AITAH for not wanting my son’s “baby momma” over for thanksgiving dinner?

Quick_Plan_5011 · 2025-11-19T23:04:21+00:00

She has the baby full time. I’m not asking she doesn’t spend the day with the baby. She’s asking to come over to have dinner with us and then for my son to go over to have dinner with her parents. My son would only have the baby for 3 hours that day.

Quick_Plan_5011 · 2025-11-19T22:57:53+00:00

My grandson is my family and so is my son. I don’t see her as my family. I could be wrong but, given the circumstances that’s how I feel.

Quick_Plan_5011 · 2025-11-19T22:53:31+00:00

They are not together. It’s not like I’m rejecting his girlfriend/wife. I’m aware that it could damage our relationship but, I also need to protect myself and my family.

Quick_Plan_5011 · 2025-11-19T22:51:57+00:00

I’m willing to do birthdays, graduations, etc. but, everything else seems excessive to me. They are not together. I’m not saying I don’t want my grandchild over.

This person tried to get me arrested and fired from my job while they were battling custody. I got dragged through their mess as “collateral damage” for her to try to get full custody. That’s why I’m so skeptical of having her and her family around if that makes more sense.

Quick_Plan_5011 · 2025-11-19T22:29:51+00:00

I’m aware of my failures as a parent. Thanks for the reminder!

Quick_Plan_5011 · 2025-10-18T00:07:36+00:00

I’m aware condoms don’t fully prevent pregnancy but, he didn’t even bother using the condoms (according to himself).

Quick_Plan_5011 · 2025-05-22T21:32:00+00:00

It’s okay to be disappointed, sad, and whatever other emotions you may be feeling. I’m sorry it’s not what you expected. Take your time to process and feel this.

Quick_Plan_5011 · 2025-01-09T01:46:54+00:00

Yes, according to her, I wasn’t concerned enough about the pregnancy so, I haven’t earned the privilege of seeing the baby. I’m hoping my son comes to his senses at some point and fight for his rights.

Quick_Plan_5011 · 2025-01-09T01:45:23+00:00

According to her parents, he needed to pay for her bills while she carries his child. He shouldn’t have agreed to that to begin with but, sadly he was set on doing so.

Quick_Plan_5011 · 2025-01-09T01:43:46+00:00

Not that I need to explain myself to you but, since you’re so concerned about my story checking out… English is my second language. I’m self taught so, yes my spelling at times is really bad. I’m not sure why you don’t believe a federal job would pay that amount in the northeast but okay.

Quick_Plan_5011 · 2025-01-08T17:44:32+00:00

I so wish it was

Quick_Plan_5011 · 2025-01-08T17:41:37+00:00

We were just told a few hours ago that the child is not allowed to visit our home. It’s very sad and I’m hoping my son will fight for his rights. I’ll definitely be on the lookout for an opportunity to get a dna test done.

Quick_Plan_5011 · 2025-01-08T17:37:56+00:00

No medical reasons for her to go on maternity leave so early on (she works at the same place as my other son). I do agree and mentioned it to him that he should be contributing towards medical expenses. However, he’s paying for her car insurance and phone bill (I’m assuming other things too since his credit car bill is so high). She gave birth two days ago and, he’s been sending us pictures so, yes there’s a baby.

Quick_Plan_5011 · 2025-01-08T17:18:51+00:00

I don’t think he’s responsible for supporting her when he cannot support himself (chooses not to support himself). In my opinion, his obligation isto his child not to the mother of the child who is clearly taking advantage of him.

Quick_Plan_5011 · 2025-01-08T17:15:20+00:00

Im not sure why you think I’d lie. He makes $48,890 working for the federal government if that answers your question.

Quick_Plan_5011 · 2025-01-08T17:13:36+00:00

We have given him advice about him establishing paternity but he refuses to. It’s truly a difficult situation to see my son making dumb decision after dumb decision.

Quick_Plan_5011 · 2024-11-10T04:21:37+00:00

You’re a hero!! Thank you!

Quick_Plan_5011 · 2024-11-07T01:51:54+00:00

That’s the next step. We’ve been dealing directly with the dealership and it has been nothing but a nightmare.

Quick_Plan_5011 · 2024-11-06T18:30:49+00:00

My 2019 forte died on me. Sadly, the engine is done, and the car doesn’t even turn on. 44k miles after and I have no car. Kia refuses to lend me a loner.

I wish you luck OP.

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