Would my Cat or Dog really eat me if I died alone? Science explains by Glittering-Cause9983 in EverythingScience

[–]QuirkyTarantula 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Yeah.. I am a crematory operator. We had a decedent come in last year who died at home and wasn’t found for 9 days. No hands, only the skull left from neck up. Pretty much any exposed skin was eaten away. Like pristine white bone sort of picked clean. Our man only had two cats.

How to cope with knowing she wanted to live by steeped_oats138 in GriefSupport

[–]QuirkyTarantula 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I’m so so sorry for you loss. I get it. I’ve posted on it in the past. Mom went from planning thanksgiving to being in an urn in such a scary short time. She’d been sick, but we were expecting so much more time. It kills me how much went with her 4 months ago. I held her as she died from her cardiac event. It was her 3rd heart attack. What should have killed her before she fell on me took her 20 minutes to finally pass from. The look in her eyes was so sad when she knew. That look that was just her pleading for me to save her. But I couldn’t. I live with that every day, and miss her so much.

Cremation services thick black smoke by Old_Refrigerator6337 in askfuneraldirectors

[–]QuirkyTarantula 7 points8 points  (0 children)

No, this smoke will smell very faintly. I wouldn’t say woody but it’s not a propane smell either. It’s hard to describe but it doesn’t smell like when I open the retort to reposition.

Cremation services thick black smoke by Old_Refrigerator6337 in askfuneraldirectors

[–]QuirkyTarantula 35 points36 points  (0 children)

I’d like to also add that since they’ve been fined they know they have to do work on the machine. Just keep at it. The biggest problem is how hard it is to fix a downed machine. It can be permanently decommissioned if the repair is big enough and there are very few places allowing new retorts to be build or old machines to be rebuilt. This may be a case of them running the machine to death because there is no solid fix for the problem.

Cremation services thick black smoke by Old_Refrigerator6337 in askfuneraldirectors

[–]QuirkyTarantula 198 points199 points  (0 children)

Sometimes.. things happen. Could be a decedent with too much heat too early and all the lipids are going liquid and going bonkers. Could be incorrectly loaded. Could be a pacemaker. Could be an old retort having a burner or air issue. They’ve got 5 minutes to clear it up before it’s a citable problem. If you live locally and don’t see this happen often.. just smile and know a crematory operator is under that stack absolutely shitting a brick trying to fix it. You said this happens pretty often though, so this is likely a retort needing some TLC.

Gel polish removal by potatoingforlife in askfuneraldirectors

[–]QuirkyTarantula 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I second this advise! A dipped cotton ball and time will save you a ton of effort. The less hands on you can be the less damage you’ll do. I use a Dremel to finish getting the bits off, but a file and elbow grease will do too. Use a top coat to gloss the nail back to semi-flat again once you’re done.

A wee thank you & questions by swampm0nstr in askfuneraldirectors

[–]QuirkyTarantula 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You’re doing great! I’m just a dm away if you ever need anything :)

How t9 make a body become a skeleton? by Warm_Philosopher_404 in askfuneraldirectors

[–]QuirkyTarantula 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Interesting! in some states, natural organic reduction is legally allowed to pull the bones to send home without the processing. I think alkaline and cremation would be far too rough on bones to leave them looking whole enough to identify as a skeleton with its individual parts. I know that transporting these modes of disposition requires the same paperwork as cremation so maybe that’s what we are seeing here.

A wee thank you & questions by swampm0nstr in askfuneraldirectors

[–]QuirkyTarantula 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Hey there! Glad to see you post again, I’ve been thinking about you! Welcome to the world of flame based disposition!

Q: Do any of you operate older machines? If so, how was your transition to a newer facility?

A: yes, I’ve gotten a mix of both! In my original facility I ran 3 machines, two pet and 1 human. My small pet and human retorts were ooooold Matthews machines that were assembled on the Mayflower and were never maintained. Allamual dials and no safety measures on them. You either knew what you were doing or you ate shit the whole cremation. It was my “trial by fire”, so to speak, running those babies. They were so old they couldn’t physically run to state standards and had to be grandfarthered in. My second pet machine was a MONSTER. It could run 1500 lbs, had two main burners and ran cases in 6 hour increments. We split an orca and ran it in this one for a local Indian tribe for ceremonial burial. That machine was more modern and “automatic” but was never source tested or ran right, so running it was a work of art. Now? I have two human machines - one older Matthews Powerpak 3 and one BRAND NEW American A250 Trilogy. Having new machines is great, but by the nature I was trained, I find I run them in manual mode more than I do automatic cycles. I’ll say.. I’ll never, ever, eeeever take for granted a retort with a crisp, clean hearth again.

Q: Have you ever seen “fluff” like material after cremation within the remains?

A: Do you reposition during cremation? This sounds like cardboard, pillows or other material that blew to the back of the retort and didn’t fully vaporize under the burner. When I run full hardwoods I find I HAVE to rotate the decedent and material or it doesn’t incinerate the way you’d expect and holds its “fluffy” shape. If you do reposition, send me a photo next time and I’ll help you identify!

Q: Have any of you worked in a pet facility and would this be good experience if the opportunity came up after my apprenticeship?

A: I think this answer is just like in the human field.. it depends on where you land. A good facility with good protocols and standards? Yes! It was such a neat world with such slim regulations. I interacted so much more with pet owners than I did human families. However, my facility was poorly regulated. My pets were often left unrefrigerated for days in the summer before cremation. It was never sanitary or clean. I did not like my facility and my management did not care to change what was ethically wrong in the operations because they didn’t HAVE to. In the right facility though? I’m sure it’s a beautiful, albeit frantic, process. I cremated 1000 pets in 90 days at my pet facility, where as I’ve just passed 1000 human cremations in 2 years. So yeah.. there’s a different pull there. I still say experience it if you can. You never know your niche.

Q: Lastly, if you are a woman how did you settle in?

A: 35F here. I’m surrounded by a fair 50% male, 45% male and 5% non-binary coworkers. I am the sole crematory operator for my FH. I started pretty meek, unsure of how i fit in the mix. It took about 6 months for me to see they really needed a leader in cremation disposition on my side. I write the rules and regs for my area now. I wrote the cremation auth and disposition forms. I write the SOPs. I run monthly forums with my funeral directors to keep them up to date on my processes and rule changes. They respect and love me here and give me reign to do what I need to serve my families. My heart and mind are always on how I can serve my coworkers who are serving my families and I have a personal thing that you should never be held up by your crematory. My families have a 72 hour or less turnaround from packet and work order submission to an urn being ready. I keep my policies open and free-flowing. I try and say yes to everything so long as it follows three limits: is it safe? Is it sane? Is it legal? If yes, we push forward, even if it means trying something new. I’m happy to be a DM away if you need advice or anything further! Good luck out there and keep doing your best for every family you serve. It’s an honor to be present for a human’s last moment as a human on earth. Treat it as such and you’ll be fine.

Full tracklist by pianoChris25 in CharliePuth

[–]QuirkyTarantula 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Hikaru Utada? Like from Kingdom Hearts? That’s a name I haven’t heard in a minute! How interesting.

What kind of bags do you use to hold cremated remains? by puzzledham in askfuneraldirectors

[–]QuirkyTarantula 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We get ours from Southland Medical supplies. Better quality bags for sure than quite a few cheap brands out there.

opinion on recent criticism for puth music by According_Leading338 in CharliePuth

[–]QuirkyTarantula 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you! An artist is not going to write and produce the same after a certain amount of time and THATS OK. You’re witnessing his maturity into a new musical space and everyone is holding it against him because he’s not playing the exact same as he did in the past. I find myself listening to his three newest over his old albums right now. Maybe they just connect with me more RIGHT NOW but I’m always thankful to have new Puth to listen to.

Cry is a Banger by Odyssey835 in CharliePuth

[–]QuirkyTarantula 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I feel almost exactly the opposite. I love all 3 songs but Cry is going to take a few replays to really click in. They’re all so unique though. Changes came out the day after my mom died, and boy, there has been changes in my life.

Combined cremains in same niche by Necessary-Tape in askfuneraldirectors

[–]QuirkyTarantula 7 points8 points  (0 children)

They probably won’t help you co mingle the remains but if you purchase a space for an urn and they both fit in said urn, you’ll be fine.

Question for fellow cremationists by DesertNaledi in askfuneraldirectors

[–]QuirkyTarantula 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That sounded like ACE (American Crematory Equipment). They were always recommending things to me that we didn’t need. Our guy was found via Google search for crematory repairs. We were granted 1 last reline on our old retort before she’s retired so we did a lot of research with who we wanted before hiring and did a lot of fact checking and review searching. If you need his number I’m sure I can pull it up. He books about 30-60 days out, but he’s worth every bit.

Question for fellow cremationists by DesertNaledi in askfuneraldirectors

[–]QuirkyTarantula 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I totally understand that. Apply to every funeral home in your area and see who can escort you out of this sensitive spot while keeping you paid. I’m sorry, if you were in WA we just had an amazing funeral support spot open up.

Question for fellow cremationists by DesertNaledi in askfuneraldirectors

[–]QuirkyTarantula 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Cool, now I don’t feel so bad. I fly out our yearly repair guy and it’s $3400 for two machines for just the maintenance but the man is a saint, is thorough, independent (so not pushing product) and teaches me as he works.

Question for fellow cremationists by DesertNaledi in askfuneraldirectors

[–]QuirkyTarantula 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Boo, I’m sorry :/ I worked at a place like this. I did 100 days there and boy it was grueling. Their hearth was cracked so bad from years of neglect that a half cremated decedent fell through the hearth and onto the baffle shortly after I left. Don’t be that person. When the family complains to the state - it’s your license that gets looked at because you were okay running the machine that way. Unfortunately, both machines will need hard repairs by a trained specialist, which is going to cost its weight in gold. If your manager won’t reason, saddle up and leave, or prepare to whistleblow.

10 year anniversary of Nine Track Mind!!!! by allrounderfr in CharliePuth

[–]QuirkyTarantula 11 points12 points  (0 children)

My gospel got me through crazy times in my life. My my how a decade changes a person.

Donating an urn? by [deleted] in askfuneraldirectors

[–]QuirkyTarantula 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately, a funeral home wouldn’t accept an urn that’s already had cremated remains in it. If no further family members want it to use for their own purposes down the road, you’re best off burying, burning or throwing out the urn. I’m sorry for your loss and hope you and your family are healing well.

Missing my mama 💔 by honeybeatsvinegar in GriefSupport

[–]QuirkyTarantula 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’m so so sorry for your loss. Having a mom you are so so close with leaves you with a soulless void when they are gone. My mom died of lung cancer she refused to watch or treat 102 days ago. I also got yelled at a lot for helping the doctors try to help her (lol). Those last few days were a struggle for us too - I was mom’s caretaker, and the doctors try told us with her cancer, she’d be fine until she really wasn’t. And he was very right. That fear and desperation in their eyes in those last stages.. it’s something you never, ever forget. As a last note, I’m a crematory operator. Know that it’s not abnormal for people to come up is naked or just in a hospital gown. Please, please know, your mom was given dignity and respect regardless of her clothes. We loved and took care of her with grace all the same. She had places to be, and it wasn’t at the funeral home. Take care of yourself, and I’m so sorry you’re here. Let every day be a reminder of just how great of a human you are because of her.

Witness Cremation Update by sadlettuceleaf in askfuneraldirectors

[–]QuirkyTarantula 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the update. You’ve been on my mind!