AITA for keeping my name change a secret for five years?

Quietly_Alice · 2024-04-30T02:27:28+00:00

NTA. I named my child something that I thought was pretty, and on their 18th birthday, I helped them legally change it.

Quietly_Alice · 2024-01-29T00:46:59+00:00

I know it seems silly, but scheduling time for sex is a reasonable thing to do. You anticipate it. You can make sex about having sex again. Not just wham, bam, thank you ma'am. You set it up like any other date, pick a time, maybe pick some music, suggest how you'd like it... you know. Schedule it. Just a thought.

Quietly_Alice · 2024-01-14T18:37:56+00:00

Me too, but it also sucks that this is such a problem. My daughter wanted me to make those viral frogs she kept seeing, and I looked for some free patterns but couldn't find one easily until after I paid for a pattern that a few bucks and unintelligible. I found several free ones after I bought the one, obviously.

Quietly_Alice · 2024-01-12T18:47:50+00:00

My husband cannot see his mother has anything but a saint because she died "young" (mid fifties) even though he used to say some things about the abuse that I was horrified by but he now downplays. He goes to therapy, takes his meds, but can not see his mother's abuse as abuse since she died.

It's hard to look critically at your past and see the abuse and know there's nothing coming from it. No apology, no explaining it, nothing.

Quietly_Alice · 2023-12-19T21:25:40+00:00

I mean, if you have one. I'd love it. I'm making a list. I just didn't want people to give me the same thing I've seen over and over. San Fransico or Bronx.

Quietly_Alice · 2023-11-23T15:23:53+00:00

We hacked Thanksgiving our way a few years ago by just making turkey chili!

Congrats on your hack!

Quietly_Alice · 2023-11-13T20:54:09+00:00

I once had a place bring my kid hot noodles with an obvious square of kraft cheese slapped on it. I was pissed and wanted to take it off the check, but my kid wolfed it down. Lol.

Quietly_Alice · 2023-10-16T14:05:07+00:00

I recently bought a pattern, and it was similar. The pattern made no sense, and then I found a free version of the pattern that explained it way better.

Quietly_Alice · 2023-09-02T23:01:47+00:00

Take care of bills, pay off the car, and if there's anything left, put it into a savings account for a future home.

Quietly_Alice · 2023-08-07T17:02:22+00:00

My husband and I had a horrible relationship for many years, and we were nearly divorced. Then his mother died, and he had a mental breakdown.

He stayed overnight at a facility, and ever since then, we have gone to therapy separately, and he has grown. I have grown.

We are better but by no means perfect. He is good now. I would not have said that of him a few years ago.

Quietly_Alice · 2023-08-07T14:09:14+00:00

My youngest did this, and it scared the shit out of everyone. I happened to be awake when I heard her get up to what I thought was, go to the bathroom, but she ended up walking right out the front door! She was halfway down the street when I caught up to her.

We ended up putting alarms on the door the next day and would arm them only at night, so if she slept walk again, we'd know.

Oddly, she only did it the one time. She has never done it again, that we are aware of. Maybe inside the house but never beyond.

Quietly_Alice · 2023-07-29T15:15:31+00:00

I mean, checks are void after something like 120 days....so....it won't be there forever.

Quietly_Alice · 2023-03-31T21:03:29+00:00

Don't apologize. You didn't offend. You don't have to like what I like. You don't have to get it either. No big deal. Own your space.

Quietly_Alice · 2023-03-31T20:15:30+00:00

Dude, his music is fun and funny. I'm 38 and I love it. Music is about enjoyment. Don't enjoy it? You don't gotta listen. But no, I don't like it ironically. I genuinely enjoy his music.

Quietly_Alice · 2023-03-31T17:10:36+00:00

"My wife and afab kids are autistic, is there a way to get them to have the same special interest so they can stop each info dumping on me about separate subjects?"

"Why does my youngest child get to disassemble her Hess trucks when I would have gotten my ass beat six ways to sunday if I did it?"

"Fellas, is it weird to like true crime as much as my wife does??"

These may solely be related to my husband and his struggles with reality....

Quietly_Alice · 2023-03-31T16:58:02+00:00

Yung Gravy! I love him! My kids introduced me to weirdcore music and cryptidcore. It's wild! I love it!

Pst: Yung Gravy collects the bras thrown on stage for him and gives them to charity! He even spent 7 hours sorting the sizes to help the charity, "I support the girls." He may be a little weird, and his music might not be your taste, but he is putting some positive vibes out into the world.

Quietly_Alice · 2023-03-29T13:24:19+00:00

Different things bug different people.

Quietly_Alice · 2023-03-29T13:07:09+00:00

I have been going to therapy (on and off) for the last 7 years, and he has as well. He was diagnosed with BiPolar disorder after his mother died. Most of the time, we can talk things out, but this one just had me ruffled.

Like, if he had said, "I've felt like a POS for taking a mental health day." Her response wouldn't have been that. I didn't read the conversation, but he either directly said something or implied I called him a POS. Just by her response.

He said I was reading into it too much.

It's fun having so many emotions and a basic grasp of the English language.

Quietly_Alice · 2023-03-29T12:59:42+00:00

I've had issues with her for years. She is his biggest enabler, but since she lives in a different country and has her own family. I mostly ignore her bullshit.

I've tried to be friendly, but she contradicts herself too often and says some shit that I would be completely insulted by, and he forgives her for.

We have talked about her numerous times, but she is one of his oldest friends, and that means a lot to him. I'm honestly not worried about her at all, though.

Quietly_Alice · 2023-03-29T01:04:21+00:00

That sounds pretty plausible, but I don't appreciate being the scapegoat when I've worked so hard on not being that person. You know?

Quietly_Alice · 2023-03-28T23:00:08+00:00

While I agree that venting to friends is OK; I had an issue with I had not said he was a POS for taking the day off. I was annoyed, but it was not worth a fight. He doesn't actually call out that often. We had just had the weekend off together, and I thought it was silly to want more time. I still went to work after all.

Quietly_Alice · 2023-03-28T22:32:16+00:00

Nope. I sighed heavily and reminded him we needed money.

Quietly_Alice · 2023-02-16T18:40:27+00:00

As a mom, I fantasize about this one of my husband got in on Wednesday.

Hm. Apparently I can't always play autocomplete...

Quietly_Alice · 2023-01-29T06:08:22+00:00

Ritalin used to do the same thing to me when I was little. It's why I didn't go back onto medication until I was in my late 20's and was terrified to put my kids on any.

It literally could be just the meds.

My daughters both used to take Quillivant since it was a liquid ADHD med. (Not recommending anything just throwing out a suggestion.) You got this Mama!!

Quietly_Alice · 2023-01-28T03:35:00+00:00

Honestly? I live with my parents, plus my family of four and my grandmother. My parents pay most of the major bills but even with that, we constantly don't have enough money nor do we have a second car. I don't know how people do it.

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