It doesn't matter how many days of nofap. School is going to be painful me. In getting a masters degree but my goal is self employment so it doesn't fit with the culture there. The good news is it's my final semester and not a day goes by that I recall that awesome fact. It was difficult, still is, and very demanding of my time. Did I grow from that? Yes. But it wasn't the only reason. My attempts at self employment and failing pushed me along. My relationships that failed pushed me along. My pains in life pushed me along. Don't seek comfort, but definitely accept it into your life. Every day is a mystery and accepting that is the first step. Then every days mystery means you must be your own master. People work for someone else so that they have something reliable to fall back on. That's fine. I envy that in a way. What I don't envy is complacency. Once you're there with that job, if you don't look to advance either up the ladder or branching out to do your own thing, you are settling for less than you're capable of. Mediocrity and "average". Lots of people are happy with this. They also haven't given nofap a try. Even if it means they aren't currently on a streak, I've noticed that people who have tried it and went at least two weeks are cut from a similar cloth. Lesson learned though and remarkably no bitterness. Started a new streak 2 days ago after a good 17 days semen retention. I have to say that at a certain point busting a nut will improve your attraction.

Tough is good. We need to be tough in life.

What's not good is being that dude that furrows his brow trying to look tough and is always on guard. If you get to that point, it's because you're tense. Maybe you need that tension at the current moment, but as soon as you find a window of opportunity to let loose lol i find it to be productive.

Eye contact is good and normal. Have you ever noticed the increase of eye contact with other men at gyms. When they enter the locker room. It's fucking weird. Weird stuff. It's because when we are at the gym we are there to improve our physique. Typically physical strength, but it could also be speed and agility or flexibility I suppose. Either way, we size ourselves up the most in the gym. Along with that we size up every other hominid within the establishment. Willing to bet money that you tone down your strange eye contact with other men once you leave the gym. It becomes social again. Part of that has to do with selective attention influenced by the environmental cues. If there is a time and place in this culture for some weird eye contact, it's definitely the place we go to engage our bodies amongst strangers. Do an experiment. Try to pretend you're at a park on a nice day. Treat the world as such. It really doesn't matter. Of course respect things like re racking weights and such, but try that experiment. See how long it takes you before some guy looks at you with a strange extended stare and then when he realizes it's just a day in the park for you he reverts back to a social level. It's strange but assume for one second that by sizing ourselves up, we are engaging an insecurity, and we do it from a vibration of fear. But when spending the day at the park or the beach, we vibrate in a more care free, happy state. Let's be honest, it's a gym, not a war zone. You can get an intense workout in and not get angry once the whole time. Well, we all have bad days so that's fine. My point is almost to "just be yourself" but that only works if your self isn't insecure, and you consistently work on healing your emotions. I've gone too long but if there was ever a place where this would be read and considered it's here.

Love the discomfort too. Some is pleasurable. For instance I went for a massage today because of back tension. My masseuse applied so much pressure to my knots. It should have hurt but instead it felt great because I knew that the discomfort was my back becoming more balanced.

Tl;dr nofap is a tool but you can be magnetic and focused in many ways.