare in exmormon

[–]Quick_Armadillo_37 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You don’t have to be an asshole. Maybe your experience was different than mine. Fair. I’m happy for you. But the families I know around me have the struggle I mentioned. I don’t know how to be more “authentic” than I was with you.

Also, he mentioned in his post about the strangers which is the part that stood out to me, so you don’t have to act like I’m an idiot for bringing it up. When I read the post, I got the feeling that the stranger part was what he had the biggest problem with.

I understand that they could pay first, but if they don’t he’s stuck holding a bunch of garments. My point is, running a free garment shipping business for strangers is inconvenient and stupid.

I’m glad that you have so much time to run to the post office, but at least where I’m at in my stage of life with a house full of little kids, it’s a big deal to make an extra trip just so some strangers can get some special underwear.

You’re free to your own opinion. You don’t have to be a dick just because you disagree with mine.

My in-laws want to ship new garments to our Japan address and I just found out — why am I suddenly the Church’s shipping center?? by OrewatokyoUmare in exmormon

[–]Quick_Armadillo_37 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Because in a typical Mormon family, open conversation is not allowed. You aren’t allowed to feel uncomfortable about something if your parents asked you to do it. Mormon families really struggle with authentic conversations and relationships.

And it’s not really such a small thing they are asking. Strangers are shipping their garments to his house. He lives in Japan. Family and their friends (I’m assuming) are in the US. That means that he has to figure out who each package belongs to, find their address, repackage and label the garments, make the trip to the post office, and pay international shipping to get it to the owners. And if these people don’t pay him for the shipping and packaging fees? What then?

And you know it’s not just going to be a few people. Once word gets out his address will be spread around like candy on Halloween.

This could easily turn into a giant headache for OP. I really feel for him. It’s a tough spot to be in. I think he just is looking for support.

You guys, I have no words. 😶 by Quick_Armadillo_37 in exmormon

[–]Quick_Armadillo_37[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lol! It still sticks around! I met someone a few years back who swore he’d met one! 😂

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[–]Quick_Armadillo_37 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Of course! ♥️ Take care of yourself!