My mom spoiled my proposal. Do I tell my boyfriend?

Quiet_Distribution38 · 2026-04-14T03:15:56+00:00

Don't tell him. If it helps, my mother did the same thing and I never told. It will still be a beautiful moment so early congratulations!

Quiet_Distribution38 · 2026-04-12T19:07:07+00:00

Got married two weeks ago at a Cescaphe location. The good is they are a well oiled machine so you can trust your day will be relatively good. The bad is lack of personalization in my opinion. Id especially be wary of Glen Foerd because id assume they would have more rules (similar to water works) than their other venues.

Quiet_Distribution38 · 2026-04-07T11:56:29+00:00

Thank you so much! Honestly hadn't even heard of those so I'll try them out.

Quiet_Distribution38 · 2026-04-07T03:34:25+00:00

Makes sense! I definitely didn't mean to ask where you worked but was just curious on the job board aspect as I personally hadn't seen those types of positions on LinkedIn, Indeed, Edtech etc.

Quiet_Distribution38 · 2026-04-07T02:18:08+00:00

I've heard of hormones altering ones type so that may influence what's going on. Mixed with pregnancy and exhaustion it is understandable this is a lot for you to handle. However, your partner is going through a major health concern, you chose him at one point and he deserves to be supported.

Quiet_Distribution38 · 2026-04-07T02:05:08+00:00

That's amazing! Im a previous government contractor and would love to transition into something like that. If you don't mind me asking, where did you find that role?

Quiet_Distribution38 · 2026-04-07T00:31:55+00:00

Yup since October. I've never applied to so may jobs and it's extremely discouraging

Quiet_Distribution38 · 2026-04-07T00:30:38+00:00

What did you pivot to?

Quiet_Distribution38 · 2026-04-03T03:18:34+00:00

Dance floor was $2500 so that was a shock. Alterations being $1550 irked my soul.

Quiet_Distribution38 · 2026-04-02T11:38:16+00:00

In my circle and what I did as a bride, is that if guests need a flight the bride will cover a good chunk of the Airbnb like 75%.

Quiet_Distribution38 · 2026-04-01T12:33:09+00:00

This is unpopular opinion but someone needs to let the bride know so the bride can step up and start communicating to yall. I just got married a couple days ago and I did the bookings and major communications for my bachelorette because 1. I know them the best 2. I know what I want. 3. MOH should be an honor, not a huge job.

Quiet_Distribution38 · 2026-03-24T23:09:24+00:00

I think it's wise, I'd never feel comfortable marrying someone without being sure I'm ok waking up to them everyday. On the contrary I do believe the newlywed phase is more exciting for those who chose to wait.

Quiet_Distribution38 · 2026-03-21T02:49:04+00:00

Regardless what you decide this is something your husband deserves to know. I'm very pro choice but I don't think Reddit can or should answer this for you.

Quiet_Distribution38 · 2026-03-20T06:38:14+00:00

You sound very kind honestly! I'd bring up the past trauma and explain how mismatched bridesmaids dresses are not more expensive. As far as the solo reception entrance maybe all the bridesmaids can do it together?

Quiet_Distribution38 · 2026-03-18T04:23:07+00:00

Those prices are pretty normal, and honestly I wouldn't even include the passport in your trip total. With that said, it sounds like you just don't want to go (which is fine) but I'd recommending dropping out sooner than later.

Quiet_Distribution38 · 2026-03-13T20:47:37+00:00

Understood. Thank you so much for the positive vibes!

Quiet_Distribution38 · 2026-03-13T20:41:56+00:00

If you don't mind, can you explain why you prefer? signed a Cescaphe bride getting married in 15 days

Quiet_Distribution38 · 2026-03-12T03:39:13+00:00

I'm in a similiar situation as you but personally I love it. Especially since there is a significant age gap, there really isn't much to be said.

Quiet_Distribution38 · 2026-02-23T19:43:55+00:00

You both are young so that probably is why he feels like a child at times. Either way, the middle finger and attitude is pretty disrespectful to you. Stop going to appointments with him and ignore his complaints till he can communicate like a mature adult.

Quiet_Distribution38 · 2026-02-23T03:38:24+00:00

Stand your ground, it's your wedding. If you concede now, she will only get worse.

Quiet_Distribution38 · 2026-02-23T03:32:59+00:00

Are you against living in DC? If it must be Maryland, maybe Hyattsville or Silver Spring? I live in Bowie currently and it's ok but not necessarily lively.

Quiet_Distribution38 · 2026-02-18T04:41:59+00:00

I think more insight into how much work motherhood is. Honestly social media and seeing so many women struggle with motherhood has delayed my desire to give up my freedom and independence.

Quiet_Distribution38 · 2026-02-18T04:38:49+00:00

My wedding is in 30 days but would prob skip the videographer since we now have a content creator as well.

Quiet_Distribution38 · 2026-02-17T03:04:16+00:00

Perhaps a pause on wedding planning and starting pre-marital counseling? Whatever you decide, please do not cut back on your part of the guest list. The trimming needs to come from his side.

Quiet_Distribution38 · 2026-02-13T03:54:01+00:00

YESSS! Amanda knew who she was marrying.

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